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I don't know if you'll find this helpful or not, IA-
I too am non-religious. I believe we're more than meat, if you take my meaning, but I don't believe in a man in the clouds with a plan for all 6 billion of us. I actually found it MORE comforting when my wife got sick with cancer and eventually died that it was just bad luck; a shit hand in life's card game than if it had been some all powerful being's choice. If it was a choice to take her from me, my rage would be endless. With accepting that it was bad luck, there's no anger. Sadness, of course, and sometimes the well of sadness is deep enough to drown in despair. I am not angry. I have learned to live with the sadness. I have good memories and bad. I am kinder than I was. I notice the little things. I find joy where I can, and I try not to dwell on the past. If I am less patient with anything, I am less patient with bullshit. Our priorities in modern life are all ****ed up. Here is a video for a song my wife wrote; you can't tell here, but she was deathy ill, and would be gone in 6 months. But the song is her looking at life and staring her own mortality in the face. I have found it comforting many times since she passed. Maybe it'll translate. |
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IA, i've avoided your thread for the longest because MY coping mechanism to avoid depression is to, well, avoid everything that would depress me.
But i wanted to chime in real quick as someone had mentioned that you have to fake joy. To that i say, good. Keep faking joy. Keep trying. Keep placing yourself in situations in which, at the very least, you have to fake it. Eventually you won't be faking it anymore. Depression snowballs and in my experience, the only way i've found to deal with it was to deny it and continiously place yourself in situations that incite happiness, and avoid everything that doesn't. Faking it is good imo, because at least you're fighting it. You've started the fight against it. Steadfast.
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IA,
I wish you all the best. Several years ago, the Army dealt with soldier resilience in a systematic way. As a Marine, I viscerally rebelled, but even so, a couple of their techniques helped a lot of folks. “Hunt the good stuff,” was 1 that I particularly saw help guys. You can google it. Just from your initial post, I see all kinds of good stuff. Btw, I think about different pals, their families and such that I’ve lost, every day. All the best for you and yours. |
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When the hard stuff hits it makes you really question the relevance and meaning of life. Things that usually bring you joy do not but the same could be said for bad things. It just seems the situation makes you numb in general. What makes me feel better is getting back to my roots and what and who are important in my life. I also need to keep busy.. My 2 cents. Good see you doing better.
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