Life Should my bro leave his girl?

TripleThreat · 11:24 AM

Thanks for the answers bros. Just wanted some quick little feedback and got it. Thanks for that!

threebag · 12-06-2016, 01:48 AM

Has he given consideration to pimping her out?

**mdchiefsfan** · 12-06-2016, 01:53 AM

Asking for a friend?

TripleThreat · 12-06-2016, 01:55 AM

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Originally Posted by mdchiefsfan

Asking for a friend?

RobBlake · 12-06-2016, 01:59 AM

Leave her. It will do both of them *you* a favor. A child is best served by having parents following their passions and being happy themselves. People make the mistake of dropping everything for their child, which in many cases you don't need to drop everything, but you need to change the way you approach life. It's not healthy to not give maintenance to your own life. Your child will see this, even if you put on the facade everything is okay. You're only wasting time missing out on being with someone who gives you a bolt of energy to be better you, and the same to your significant other.

Otter · 12-06-2016, 02:08 AM

Maybe he's reached a time in life when it's a good idea to marry a porn star.

splatbass · 12-06-2016, 02:13 AM

Is this Dear Abby?

CoMoChief · 12-06-2016, 02:43 AM

The child is only 5yrs old?

Absolutely move on. More than likely said child hasn't formed any real childhood relationships, so she moves to another school in kindergarten? big deal that's not an issue.

The sad thing is, people get divorced all the time now. Assuming the gf is the child's mother - Why hasn't he married her by now? It's been at least 5yrs? If he hasn't done it by now, even with having a kid w/ her, then he never had intentions on marrying her, or staying with her.

You can't be married to someone and not truly love them and expect it to work.

And why would he only see his daughter once every weekend. If he's more financially stable it shouldn't be hard to get joint custody.

Custody always has the possibility of being negotiable down the road.

TripleThreat · 12-06-2016, 02:52 AM

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Originally Posted by CoMoChief

The child is only 5yrs old?

Absolutely move on.

The sad thing is, people get divorced all the time now. Assuming the gf is the child's mother - Why hasn't he married her by now? It's been 5yrs? If he hasn't done it by now, even with having a kid w/ her, then he never had intentions on marrying her, or staying with her.

And why would he only see his daughter once every weekend. If he's more financially stable it shouldn't be hard to get joint custody.

If they break up, she moves far away back home. Probably wouldn't even be every other weekend more like holidays aND every other summer

**mdchiefsfan** · 12-06-2016, 02:53 AM

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Originally Posted by RobBlake

Leave her. It will do both of them *you* a favor. A child is best served by having parents following their passions and being happy themselves. People make the mistake of dropping everything for their child, which in many cases you don't need to drop everything, but you need to change the way you approach life. It's not healthy to not give maintenance to your own life. Your child will see this, even if you put on the facade everything is okay. You're only wasting time missing out on being with someone who gives you a bolt of energy to be better you, and the same to your significant other.

Pretty sound answer here. If "your brother" and her can be adults about it, and approach resolution amicably, then you're both looking out for the welfare of the child far more than you would be by trying to cope with each other.

Advise your brother to keep that in perspective when/if discussions begin.

TripleThreat · 12-06-2016, 02:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RobBlake

Leave her. It will do both of them *you* a favor. A child is best served by having parents following their passions and being happy themselves. People make the mistake of dropping everything for their child, which in many cases you don't need to drop everything, but you need to change the way you approach life. It's not healthy to not give maintenance to your own life. Your child will see this, even if you put on the facade everything is okay. You're only wasting time missing out on being with someone who gives you a bolt of energy to be better you, and the same to your significant other.

Thanks for the response

**cabletech94** · 12-06-2016, 03:11 AM

12 posts in and im the first thats asking for pics?

i pity what has become of CP.

/good luck to your "brother".

kcxiv · 12-06-2016, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by TripleThreat

If they break up, she moves far away back home. Probably wouldn't even be every other weekend more like holidays aND every other summer

This part sucks, but in the end, the kid will eventually be able to tell. Kids arent as stupid as older people think! Another thing is the dude will end up despising the mother and the kid might have to suffer through bullshit.

Also, i dont know how it is where yall live, but a mother cannot take her kid and just simply flee the state. There are laws. He needs to check into them. I know my friend wanted to move to texas, but she cant, because the dad wont allow it.

kcxiv · 12-06-2016, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by cabletech94

12 posts in and im the first thats asking for pics?

i pity what has become of CP.

/good luck to your "brother".

except this isnt really a "pic's" thread.

Trench · 12-06-2016, 04:12 AM

Custody of the daughter isn't something to put off until later. Get joint custody now. Once she's left the state, you'll be basically screwed getting time with your daughter.

ETA: Speak with an attorney, forthwith.

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