Montessori School's Yes, No, Maybe?

[petegz28]

My 2yr old son currently is being babysat by our neighbor across the street. She has her own 2 kids, 8 & 4, plus she watches another 4 yr old 2-3 times a week. She is a nurse by trade as well and has a very clean and safe area for my Son. Obviously the problem with home care like that is you have to work around their schedules to a point and you don't quite get the group interaction and structure of a formal childcare establishment.

My Dad wants us to send him to a Montesorri school and of course to sweeten the deal he said he will pay half of the costs.

I am not sure about it. While I would like my Son to interact with more kids, I don't think you can beat the 1-1 care we are getting now. Especially as he is still learning how to tell you when he doesn't feel good, etc.

any thoughts?

[rabblerouser]

Originally Posted by petegz28

My 2yr old son currently is being babysat by our neighbor across the street. She has her own 2 kids, 8 & 4, plus she watches another 4 yr old 2-3 times a week. She is a nurse by trade as well and has a very clean and safe area for my Son. Obviously the problem with home care like that is you have to work around their schedules to a point and you don't quite get the group interaction and structure of a formal childcare establishment.

My Dad wants us to send him to a Montesorri school and of course to sweeten the deal he said he will pay half of the costs.

I am not sure about it. While I would like my Son to interact with more kids, I don't think you can beat the 1-1 care we are getting now. Especially as he is still learning how to tell you when he doesn't feel good, etc.

any thoughts?

My daughter went to a Montessori school from 3-5 years of age and loved it. We were able to make our own schedule that worked for us, she made friends with some kids there, and she loved going there. She learned at her own pace, and now runs mental laps around the public school kids that are her age.

I'd go for it. If your dad is helping with the tab, then absolutely.

[DaneMcCloud]

Originally Posted by petegz28

I appreciate everyone's input. I don't know which is harder. Raising your kid or dealing with the Grandparents trying to raise your kid?

My mom's the only one that ever butts in and I just politely tell her that "Things are much different today than when you were a parent of a toddler and elementary children".

That usually does the trick.

[Pablo]

My wife and I just went and checked out a daycare where she works in Platte City this afternoon. $257/week for an infant. I guess that's a reasonable rate for somebody to watch your kid nine hours a day, but holy **** that's going to hurt the bank account.

There is a Montessori school in Platte City, but apparently they don't accept children under 18 months so they aren't in our consideration just yet.

Being an adult is expensive. This whole buying a house and a baby on the way within a year is knocking my fun money down at an amazing pace.

[ChiliConCarnage]

Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

My mom's the only one that ever butts in and I just politely tell her that "Things are much different today than when you were a parent of a toddler and elementary children".

That usually does the trick.

If it doesn't, remind them that you may one day be their guardian and you could put them in the shittiest of nursing homes with Nurse Helga tormenting them for the rest of their awful lives.

Just a joke of course.. or maybe..

[rabblerouser]

Originally Posted by Pablo

My wife and I just went and checked out a daycare where she works in Platte City this afternoon. $257/week for an infant. I guess that's a reasonable rate for somebody to watch your kid nine hours a day, but holy **** that's going to hurt the bank account.

There is a Montessori school in Platte City, but apparently they don't accept children under 18 months so they aren't in our consideration just yet.

Being an adult is expensive. This whole buying a house and a baby on the way within a year is knocking my fun money down at an amazing pace.

[petegz28]

Originally Posted by Pablo

My wife and I just went and checked out a daycare where she works in Platte City this afternoon. $257/week for an infant. I guess that's a reasonable rate for somebody to watch your kid nine hours a day, but holy **** that's going to hurt the bank account.

There is a Montessori school in Platte City, but apparently they don't accept children under 18 months so they aren't in our consideration just yet.

Being an adult is expensive. This whole buying a house and a baby on the way within a year is knocking my fun money down at an amazing pace.

We lucked out having our neighbor, literally across the street, as a babysitter. She was about $100 a week cheaper than most day cares but you have the cons too like when she is sick or otherwise can't watch the kid that day and when she takes vacation along with holidays.

But the 1-1 care my Son gets from her matters more to me at this point. When we ask her to do things like work with him on saying please and thank you or brushing his teeth she does. She will probably do more potty training than we do. And she absolutely loves my Son.

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Pablo

Being an adult is expensive. This whole buying a house and a baby on the way within a year is knocking my fun money down at an amazing pace.

Seriously. **** this shit.

