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rico · 01-18-2015, 03:27 PM

Semi-recently, I wrote someone an apology pm on an alternative message board about something that I wrote 4 years ago, that I now feel bad about for I was wrong for 1.) the way I went about writing it in such abrasive fashion and 2.) the opinion I had in the matter...my judgment/opinion was wrong. I didn't think so until now, but after thinking about it I retrospect and after viewing the wrestling match I ranted about... I was 100% dead wrong about the way the match was called and especially the way I called the situation out (publicly, disrespectfully, in it's own thread).

This guy (fan of the opposing school) wrote back and initially acted like he was not going accept my apology, for he began his response by ranting about how ignorant I was for posting what I did...basically restating what I did in the apology letter. However, he concluded with something along the lines of, "I do appreciate that you are willing to be a man and own up to your lack of judgment in that situation."

It got me thinking about how good, bad, consistent, inconsistent, etc. I am at admitting I am wrong. It took me 4 years to not only admit I was wrong about this situation, but to realize it. I don't think it was due to not WANTING to admit I was wrong or due to the fact that I never really personally liked the poster I was interacting with, but it just took me that long to realize I was wrong.

It made me wonder if I would have realized I was wrong sooner if I had a better opinion of the person I interacted with in that situation. It made me question my biases in regards to admitting being wrong...and how often or how heavily they come in to play in realizing you were wrong.

I also wondered why, after 4 years I felt obliged to write this guy a pm, admitting my mistake and lack of judgment... I mean, 4 years had passed...I'm assuming plenty of people who read it probably forgot about it...yet, I still felt the urge to acknowledge, after all these years, randomly and out of nowhere, that I was a total jackass.

I don't know...I'm having a tough time wrapping my head around this and was wondering if any of you have had similar situations. Do you guys admit you are wrong? If so, is it tough for you to do? Do you ever think you are wrong to begin with? Is it easier for you to admit to someone you respect that you were wrong opposed to someone you don't get along with? Is it difficult for you to admit publicly that you were wrong about something? If so, what makes it difficult? Is it an ego thing? Would any of you have went out of your way to apologize about something you wrote/said that was wrong, 4 years later or would you have just let it go?

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Chiefshrink · 01-19-2015, 12:16 AM

Has this thought and action recently come up or have you been thinking about this for the last 4yrs quite frequently ?

rico · 01-19-2015, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Chiefshrink

Has this thought and action recently come up or have you been thinking about this for the last 4yrs quite frequently ?

Just recently for the most part. Only crosses my mind if I read a result or if I see their crew...which generally only happens at state. I don't fret over it or anything.

So are you actually a shrink? I was in the same line of work immediately following college... worked as a Service Coordinator/Intensive Psychiatric Rehabilitation Practitioner for 5 years...went back to school to try to attain my Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner Degree...decided on a whim that I hated the field... quit mid semester and am now working at a mine/plant that makes wall board... Kind of a waste of degrees/education (BA in Psych, minor in Chemistry and Social Work), tons of nursing courses, tons of student loans. Ugh...maybe some day my education will actually benefit me if I get on in the lab, the office or in the QA/Product Rep department.

Too much of other people's trauma to deal with on a daily basis in the mental health field... it would take a very non-empathetic and/or resilient person to not allow that shit to affect you.

rico · 01-19-2015, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Saccopoo

No, no skank.

I missed my chance on Friday night when a bunch of us from work went out to see a band and our receptionist (who one of our other gals calls an R rated Disney Princess) started grabbing my ass and fell in front of me and pulled herself up by attaching her lips to my neck.

That was going to be a bad deal all the way around.

I'm just getting towards the end of my celibacy cycle. Don't know if I'm quite ready yet, but I'm getting there.

Thanks for the encouragement though.

I like your positivitiness.

Wow, sounds like you've got a chance to at least get to 2nd base with the receptionist chick. Good for you!!!

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rico ON CP YOU’RE SOMEBODY’S BITCH! Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Da SEI Casino cash: $4564809	How Do You Admit You Were Wrong? Or Do you Ever? Semi-recently, I wrote someone an apology pm on an alternative message board about something that I wrote 4 years ago, that I now feel bad about for I was wrong for 1.) the way I went about writing it in such abrasive fashion and 2.) the opinion I had in the matter...my judgment/opinion was wrong. I didn't think so until now, but after thinking about it I retrospect and after viewing the wrestling match I ranted about... I was 100% dead wrong about the way the match was called and especially the way I called the situation out (publicly, disrespectfully, in it's own thread). This guy (fan of the opposing school) wrote back and initially acted like he was not going accept my apology, for he began his response by ranting about how ignorant I was for posting what I did...basically restating what I did in the apology letter. However, he concluded with something along the lines of, "I do appreciate that you are willing to be a man and own up to your lack of judgment in that situation." It got me thinking about how good, bad, consistent, inconsistent, etc. I am at admitting I am wrong. It took me 4 years to not only admit I was wrong about this situation, but to realize it. I don't think it was due to not WANTING to admit I was wrong or due to the fact that I never really personally liked the poster I was interacting with, but it just took me that long to realize I was wrong. It made me wonder if I would have realized I was wrong sooner if I had a better opinion of the person I interacted with in that situation. It made me question my biases in regards to admitting being wrong...and how often or how heavily they come in to play in realizing you were wrong. I also wondered why, after 4 years I felt obliged to write this guy a pm, admitting my mistake and lack of judgment... I mean, 4 years had passed...I'm assuming plenty of people who read it probably forgot about it...yet, I still felt the urge to acknowledge, after all these years, randomly and out of nowhere, that I was a total jackass. I don't know...I'm having a tough time wrapping my head around this and was wondering if any of you have had similar situations. Do you guys admit you are wrong? If so, is it tough for you to do? Do you ever think you are wrong to begin with? Is it easier for you to admit to someone you respect that you were wrong opposed to someone you don't get along with? Is it difficult for you to admit publicly that you were wrong about something? If so, what makes it difficult? Is it an ego thing? Would any of you have went out of your way to apologize about something you wrote/said that was wrong, 4 years later or would you have just let it go? Discus.
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