Why I won’t date hot women anymore

[Hammock Parties]

This is priceless. Some of the tweets have been savage.

http://nypost.com/2017/04/12/why-hot...-worth-dating/

When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.

“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair. “I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.”

He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.

“Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves,” he says. “Eventually, I was dreading getting dinner with them because they couldn’t carry a conversation.”

According to new research, Rochkind’s ideas about sexy bikini babes are correct. A multipart study from Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University researchers found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved in unstable relationships. In one part, the researchers looked at the top 20 actresses on IMDb and found that they tend to have rocky marriages. In another, women were asked to judge the attractiveness of 238 men based on their high school yearbook photos from 30 years ago. The men who were judged to be the best-looking had higher rates of divorce.

Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two are now happily engaged.

The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.

“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown. “Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.”

Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. Rochkind proposed to her last May in Central Park. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.

“[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says. “And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated.”

Carly has no qualms about how her future husband views her compared with his exes.

“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says. “Looks fade.”

Some great-looking people say they’re given a bad rap unfairly.

“When men see beautiful women, they are more concentrated on how she looks because they want to ‘have’ her, and so they don’t want to go deeper and get to know her,” says Isabell Giardini, a 22-year-old Italian beauty signed with Major Models. “And that’s why at the end of a date they wonder, ‘Oh that girl is so beautiful but so empty.’ That’s happened to me often.”

Others say the stereotypes about pretty people being shallow are true, even if they’re hotties themselves.

“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and the body of an Adonis. But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.

Rochkind is equally enthusiastic about his decision to give up high-maintenance hotties.

“There’s something to be said about sowing your wild oats and getting them out of your system,” says Rochkind, who will marry Carly in June at a “Tuscan-romantic” ceremony at the Wölffer Estate Vineyard in the Hamptons. But he doesn’t regret his past.

“You don’t want to be the first to leave the party, but you don’t want to leave the party too late either,” he says. “Carly came at exactly the right time.”

And now....THE TWEETS

"Beautiful women get full of themselves" says this guy who is totally not full of himself. pic.twitter.com/485RKwNZH4

— MatzohNoSheTwitnt (@OhNoSheTwitnt) April 13, 2017

COMING SOON: "Why I Dumped my Skinny Fat Piece of Shit Fiancé," by this woman pic.twitter.com/6PrdLW3KE4

— Mike Drucker (@MikeDrucker) April 13, 2017

@nypost "Balding guy with difficulty smiling for camera wanks himself to death after insurance company stops viagra script..."

— R👹DD👹V👹LBkLyN (@ReDDeViLNyC) April 13, 2017

@nypost Now he has to find women who will find his conversation bearable

— PhotoHand (@PhotoHand) April 13, 2017

[Abba-Dabba]

Originally Posted by BigCatDaddy

Thats messed up, man.

No, it isn't messed up.

What is messed up is equating paying a hooker for sex and thinking sex between adults in a committed relationship is the same.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Aren't you a forever alone, discuss?

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by RubberSponge

I have had my single friends try to say the same BS to me. There is a real reason why they are single. And they will never be honest about it. I bet my wife could answer it for them though. Quite frankly, their is quite a bit of difference between developing and maintaining a intimate relationship with a spouse than paying someone for sex. Namely loyalty. I don't have to worry about my wife just coming home from getting stuck by a dude an hour earlier. That is always comforting to know that I am first, everything in between, and last of the day.

Secondly, sex with a spouse is rarely just about busting a nut. That shit is just for kids. Intimacy in a relationship is nothing like you will ever receive from a hooker just looking for you to hurry up so she can go suck off the next guy.

But hey, if you like being up in something that was just violated from the guy an hour a head of you. More power to you. But please don't try to justify you frequenting hoes as the same as being in a married relationship. They do not have any of the same dynamics of a married relationship.

Got you on an awful short leash don't she H.I.?

[Abba-Dabba]

Originally Posted by vailpass

Got you on an awful short leash don't she H.I.?

Why would you think that? So I have to treat my wife like I paid cash for her pussy, to not be on a short leash? You treat your wife like a paid for pussy?

[BigCatDaddy]

Originally Posted by RubberSponge

No, it isn't messed up.

What is messed up is equating paying a hooker for sex and thinking sex between adults in a committed relationship is the same.

Do you both have a good cry afterwards?

[Easy 6]

While I've never paid for sex, I can kinda see both sides of this

On scho's side, I can see the thrill... he is an older, overweight guy (no offense, scho, just repeating what you've said) who, unless he is filthy rich, could never experience banging a primo looking woman otherwise. He gets to tap a youthfully supple, dime piece with no strings attached

I would equate it with one night stands I've had... she was fine, it was hot, but ultimately meant nothing

On the other side, such as Rubber Sponges post... he is absolutely right, there is an entirely different level of meaning and intimacy with a spouse or longtime gf that you simply cant have without the "love" factor

I was married to my ex for 12 years, and we'd dated for 3 before that... and you just cant reproduce that kind of intimacy or meaning overnight

[lewdog]

Wife wanted to get some takeout Chinese tonight. I forgot the Royals game started at 4 here.. Since she knew my game was on, she said she'd run and get the food so I didn't have to miss any of the game.

You don't get that from an escort!

[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by lewdog

Wife wanted to get some takeout Chinese tonight. I forgot the Royals game started at 4 here.. Since she knew my game was on, she said she'd run and get the food so I didn't have to miss any of the game.

You don't get that from an escort!

I'm pretty sure every escort in the world would pick up food for you at a $400/hr rate.

[lewdog]

Originally Posted by ASS11

I'm pretty sure every escort in the world would pick up food for you at a $400/hr rate.

Extra charge bro. They ain't ****ing around driving over there, getting it and driving back. That 30 minutes is gonna cost $200. Only person ok with paying that for Chinese takeout would be Scho.

[Bearcat]

Maybe it's like a one hour minimum, so after the 10 minutes of sex, it just makes sense to have her go on a food run.

[lewdog]

Originally Posted by Bearcat

Maybe it's like a one hour minimum, so after the 10 minutes of sex, it just makes sense to have her go on a food run.

Now honestly, that sounds pretty ****ing awesome.

[Abba-Dabba]

Originally Posted by Bearcat

Maybe it's like a one hour minimum, so after the 10 minutes of sex, it just makes sense to have her go on a food run.

She is more likely going to take your money and not return. You're just another John.

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by RubberSponge

She is more likely going to take your money and not return. You're just another John.

Well, you either let her go with 50 minutes left on the clock, because WTF would you her to hang out, and guarantee yourself no Chinese..... or, give her $20, which is nothing after just paying $400 for 10 minutes of sex, and maybe get Chinese.

Maybe there's a 10% chance she returns with Chinese, which means for every $4000 spent on sex, you've only spent another $200 on your dream of having a hooker deliver Chinese to you after sex.

Or better yet, ask about picking it up on the way for an extra $20.... you save the $20 if she says no, and it should still be warm after your 10 minutes of sex.

[lewdog]

Can we get confirmation of food deliver, Scho?

This might change my opinion on this. I bet these high paid escorts would slap a dude for asking her to get food. No ****ing way they would do it. It's beneath them (ironic I know).

[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by lewdog

Can we get confirmation of food deliver, Scho?

This might change my opinion on this. I bet these high paid escorts would slap a dude for asking her to get food. No ****ing way they would do it. It's beneath them (ironic I know).

30 mins getting food is 30 mins less they have to **** some guy they don't wanna ****