Life When a female friend stops talking to you... - Page 7

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:27 PM

This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be.

So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14.

The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well.

So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it.

Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it.

The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'.

Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day.

I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok.

So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him.

Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother.

I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me.

AMA

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Kiimosabi

See you already knew what arena the whole relationship was in.

You wouldn't have to tell a platonic friend to not send you nudes.

Pics can't come close to the live show that he got after responsibly giving alcohol to a minor

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by banecat

Pics can't come close to the live show that he got after responsibly giving alcohol to a minor

Oh it was like 1 glass, and she wasn’t going anywhere anyways.

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

For 2 weeks

Yeah, you were playing with fire. You'll pay by the confusion that you're dealing with now. Learn from it and move on

Kiimo · 04-30-2018, 05:39 PM

One glass of wine and the top came off?

Man if you gave her a couple bottles of mad dog she'd be walking around the apartment with a jewel-bedazzled butt plug in.

Pablo · 04-30-2018, 05:39 PM

Is love worth losing your best friend??

TwistedChief · 04-30-2018, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

I told her the 2nd day on Snapchat “Whatever you do, don’t send me nudes.”

All this time I thought you might actually be Snoop Dogg wearing a Priest Holmes jersey, but now... I feel like I've lost my North Star...

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by banecat

Yeah, you were playing with fire. You'll pay by the confusion that you're dealing with now. Learn from it and move on

I already have. Now I’m just curious if this is a thing that happens to people frequently. I don’t understand the mindset of being friends like a light switch.

Mr_Tomahawk · 04-30-2018, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by C3HIEF3S

Bruh

/thread

Boise_Chief · 04-30-2018, 05:41 PM

Jewel-bedazzled butt plug is the name of my new band

**The Franchise** · 04-30-2018, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

I already have. Now I’m just curious if this is a thing that happens to people frequently. I don’t understand the mindset of being friends like a light switch.

Most married guys don't have 18 year old chicks come over, party and take their tops off....and then end with their wives being ok with said 18 year old girl sending snap pics every morning.

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

Oh it was like 1 glass, and she wasn’t going anywhere anyways.

It's just too risky anymore. I have two DUI's. Another and I'm a felon. Just isn't worth the risk. Plus just give them Benedryl. It knocks them out, ya can do what you want after that, and then they wake up and you tell them that they drank too much and call them a whore as you get an Uber for them

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Boise_Chief

Jewel-bedazzled butt plug is the name of my new band

Mine's Butt Hole Love

Pablo · 04-30-2018, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Kiimosabi

One glass of wine and the top came off?

Man if you gave her a couple bottles of mad dog she'd be walking around the apartment with a jewel-bedazzled butt plug in.

We use this one in our household for random slutty 18 year old friends.

banecat · 04-30-2018, 05:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

I already have. Now I’m just curious if this is a thing that happens to people frequently. I don’t understand the mindset of being friends like a light switch.

Learn compartmentalization or start drinking. Or both

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Pestilence

Most married guys don't have 18 year old chicks come over, party and take their tops off....and then end with their wives being ok with said 18 year old girl sending snap pics every morning.

Well, I have a great wife that enjoyed that night quite a bit. And she knew about the Snap stuff and was fine with it. I don’t hide anything I do.

04-30-2018, 04:27 PM
KCrockaholic Sarcasm Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Olathe Casino cash: $4552900	When a female friend stops talking to you... This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be. So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14. The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well. So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it. Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it. The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'. Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day. I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok. So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him. Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother. I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me. AMA
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