Retirement Thread

[scho63]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

They called the shots. As an actor, my only job was to bring the emotion.

They had us sit on a couch that reminded me a lot of the couples scenes in When Harry Met Sally.

Think you'll get nominated for "Best Leading Actor in a Commercial"?

[Stewie]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

As a fun related anecdote, my wife and I were just interviewed for a documentary about retirement planning. No idea if we'll make the final cut or not, and we left thinking, "I hope they don't present us as fools or something."

We showed up assuming that it would be one guy with a camera making a youtube thing. Instead, we went through hair and makeup and had a wardrobe check, and when we went into the next room there was a 10+ member crew of light, sound, and camera people waiting for us. The producer was from another city flying in for this. Now I'm really curious what it's going to be. We were interviewed for about 20 minutes, so maybe we'll get a minute of air time when all is said and done. We got paid $200 for it.

Did the interviewer look anything like Borat?

[kepp]

We have one kid halfway through college and the other lined up right behind. We're looking forward to being empty nesters, but haven't figured out WHAT we want to do during that time, or in retirement.

I want to hear what CPers are doing, or planning to do, in retirement!

[Mr. Kotter]

Originally Posted by kepp

We have one kid halfway through college and the other lined up right behind. We're looking forward to being empty nesters, but haven't figured out WHAT we want to do during that time, or in retirement.

I want to hear what CPers are doing, or planning to do, in retirement!

My wife and I have both been “retired” for 3-4 years. We have mostly enjoyed it, and are pretty fortunate—but it is definitely an adjustment. This is our experience, though I suspect it is pretty representative. To be clear, we “retired” early because we had solid pensions and our previous jobs became less gratifying than in younger years, but we intended to continue working side-gigs, hobby jobs, but sought a less stressful lifestyle—where we could choose if, when, and where we worked.

We choose to continue to work at something, rather than FULL retirement, to maintain cash flow, increase disposable income for travel and “fun” stuff, and to avoid dipping into the investment principals—but also to satisfy our need for “purpose.” Investing new money wouldn’t hurt either if you can afford it, while maintaining your preferred lifestyle. Regarding travel, consider what you really want to do: international or domestic, flying and hotels, camping or glamping, or just taking the opportunity to visit family, friends, or places you didn’t have time for when you were working full-time. In retirement, do what you want, not what you think will impress your Facebook friends.

As for general advice, based on our experience: first, have a solid plan for paying the full premium for healthcare if you are accustomed to employee provided benefits. If you still have kids under 26 who you chose to cover—be prepared for sticker shock. Medicare won’t kick in until. 65, so it’s a hefty expense. Dental and vision coverage is usually extra too.

Pay off all credit card and other incidental debts prior to “retirement.” Get your car(s) paid off, and get to within at least 4-6 yrs of paying off the mortgage. That will ensure you aren’t working part-time or side gigs longer than you want into your late 60s or even 70s—unless it’s by choice. One expense we cut when our four kids left home was life insurance. If you have a reasonable nest egg and even a modest estate, disability coverage and long-term care coverage are likely more worthwhile depending on your circumstances.

Continue to pursue passions, travel responsibly, and indulge or at least discover a hobby—or better yet, do all three. Otherwise, our experience suggests retirement can be hard, even depressing. We know some who’ve retired—and basically quit at life. That’s a potential downward spiral that can be hard to reverse. Don’t fall into it. Binging Netflix, playing golf, wasting your day in DC on CP, and poker with the guys are fun for a few weeks, even months; unless they are a true passion even those types of things get old pretty quick.

Unless you are big introvert, socialize. Schedule, schedule, schedule. If you don’t schedule life, it can slip by you. Plan your week with friends, the gym, breakfast or lunch outings, volunteering, bible studies, book clubs, happy hour(s), and weekend special events. Don’t overdo it, but days, weeks, and years can simultaneously drag by, and fly by. Being retired is about choice—not doing nothing. Do what you like, love—and can afford. In our experience, doing nothing is a prescription for boredom and unhappiness.

