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10-19-2016, 05:24 AM | #31 |
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Get an attorney. Better safe than sorry,
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10-19-2016, 05:40 AM | #32 |
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I have never once heard any of my friends say "boy I wish I hadn't wasted that money on a lawyer for my divorce". On the other hand I've heard "that bitch and her lawyer took me to the cleaners" by a lot of them. Choose your camp. If it really is that agreeable then it won't take as much of your lawyer's time and your money and if things get twisted you've got help.
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10-19-2016, 06:06 AM | #33 |
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If he's fine with her keeping hers and him keeping his then no need for lawyers (at the initial filling anyway). The state gov site will have the documents you need to print and fill out. If she decides to get cray and go to mediation then lawyer up. Good luck bud go get happy, it's never too late.
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10-19-2016, 06:07 AM | #34 | |
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10-19-2016, 06:20 AM | #35 | |
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10-19-2016, 07:08 AM | #36 |
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Walk away fast. Don't look back. Give her what she wants. Easier. No regrets. Just get out.
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10-19-2016, 07:26 AM | #37 |
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As a paralegal, all I can say is that I hope all they did was file for you. Anything else is considered legal advice, which paralegals are not supposed to give. We are not licensed.
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10-19-2016, 07:37 AM | #38 |
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Das Scheidung.
Germans have superior minds compared to the rest of the world. But they are annoying as ****. Tell her to go eat some wiener schnitzel & stomp around your house doing whatever the hell you want before they take it away. Make awesome microwave meals that explode all over the microwave while cooking them, and don't clean it up. The guy always gets ****ed in divorces. It's bullshit. Cordellcordell.com
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10-19-2016, 07:45 AM | #39 |
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Went through this very thing a few years ago.
She was from another state, we separated, and I filed locally. She needed to accrue some time back in her home state to establish residency (or something like that) before she could file for divorce there, meaning any/all court hearings would have been there. So by filing here, it gave me some leverage to settle on our own, and only use the hearing to make it official. It was still a pain in the ass. We settled on a cash number, then she would walk away from the house and land. Then she tried upping the number, but if we could settle and sign some documents, she didn't need to appear for the hearing...only me. So I used that as leverage to back her off her newly inflated number. If she wanted that larger amount, she could lawyer up, go to court, and fight me for it...meaning she would ultimately get less than what I was offering by time she factored in travel, lawyer fees, etc. And that worked in my favor. You gotta talk to a lawyer before you pull the trigger. Even if its mutually agreeable, its still a good idea. They will give you some pretty good insight. In my case, we rolled the division of equity into alimony, so I got a tax break on it. When it was all said and done, I think my lawyer charged me $900 (which included filing and court fees), and his time for drawing up the settlement, and going to court in another town, etc. Yeah, it seems like a large amount, but really...at the end of the day, that peace of mind in knowing that everything was going to be addressed and finalized made that an easy check to write. It looks like we are in the same neck of the woods (in fact we probably know some of the same people if I had to guess), so if you want his name/number, PM me. He's over in Doniphan Co. He'll talk to you for free at first, and any time I needed to talk to him, he answered the phone and didn't tack anything on.
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10-19-2016, 07:48 AM | #40 |
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Sorry to hear about your divorce, OP.
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10-19-2016, 07:48 AM | #41 |
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Sorry to hear about your situation, but get an attorney just to be on the safe side. After you get this thing wrapped up, start living life again and enjoy yourself.
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10-19-2016, 08:08 AM | #42 |
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Good to know
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10-19-2016, 08:33 AM | #43 |
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Just be careful. I understand your desire to keep it cheap and amicable. But you cannot depend on that being the case. A handwritten note in the basement isn't going to be legally binding. You're married in the US, and her assets in another country might not be so easily used as leverage once you get down to it. I'd certainly ask a lawyer before assuming it to be the case. I'm afraid I've seen too many fellas stroll into their divorce expecting a nice easy negotiable split with both sides playing nice. And $75,000 and 4 years later they're still in the process. Don't just expect her to do the nice thing because of your prior relationship, even if she currently says she would. If you can do it cheap and without lawyers, go for it. But I'd be damn sure about your legal standing before throwing caution to the wind. Seen too many good fellas waltz into that meat grinder.....
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10-19-2016, 08:43 AM | #45 |
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It would be best if you can hire a lawyer together-much cheaper. If you agree on all the assets-this is the way to go.
If you hire a lawyer and then she gets one-they are only out for themselves. Billable hours. They are ****ing crooks-all of them. Charge you $100 bucks to send you a letter- $50.00 for a phone call stating - no progress. Lawyers use your emotions against you to "Win" -and in the end it cost you a lot more. |
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