Misc How much "alone" time do you need? - Page 6

Stewie · 09-16-2014, 12:17 PM

Whether it is to get away from kids, significant others, work, hustle and bustle.

Do you need time to read a book, watch your favorite show/movie by yourself, or just be alone thinking your thoughts?

I bring this up just having watched Johnny Carson's life story. He was able to separate the person we saw on TV and turn 180 degrees for what he relished as a private person. That is, he needed "alone" time in big chunks.

ROYC75 · 09-16-2014, 10:30 PM

I'm loved so much I'm never alone!

**Buehler445** · 09-16-2014, 11:20 PM

I need some decompress time to shut my mind off. It doesn't have to be alone and it works better when it's not.

I spend a huge amount of the workday by myself most days. Some days aren't, but if wheels are rolling, odds are I'm by myself. But that time is far from relaxing. My mind is always going about the operation and what needs to be happening outside the that specific operation. When the clock is ticking it's incredibly stressful. Maybe I don't handle it well, but I think I do.

Accordingly, I need time to shut my mind down and not worry about logistics, timing or analyze decision criteria and profitability implications.

**ptlyon** · 09-17-2014, 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by ROYC75

I'm loved so much I'm never alone!

"I'm always talking to myself, I guess I'm never alone "

PunkinDrublic · 09-17-2014, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by BWillie

I'm introverted too, doesn't mean I don't want to hang out with people, but I just can't do it indefinitely. I need to have 2 days a week on my own to recharge. Alot of people I went to college with probably didn't really even know I was introverted because I just felt like I had to look like this social butterfly when I was younger. Now that I am adult, I really do not care what people think about me. I have my group of friends, people I respect, and that is all I need.

It used to bother me because I thought me looking forward to having some time to myself meant I had these anti social, loner type tendencies. Then after reading up a couple things about people who are introverted I realized it had nothing to do with your ability to be outgoing and social. It has more to do with that time alone being vital to helping me recharge and figure things out for myself. I've found that once I've had sufficient time away from others, I'm able to function a lot better around other people.

**lewdog** · 09-17-2014, 05:43 PM

My parents relationship and my relationship with my wife are very different as far as this question goes.

My parents do everything together. Same TV shows, same time doing work in the house, almost going to all the same social events. Very limited time apart and has been for their 35 years of marriage.

My wife and I are much different. I come home and we see each other a bit before dinner and one of us cooks. After that it's me to my man cave to watch baseball and her in the living room reading or TV. I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time. Glad my wife appreciates the same and doesn't hassle me for it.

eDave · 09-17-2014, 05:48 PM

I'm at a point in my life where I would be fine being alone, forever. I think.

I need a lot of alone time anyway, to unwind, smoke up, play some guitar, hit CP, etc, and that doesn't always work out with the ladies. Yes, I am an introvert. Fortunately, my current lady requires alone time as well. It's been a real plus for us.

But if we don't work out, I would relish the aloneness.

sedated · 09-17-2014, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by lewdog

I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time.

Seems logical, but I was practically an only child (closest sibling was 8 years older), my parents divorced when I was about 10 and my mom went to school at night until I was in college. I was always alone and now I cant stand it.

**lewdog** · 09-17-2014, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by sedated

Seems logical, but I was practically an only child (closest sibling was 8 years older), my parents divorced when I was about 10 and my mom went to school at night until I was in college. I was always alone and now I cant stand it.

I could also be the fact that I talk to people all day, every day at work. That gets tiresome on the old mind.

I wouldn't have liked being in an empty house at that age like you though. My parents were always home but being an only child and living outside of town, I usually played by myself all the time.

Aries Walker · 09-17-2014, 06:14 PM

But for two specific people, I could easily spend my entire life as a hermit.

eDave · 09-17-2014, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by lewdog

I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time. Glad my wife appreciates the same and doesn't hassle me for it.

As the 3rd child, I agree.

It's like a group session up in here.

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lewdog Mod Team Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Valley of the hot as **** Casino cash: $1921900	My parents relationship and my relationship with my wife are very different as far as this question goes. My parents do everything together. Same TV shows, same time doing work in the house, almost going to all the same social events. Very limited time apart and has been for their 35 years of marriage. My wife and I are much different. I come home and we see each other a bit before dinner and one of us cooks. After that it's me to my man cave to watch baseball and her in the living room reading or TV. I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time. Glad my wife appreciates the same and doesn't hassle me for it.
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