My final thought is don’t expect to know what your retirement will look like early in the process. You may think you know, but don’t be surprised or discouraged if you end up changing course. Two kids found adulting these days challenging enough they came home to reset—we are glad to be there for them. I know a guy to retired to Kalispell, MT—and inexplicably seems to love his new life as an aspiring lumberjack. Another intended to “golf every day,” but mostly volunteers and mentors students in schools. Some think they will travel a lot, but find hotels and airports, or maintaining a RV to be too annoying to be worth it. For most I’ve known it’s a dynamic venture filled with twists and turns. Breathe, relax, and enjoy the journey. You’ve earned it.

[ptlyon]

Originally Posted by Mr. Kotter

My wife and I have both been “retired” for 3-4 years.

Thank God you no longer infiltrate students brains with your shitty ideals

[jdubya]

Originally Posted by Mr. Kotter

My wife and I have both been “retired” for 3-4 years. We have mostly enjoyed it, and are pretty fortunate—but it is definitely an adjustment. This is our experience, though I suspect it is pretty representative. To be clear, we “retired” early because we had solid pensions and our previous jobs became less gratifying than in younger years, but we intended to continue working side-gigs, hobby jobs, but sought a less stressful lifestyle—where we could choose if, when, and where we worked.

We choose to continue to work at something, rather than FULL retirement, to maintain cash flow, increase disposable income for travel and “fun” stuff, and to avoid dipping into the investment principals—but also to satisfy our need for “purpose.” Investing new money wouldn’t hurt either if you can afford it, while maintaining your preferred lifestyle. Regarding travel, consider what you really want to do: international or domestic, flying and hotels, camping or glamping, or just taking the opportunity to visit family, friends, or places you didn’t have time for when you were working full-time. In retirement, do what you want, not what you think will impress your Facebook friends.

As for general advice, based on our experience: first, have a solid plan for paying the full premium for healthcare if you are accustomed to employee provided benefits. If you still have kids under 26 who you chose to cover—be prepared for sticker shock. Medicare won’t kick in until. 65, so it’s a hefty expense. Dental and vision coverage is usually extra too.

Pay off all credit card and other incidental debts prior to “retirement.” Get your car(s) paid off, and get to within at least 4-6 yrs of paying off the mortgage. That will ensure you aren’t working part-time or side gigs longer than you want into your late 60s or even 70s—unless it’s by choice. One expense we cut when our four kids left home was life insurance. If you have a reasonable nest egg and even a modest estate, disability coverage and long-term care coverage are likely more worthwhile depending on your circumstances.

Continue to pursue passions, travel responsibly, and indulge or at least discover a hobby—or better yet, do all three. Otherwise, our experience suggests retirement can be hard, even depressing. We know some who’ve retired—and basically quit at life. That’s a potential downward spiral that can be hard to reverse. Don’t fall into it. Binging Netflix, playing golf, wasting your day in DC on CP, and poker with the guys are fun for a few weeks, even months; unless they are a true passion even those types of things get old pretty quick.

Unless you are big introvert, socialize. Schedule, schedule, schedule. If you don’t schedule life, it can slip by you. Plan your week with friends, the gym, breakfast or lunch outings, volunteering, bible studies, book clubs, happy hour(s), and weekend special events. Don’t overdo it, but days, weeks, and years can simultaneously drag by, and fly by. Being retired is about choice—not doing nothing. Do what you like, love—and can afford. In our experience, doing nothing is a prescription for boredom and unhappiness.

My final thought is don’t expect to know what your retirement will look like early in the process. You may think you know, but don’t be surprised or discouraged if you end up changing course. Two kids found adulting these days challenging enough they came home to reset—we are glad to be there for them. I know a guy to retired to Kalispell, MT—and inexplicably seems to love his new life as an aspiring lumberjack. Another intended to “golf every day,” but mostly volunteers and mentors students in schools. Some think they will travel a lot, but find hotels and airports, or maintaining a RV to be too annoying to be worth it. For most I’ve known it’s a dynamic venture filled with twists and turns. Breathe, relax, and enjoy the journey. You’ve earned it.

