Life Feeling Down Today - Page 4

Chiefspants · 01:09 PM

It looks as though I'm on the verge of falling out with a close irl edit*(in real life) friend that I have had for 7 years. I can't really go into specifics, but mixing work with friendship (even when it happens naturally) is a difficult balance.

I'm pretty down about it. Does anyone have experience with this type of thing and want to share? I could truly use some perspective here.

Also feel free to use this thread to post gifs or anything funny - or not, it could also be a roast of all things Chiefspants.

inb4 - "Chiefspants has irl friends?!", "Who is Chiefspants?" and "A concoction of antifreeze will ease the pain."

Thanks, everybody.

Rasputin · 01-28-2017, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Buehler445

She's psycho.

Ok but I'd still piihb if it help because we are pals and all. What are friends for?

**bevischief** · 01-28-2017, 11:02 AM

Life moves on and the sun will rise and set tomorrow. The Chiefs are stuck with Smith for another year at least...

**wazu** · 01-28-2017, 11:04 AM

Had a severe falling out with a friend years back over a failed business venture that we had both risked much on. The devastation over the failed attempt was magnified by the loss of several friends. I tried to hold onto the friendships. We are still "Facebook" friends, but the desire to actually get together and hang out is gone and probably not coming back.

Best advice I can give is to move on, forgive any injustices that were done to you whether they are sorry or not, and forgive yourself for whatever part you had in it. No use hanging on.

Rasputin · 01-28-2017, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

Life moves on and the sun will rise and set tomorrow. The Chiefs are stuck with Smith for another year at least...

Oh geeze trying cheer a guy that's down up and you bring this into the thread?

Why don't you just pass out razor blades and teach us how to slice an artery?

Thanks Debbie Downer.

bricks · 01-28-2017, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Tombstone RJ

and grow up. You're 24. But you're acting like a 13 year old girl with a Bieber poster on her teeny bopper wall...

Nonsense man

Why do you gotta be a dick about this to the guy?

He is feel down which is natural considering the circumstance he is involved in.

He is just trying to reach out and is asking for other people's perspectives about his situation. Where did he act like a 13 year old? That's just you being condescending and you expose yourself as not the greatest person to talk to in difficult situations. I certainly wouldn't rely on you for advice that's for sure

Rasputin · 01-28-2017, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by wazu

Had a severe falling out with a friend years back over a failed business venture that we had both risked much on. The devastation over the failed attempt was magnified by the loss of several friends. I tried to hold onto the friendships. We are still "Facebook" friends, but the desire to actually get together and hang out is gone and probably not coming back.

Best advice I can give is to move on, forgive any injustices that were done to you whether they are sorry or not, and forgive yourself for whatever part you had in it. No use hanging on.

Forgiveness is powerful stuff. Forgive them for your own sake and let go. Not just forgive but also let go and move on.

Nice post wazu

**SAUTO** · 01-28-2017, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Buzz

and too bad you can't pass that knowledge on.

You CAN but they have gotta trust you and listen

**Dave Lane** · 01-28-2017, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO

You CAN but they have gotta trust you and listen

So you are saying you can't pass it on then

**SAUTO** · 01-28-2017, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Dave Lane

So you are saying you can't pass it on then

Basically.

And since I've been in business I have hired and fired no less than three of my best friends.

They knew when I fired them they all deserved it and we are still the same friends we were before. I've been lucky.

**Dave Lane** · 01-28-2017, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO

Basically.

And since I've been in business I have hired and fired no less than three of my best friends.

They knew when I fired them they all deserved it and we are still the same friends we were before. I've been lucky.

Thats a tough deal, kudos to you for being able to handle that and still maintain the friendship.

IowaHawkeyeChief · 01-28-2017, 01:09 PM

We are dudes... The rules:

If he hit on a girly you liked, hit on your actual girl , hurt your family or stole from you walk away.

If it is something else, confront the issue and get on with your friendship.

Women hold grudges for years over stupid garbage, Men can scream and yell, even fistfight, and forget everything once its settled and its never brought up again...

If you are truly men, which you are at 24, tell him why you are upset and fix it. If he doesn't want to fix it then move on.

Good luck... you can't buy the knowledge you will get from this experience.

**SAUTO** · 01-28-2017, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Dave Lane

Thats a tough deal, kudos to you for being able to handle that and still maintain the friendship.

Oh it gave me a reason to drink too much for a couple days leading up to it each time, that's for sure.

burt · 01-28-2017, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Chiefspants

I'm on the early side of 24.

I got socks older than you.....

burt · 01-28-2017, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO

Oh it gave me a reason to drink too much for a couple days leading up to it each time, that's for sure.

You should NEVER need a reason.... just do it.

**SAUTO** · 01-28-2017, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by burt

You should NEVER need a reason.... just do it.

I do it my fair share, and a couple other people's fair share too

01-27-2017, 12:44 PM
Chiefspants World's Best Boss Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Bronco Country Casino cash: $5654654	Feeling Down Today It looks as though I'm on the verge of falling out with a close irl edit(in real life) friend that I have had for 7 years. I can't really go into specifics, but mixing work with friendship (even when it happens naturally) is a difficult balance. I'm pretty down about it. Does anyone have experience with this type of thing and want to share? I could truly use some perspective here. Also feel free to use this thread to post gifs or anything funny - or not, it could also be a roast of all things Chiefspants. inb4 - "Chiefspants has irl friends?!", "Who is Chiefspants?" and "A concoction of antifreeze will ease the pain." Thanks, everybody. Last edited by Chiefspants; 01-27-2017 at 01:09 PM..*
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bevischief .... Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Somewhere Kansas Casino cash: $8659352 VARSITY	Life moves on and the sun will rise and set tomorrow. The Chiefs are stuck with Smith for another year at least...
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01-28-2017, 11:04 AM	#48
wazu ... Join Date: May 2002 Location: Kansas City, MO Casino cash: $1632295 VARSITY	Had a severe falling out with a friend years back over a failed business venture that we had both risked much on. The devastation over the failed attempt was magnified by the loss of several friends. I tried to hold onto the friendships. We are still "Facebook" friends, but the desire to actually get together and hang out is gone and probably not coming back. Best advice I can give is to move on, forgive any injustices that were done to you whether they are sorry or not, and forgive yourself for whatever part you had in it. No use hanging on.
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01-28-2017, 01:09 PM	#56
IowaHawkeyeChief In Search of a Life Join Date: Jan 2016 Casino cash: $2250400	We are dudes... The rules: If he hit on a girly you liked, hit on your actual girl , hurt your family or stole from you walk away. If it is something else, confront the issue and get on with your friendship. Women hold grudges for years over stupid garbage, Men can scream and yell, even fistfight, and forget everything once its settled and its never brought up again... If you are truly men, which you are at 24, tell him why you are upset and fix it. If he doesn't want to fix it then move on. Good luck... you can't buy the knowledge you will get from this experience.
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