Chiefs Where all the Night Owls at? - Page 5

eDave · 03-21-2015, 12:06 AM

You pussies in bed already?

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:08 AM

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Not exactly Springer. It gets better every time we reunite. Then it goes to shit again. It's like we need a few days apart to stay together. Or have the argument for the rush and the makeup (from her perspective).

Thing is, we know the problem. Just no solution.

You know the problem. Therefore you have the solution. Just to afraid to implement the solution(to use some of your IT vernacular here

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My analysis so far is, is that you both really love each other but trust is very HUGE for both of you and especially YOU. You both were deeply emotionally wounded previously and promised yourselves this ain't gonna happen again BUT Love always wins out. You meet each other and recognize the chemistry and feel very comfortable BUT immediately you guys go into this continuous "CAT and Mouse game that gets volatile in the beginning because both your hearts are still very tender BUT this Cat and Mouse game has never stopped. The Cat and Mouse game is the way you both protect your hearts from each other but at the same time this game is also played to make sure "your cherished one" is still around because you love each other. You both need to reassure yourselves that each is still there for each other and why you both have not committed to anyone else. It's the "Come here, go away, Come here, go away" which is very very frustrating BUT SAFE.

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:10 AM

Sometimes your are the Cat and she is the mouse and vice versa. Forgot to mention that.

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:15 AM

Is she histrionic in nature ? Likes drama in nature or just passionate when certain issues come up?

eDave · 03-21-2015, 02:16 AM

That's pretty heavy. And spot on, with the exception of trust. She, by far, trusts/trusted me less. But yes, I have a hard time trusting she actually feels as strongly as she does. That's weird to me. And my issue. She's beautiful. The kind of beauty that anyone here would agree too. She was a Hawaiian Tropic model and posed for Playboy for crying out loud. I'm just me. There's nothing special going on here.

I don't know about histrionic. Those all kind of overlap each other. I would lean more toward BPD. I looked into it. But then I start to wonder if it's me with BPD, and there's a solid case for that I suppose. It's wild and like nothing I've experienced before. Most likely an addiction.

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:21 AM

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But dang it, she will not let me go. It really blows my mind how much she loves me, which is a hangup of mine. And how she draws me back in.

This stands out for me. Explain.

eDave · 03-21-2015, 02:27 AM

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This stands out for me. Explain.

Why it blows my mind that she loves me so much? Two things come immediately to mind. When we argue, I see pure hatred in her eyes. Second, I've never had a woman want me so much. Too much.

As far as drawing me back in? I love her like I've never loved anyone. Deep, deep love. To the core.

After all the relationships I've had, she is it. Sans the insecurities.

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:34 AM

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That's pretty heavy. And spot on, with the exception of trust. She, by far, trusts/trusted me less. But yes, I have a hard time trusting she actually feels as strongly as she does. That's weird to me. And my issue. She's beautiful. The kind of beauty that anyone here would agree too. She was a Hawaiian Tropic model and posed for Playboy for crying out loud. I'm just me. There's nothing special going on here.

I would lean more toward BPD. I looked into it. But then I start to wonder if it's me with BPD, and there's a solid case for that I suppose. It's wild and like nothing I've experienced before. Most likely an addiction.

Well I was going to mention if you checked into about BPD for yourself but since you say your sleep patterns are pretty normal I would rule that out unless of course they are not. But if you have these manic highs that go on for days and then hit major depressive episodes for days at time and cycle these off and on then I would get it checked out. I asked about the histrionic for your ex i.e. to her style of relating not that she was a total drama queen but that could be too but I don't think so.

You have an ideal in your head that beautiful belongs with beautiful and your self=esteem reveals itself that your are not worthy of her and don't trust her that she would stay with you because as soon as you really committed to her that's when your worst nightmare might take place that she finds a guy that is far more handsome than you.

BTW I'm listening to the Blues while I'm listening to you. StevieRay, Albert King, Van Morrison = How appropriate uh ?

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:36 AM

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Originally Posted by eDave

She, by far, trusts/trusted me less.

This is confusing what do you mean here?

eDave · 03-21-2015, 02:44 AM

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Well I was going to mention if you checked into about BPD for yourself but since you say your sleep patterns are pretty normal I would rule that out unless of course they are not. But if you have these manic highs that go on for days and then hit major depressive episodes for days at time and cycle these off and on then I would get it checked out. I asked about the histrionic for your ex i.e. to her style of relating not that she was a total drama queen but that could be too but I don't think so.

You have an ideal in your head that beautiful belongs with beautiful and your self=esteem reveals itself that your are not worthy of her and don't trust her that she would stay with you because as soon as you really committed to her that's when your worst nightmare might take place that she finds a guy that is far more handsome than you.

BTW I'm listening to the Blues while I'm listening to you. StevieRay, Albert King, Van Morrison = How appropriate uh ?

I don't get too low. But I'm an excitable guy. I don't think it's that I don't feel good enough for her. I'm learning it quit the opposite. I dunno. Nothing has ever worked out.

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:45 AM

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Why it blows my mind that she loves me so much? Two things come immediately to mind. When we argue, I see pure hatred in her eyes. Second, I've never had a woman want me so much. Too much.

As far as drawing me back in? I love her like I've never loved anyone. Deep, deep love. To the core.

After all the relationships I've had, she is it. Sans the insecurities.

Pure hatred for you or the situation at hand ? Want you too much ? Explain.

Histrionic is now starting to fit in. I will give my gut in a minute about your girl because "hatred and too much" are major red flags IF my gut is right. But I could be way off as well. I will wait until you describe a fight in detail.

eDave · 03-21-2015, 02:45 AM

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This is confusing what do you mean here?

Passed tense. Current tense. It's much better.

**007** · 03-21-2015, 02:45 AM

This is the weirdest late night thread yet.

eDave · 03-21-2015, 02:47 AM

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This is the weirdest late night thread yet.

Shit.

Chiefshrink · 03-21-2015, 02:49 AM

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I dunno. Nothing has ever worked out.

Yes you do know. Has ever worked out with her or relationships prior to her or both ?

eDave · 03-21-2015, 02:52 AM

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Pure hatred for you or the situation at hand ? Want you too much ? Explain.

Histrionic is now starting to fit in. I will give my gut in a minute about your girl because "hatred and too much" are major red flags IF my gut is right. But I could be way off as well. I will wait until you describe a fight in detail.

Hatred towards me. No question.

Wanting me too much? She is unrelenting. She doesn't stalk. She keeps her distance when we are apart. She's pretty mature about those things. And then the hovering.

Love/hate

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eDave Banned Join Date: Jan 2013 Casino cash: $9998560	That's pretty heavy. And spot on, with the exception of trust. She, by far, trusts/trusted me less. But yes, I have a hard time trusting she actually feels as strongly as she does. That's weird to me. And my issue. She's beautiful. The kind of beauty that anyone here would agree too. She was a Hawaiian Tropic model and posed for Playboy for crying out loud. I'm just me. There's nothing special going on here. I don't know about histrionic. Those all kind of overlap each other. I would lean more toward BPD. I looked into it. But then I start to wonder if it's me with BPD, and there's a solid case for that I suppose. It's wild and like nothing I've experienced before. Most likely an addiction. Last edited by eDave; 03-21-2015 at 02:22 AM..
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