Lots of good advice here. Whats your experience in "long term" coverage? Does that include plans to help if and when "assisted living" is needed? Lost both my parents last year when they were both in assisted living. For both of them to share a 1 bedroom studio room, we were paying $12k or more each month.

[2bikemike]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

As a fun related anecdote, my wife and I were just interviewed for a documentary about retirement planning. No idea if we'll make the final cut or not, and we left thinking, "I hope they don't present us as fools or something."

We showed up assuming that it would be one guy with a camera making a youtube thing. Instead, we went through hair and makeup and had a wardrobe check, and when we went into the next room there was a 10+ member crew of light, sound, and camera people waiting for us. The producer was from another city flying in for this. Now I'm really curious what it's going to be. We were interviewed for about 20 minutes, so maybe we'll get a minute of air time when all is said and done. We got paid $200 for it.

Just prior to my retirement I was a project manager on a project that was a first of its kind that generated a ton of attention. I literally gave hundreds of tours and talks on the project to people from all over the world.

The media came out to tape interviews with me and 2 others. Once that little red light on the camera came on, my ears got hot, my face got flushed and I couldn't speak intelligently. They finally got the footage they wanted, but it was a torturous path.

[Sofa King]

How's your sex life at retirement?

[BWillie]

Originally Posted by Sofa King

How's your sex life at retirement?

I sure hope that is the age ppl stop doing it or nasty

[scho63]

Originally Posted by BWillie

I sure hope that is the age ppl stop doing it or nasty

Old people sex scares you. Not the first time you thought anyone over 50 should stop humping and screwing and doing the intercourse.

You are hiding a secret. Did you have to satisfy an older woman in your neighborhood and you have never recovered after seeing a giant hair bush of grey pubes up close and personal while licking that old beat up piece of roast beef.

[BWillie]

Originally Posted by scho63

Old people sex scares you. Not the first time you thought anyone over 50 should stop humping and screwing and doing the intercourse.

You are hiding a secret. Did you have to satisfy an older woman in your neighborhood and you have never recovered after seeing a giant hair bush of grey pubes up close and personal while licking that old beat up piece of roast beef.

My gigolo days coming back to haunt me

[Jewish Rabbi]

Originally Posted by scho63

Old people sex scares you. Not the first time you thought anyone over 50 should stop humping and screwing and doing the intercourse.

You are hiding a secret. Did you have to satisfy an older woman in your neighborhood and you have never recovered after seeing a giant hair bush of grey pubes up close and personal while licking that old beat up piece of roast beef.

What’s the oldest hooker you’ve ever bought

[scho63]

Originally Posted by Jewish Rabbi

What’s the oldest hooker you’ve ever bought

Oldest escort was about 32 and youngest about 19-20. I was in my late 40's to early 50's. My escort time existed in Northern Virginia for about a 3-4 year period between 2010-2014. The main agency I used called Classy Escorts was busted by the F.B.I. for money laundering of all things. Once they got busted I ceased dealing with escorts anymore as I felt I dodged a big legal bullet. Then I wound up dating that lunatic 14 year younger woman for 9 months that I documented here on CP.

When I was in my late teens to about 40, I dated older women almost exclusively. I had a 24 year old girlfriend at 18, my first real love when I was 24 was 3 1/2 years older, dated a 38 year old for nearly a year when I was 23, dated a hot sexy redhead from our golf course group who was 46 when I was 32. The last life of my was in New Jersey during 2005 and she was almost 5 years older than me.

[Sofa King]

Originally Posted by BWillie

I sure hope that is the age ppl stop doing it or nasty

Some of the highest rates of STD's in the nation come from nursing homes.

[BWillie]

Originally Posted by Sofa King

Some of the highest rates of STD's in the nation come from nursing homes.

Sluts jamming out to Elvis and giving big Ernie gummers