Why I feel like I do about Fathers Day.

[Al Bundy]

I know most people here don't really care for me, and this is not intended to gain any sympathy. I was born in 1972, long before the government cared about deadbeat dads. My dad was abusive both mentally and physically with my mom. Forcing her to have me a month early. When she finally left him (when I was 3 months old) he followed her. She had a 1972 Monte Carlo that she bad bought with him, so he had a set of keys as well. Long story short, while she was in college to become a pharmacist, he broke in and took the keys and car in order to **** her real good. So, in the end she supported my sister and I with ZERO support from him. In 1999 we hired a PI to find him, he lived in New Mexico and had very little to nothing in his name. Everything he had was under his wife's name. In the meantime my mom worked 50 hour weeks on her feet to make sure I had what I needed as a kid and as a teenager, destroyed her back and is now retired and disabled.

Fast forward to last summer and I received a message on facebook from him under his wife's name stating that I wasn't his son because of me being born in February. My mom also received the same message. I was ****ing born early because of the stress and the abuse my mom suffered at the hands of that turd. I had grown up not caring/thinking about him but after that I became consumed with a hatred for him that I have never had for anyone else.

Now, I refuse to let that bother me anymore, I just needed to get it off my chest.

Happy Fathers Day to all the real dads out there.

[cdcox]

Take consolation that you have become a far better man than your father ever was. A real tribute to your mother.

[Rasputin]

Doesn't have to be him to celebrate or appreciate fathers day. Be a dad if you got kids and be the best dad you can be. That's what fathers day is or be a son/daughter that has someone you look up too to appreciate.

[Demonpenz]

Sorry to hear that. Did you have a paturnaty test done?

[mdchiefsfan]

Dude, I grew up listening to my father verbally abusing my mother on a daily basis for crap that had nothing to do with her.

I would ask for him to go out and play only to be let down; he'd lay on the sofa and bitch at us ( I have 3 brothers) if I made the floor creak above him. I genuinely feared 3 pm because that was when he got home from work.

Now that I have two step kids of my own, as a result of my step father, I know I would never do something like that to a child.

Did it hurt? Hell yes. But am I going to let it dictate my life? Hell no! There are shitbags everywhere. Be who you want to be, and I hope your father dies with a rusty cock up his ass!

[Rasputin]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

Sorry to hear that. Did you have a paturnaty test done?

[Bugeater]

My story isn't quite as bad, but similar in that my dad was a deadbeat and my mom deserves all the credit for who me and my brothers have become. So yeah, Father's Day isn't particularly special for me either.

[Al Bundy]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

Sorry to hear that. Did you have a paturnaty test done?

No, I really never wanted anything to do with him. My feeling is that he is nearing the end of his life and really doesn't want any money going to anyone but his current family. But, my mom nor I need any money from him.

[Demonpenz]

mine as well let him die, but if you don't know for sure if you are his son I would cut him a break.

[Hammock Parties]

My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet.

My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy. The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament.

[stevieray]

Not totally worthless, can be used as a bad example.

I encourage you' to try to find it in your heart to forgive him.

[BigRedChief]

Originally Posted by Al Bundy

I know most people here don't really care for me, and this is not intended to gain any sympathy. I was born in 1972, long before the government cared about deadbeat dads. My dad was abusive both mentally and physically with my mom. Forcing her to have me a month early. When she finally left him (when I was 3 months old) he followed her. She had a 1972 Monte Carlo that she bad bought with him, so he had a set of keys as well. Long story short, while she was in college to become a pharmacist, he broke in and took the keys and car in order to **** her real good. So, in the end she supported my sister and I with ZERO support from him. In 1999 we hired a PI to find him, he lived in New Mexico and had very little to nothing in his name. Everything he had was under his wife's name. In the meantime my mom worked 50 hour weeks on her feet to make sure I had what I needed as a kid and as a teenager, destroyed her back and is now retired and disabled.

Fast forward to last summer and I received a message on facebook from him under his wife's name stating that I wasn't his son because of me being born in February. My mom also received the same message. I was ****ing born early because of the stress and the abuse my mom suffered at the hands of that turd. I had grown up not caring/thinking about him but after that I became consumed with a hatred for him that I have never had for anyone else.

Now, I refuse to let that bother me anymore, I just needed to get it off my chest.

Happy Fathers Day to all the real dads out there.

I know the feeling.

My Dad drank a case of beer a day for as long as I can remember. Every single day. Christmas etc. He was verbally and physcially abusive. He told me twice in my life that I had did a good job with something. He was selfish and mean to my Mom. Thats just the short list that I learned on how NOT to be a Dad.

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by cdcox

Take consolation that you have become a far better man than your father ever was. A real tribute to your mother.

/thread.

People are shitty. Unfortunately sometimes they share your genetics. But don't let it get in your head. My sister and I are axiomatically different. I really feel you couldn't recombine genetic material and get 2 more different results. So just because he's family doesn't mean you owe him shit.

[TimBone]

Well, since everybody else is sharing, I'll share as well. My father walked out on my mom shortly after I was born. He refused to claim me, yet claimed my sister who was born a year earlier. My mother worked three jobs to take care of us alone until I was about five. Then she met the man who stepped in and raised us like we were his own. Normally, most kids whose dad walks out on them feel cheated in life, but I actually feel like I received a privilege that kids with both of their original parents living together don't receive. I got to see the bad, I know what a bad father is, because I had one that abandoned me. On the flip side, I also got to see the great. I saw a man step in to raise my sister and I, add two more children to our family, and legally adopt me at the age of 12. He has flaws like any other man, but he's given me an example to look up to, that I wouldn't have had otherwise.

I don't often think of my original father, and I had zero emotion when he passed a few years back. In fact a lot of times I have to be reminded that he ever existed. I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that I have a wonderful Dad that has given me much more than the original ever would have even if he had stuck around. My dad has punished me, given me the traditional father/son moments, and has given me good life lessons throughout my childhood/adult years. And he did all of that by choice, that makes it seem even more special.

[cabletech94]

anyone can be a father. but it take a MAN to be one. or something like that.

jeesus cripes!!! some of you guys have terrible stories, glad (most of you) have had great moms and have come out decent.


p.s. stop, chiefs: there's nothing quite like a shorn scrotum.

/dr evil