[rabblerouser]

Originally Posted by ChiliConCarnage

If it doesn't, remind them that you may one day be their guardian and you could put them in the shittiest of nursing homes with Nurse Helga tormenting them for the rest of their awful lives.

Just a joke of course.. or maybe..

My mom made a killer meatloaf this weekend - I told her that it won her major brownie points for her future living situation )

[petegz28]

Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

My mom's the only one that ever butts in and I just politely tell her that "Things are much different today than when you were a parent of a toddler and elementary children".

That usually does the trick.

Yeah, that wouldn't work with my Dad. He wanted my Son into swimming lessons at 3 months. He wants him in this Montessori school to "further his education". I'm like, Dad, he just turned 2, literally a month ago.

A colleague told me today that they did all this early schooling and when their kid finally got to Kindergarten he was board and they had problems because he had already learned a lot of the stuff. Seems to be a balance there you have to maintain.

[KC native]

Originally Posted by rabblerouser

My daughter went to a Montessori school from 3-5 years of age and loved it. We were able to make our own schedule that worked for us, she made friends with some kids there, and she loved going there. She learned at her own pace, and now runs mental laps around the public school kids that are her age.

I'd go for it. If your dad is helping with the tab, then absolutely.

I think it is hilarious when you act like you are a real parent and try to give advice.

Pretend parent is pretend.

[KC native]

Originally Posted by petegz28

Yeah, that wouldn't work with my Dad. He wanted my Son into swimming lessons at 3 months. He wants him in this Montessori school to "further his education". I'm like, Dad, he just turned 2, literally a month ago.

A colleague told me today that they did all this early schooling and when their kid finally got to Kindergarten he was board and they had problems because he had already learned a lot of the stuff. Seems to be a balance there you have to maintain.

I have friends that try to do the uber-parent bullshit like this too.

They're only kids once. There is no reason to rush to have them prepared like little machines by the time they hit kindergarten.

[rabblerouser]

Originally Posted by petegz28

Yeah, that wouldn't work with my Dad. He wanted my Son into swimming lessons at 3 months. He wants him in this Montessori school to "further his education". I'm like, Dad, he just turned 2, literally a month ago.

A colleague told me today that they did all this early schooling and when their kid finally got to Kindergarten he was board and they had problems because he had already learned a lot of the stuff. Seems to be a balance there you have to maintain.

Yes, that's the thing about Montessori - it's definitely at the child's own pace.

I thought that's why they did pre-testing for public school placement?? If the child was too advanced for Kindergarten...wouldn't that be a major vote for Montessori??

I'd say that's a failure on the public school system.

Seems like a good way to shut your dad up while giving your child a great opportunity to flourish.

[petegz28]

Originally Posted by rabblerouser

Yes, that's the thing about Montessori - it's definitely at the child's own pace.

I thought that's why they did pre-testing for public school placement?? If the child was too advanced for Kindergarten...wouldn't that be a major vote for Montessori??

I'd say that's a failure on the public school system.

Seems like a good way to shut your dad up while giving your child a great opportunity to flourish.

Maybe when my Son can actually tell you what's going on. Right now he couldn't tell you if he was being mistreated or not. Maybe I am being overly sensitive but my child's safety is #1 above all else.

[Bowser]

Originally Posted by petegz28

We lucked out having our neighbor, literally across the street, as a babysitter. She was about $100 a week cheaper than most day cares but you have the cons too like when she is sick or otherwise can't watch the kid that day and when she takes vacation along with holidays.

But the 1-1 care my Son gets from her matters more to me at this point. When we ask her to do things like work with him on saying please and thank you or brushing his teeth she does. She will probably do more potty training than we do. And she absolutely loves my Son.

If this were me, this would be all I need to justify keeping him there. Not trying to downplay what a Montessori could potentially mean or do for your son, but sometimes a person can overthink a situation.

Originally Posted by ThaVirus

Seriously. **** this shit.

Listen, adulthood has barely managed to get the tip in to your life so far. Just bite the pillow and make the most of it.

[DaneMcCloud]

Originally Posted by petegz28

A colleague told me today that they did all this early schooling and when their kid finally got to Kindergarten he was board and they had problems because he had already learned a lot of the stuff. Seems to be a balance there you have to maintain.

Socialization is more important than the schooling, IMO.

But as far as "overlapping", I don't really see a problem with it.

Our situation is completely different because my daughter (and youngest will when she's five) attends a Charter School that teaches Project Based Learning, which is completely different than the old 'Reading, Writing, Arithmetic' way of schooling.