Life When a female friend stops talking to you... - Page 8

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:27 PM

This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be.

So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14.

The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well.

So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it.

Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it.

The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'.

Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day.

I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok.

So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him.

Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother.

I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me.

AMA

Skyy God · 04-30-2018, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

For 2 weeks

Pro tip: If you want to surreptitiously save nudie Snaps, use a backup phone/camera.

**The Franchise** · 04-30-2018, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

Well, I have a great wife that enjoyed that night quite a bit. And she knew about the Snap stuff and was fine with it. I don’t hide anything I do.

Then consider yourself lucky and go find a chick for you and your wife to share next time.

Kiimo · 04-30-2018, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Pablo

We use this one in our household for random slutty 18 year old friends.

How's furry life going?

Hey baby how about a spliffy and a yiffy

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 05:46 PM

You guys have made this entirely sexual. I just want to know what happened to my friend.

Skyy God · 04-30-2018, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Kiimosabi

One glass of wine and the top came off?

Man if you gave her a couple bottles of mad dog she'd be walking around the apartment with a jewel-bedazzled butt plug in.

Hypothetically speaking, I may know a friend’s gf that occasionally does that.

It’s, uh, hypothetically not terrible.

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:47 PM

Did most of this take place in Independence or in Raytown?

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by banecat

Did most of this take place in Independence or in Raytown?

No. Olathe.

Skyy God · 04-30-2018, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

You guys have made this entirely sexual. I just want to know what happened to my friend.

Right right right.gif

TwistedChief · 04-30-2018, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

I already have. Now I’m just curious if this is a thing that happens to people frequently. I don’t understand the mindset of being friends like a light switch.

Buddy, you got married early. Every guy on CP has been through this sort of hot-cold girl thing. It is totally par for the course. You weren't friends. You were both using each other.

You never knew her or where she was coming from as much as you'd like to imagine. You only knew the image she wanted to portray to you. This happens ALL the time.

Believe that the 'light switch' is far less about who you are as a person and far more about where she is in her life as an 18yr old.

This is why the age divide is often real -- because people are often coming at things from different perspectives at different stages of their lives.

rabblerouser · 04-30-2018, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by siberian khatru

Snapchatting with an 18-year-old girl. What could go wrong?

****, I'm not married and I even know the answer to that.

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

You guys have made this entirely sexual. I just want to know what happened to my friend.

Well in our defense we're guys, and this is the internet. And she wasn't your friend. Sorry man. She found a nice guy to use for her own outrageous attention needs. She may grow up eventually, but until then she won't have true friends

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by TwistedChief

Buddy, you got married early. Every guy on CP has been through this sort of hot-cold girl thing. It is totally par for the course. You weren't friends. You were both using each other.

You never knew her or where she was coming from as much as you'd like to imagine. You only knew the image she wanted to portray to you. This happens ALL the time.

Believe that the 'light switch' is far less about who you are as a person and far more about where she is in her life as an 18yr old.

This is why the age divide is often real -- because people are often coming at things from different perspectives at different stages of their lives.

You have good posts in this thread. Thanks.

rabblerouser · 04-30-2018, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

You guys have made this entirely sexual. I just want to know what happened to my friend.

She's an 18 year old girl who wanted to bang you.

You didn't **** her and start a bunch of drama, she got bored and now she's with a guy who has either captured her attention or is insanely jealous of any dude she interacts with - either way, who gives a ****?

Go spend some time with your wife.

FFS.

dj56dt58 · 04-30-2018, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

You guys have made this entirely sexual. I just want to know what happened to my friend.

Friend? She was never just a friend. The sooner you realize that and I think u already do..the better. She has a boyfriend now that’s what happened

Jewish Rabbi · 04-30-2018, 05:51 PM

Here’s what you need to do if you want to get her back. Go find her and her boyfriend. Strap her into a chair. Then make her watch you **** the shit out of her boyfriend.

04-30-2018, 04:27 PM
KCrockaholic Sarcasm Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Olathe Casino cash: $4552900	When a female friend stops talking to you... This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be. So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14. The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well. So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it. Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it. The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'. Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day. I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok. So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him. Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother. I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me. AMA
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KCrockaholic Sarcasm Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Olathe Casino cash: $4552900	You guys have made this entirely sexual. I just want to know what happened to my friend.
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Jewish Rabbi What's up braj? Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Placencia, Belize Casino cash: $1628320	Here’s what you need to do if you want to get her back. Go find her and her boyfriend. Strap her into a chair. Then make her watch you **** the shit out of her boyfriend.
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