Feeling Down Today

[Chiefspants]

It looks as though I'm on the verge of falling out with a close irl edit*(in real life) friend that I have had for 7 years. I can't really go into specifics, but mixing work with friendship (even when it happens naturally) is a difficult balance.

I'm pretty down about it. Does anyone have experience with this type of thing and want to share? I could truly use some perspective here.

Also feel free to use this thread to post gifs or anything funny - or not, it could also be a roast of all things Chiefspants.

inb4 - "Chiefspants has irl friends?!", "Who is Chiefspants?" and "A concoction of antifreeze will ease the pain."

Thanks, everybody.

[Lumpy]

Originally Posted by stevieray

people grow apart...for whatever reason

I've lost friends i thought I'd have forever.

...it sucks, but let it go.

don't let it become a regret by wasting time on lamenting and hanging on.

I agree with you, stevie. It's difficult to let go but it's better than being the only one who wants to hold on. Some people let pride or something else get in the way of their decision to not maintain a friendship. So, if they want to walk away, wish them well and move on.

[scho63]

Originally Posted by Chiefspants

I'm on the early side of 24.

I got underwear older than you.....

[Pasta Little Brioni]

What are you 15? It's not fam, significant other? Who cares?

[Chiefspants]

Originally Posted by Pasta Giant Meatball

What are you 15? Who cares?

Pretty much.

Originally Posted by Pasta Giant Meatball

What are you 15? It's not fam, significant other? Who cares?

This too.

[Demonpenz]

[Buehler445]

Everybody knows don't get into business with family (says the douchebag farming his family farm). It really means that business is inherently risky and sometimes doesn't work out and you need to walk away. Accordingly, you have to be prepared to walk away. As such, you can't do business with people you aren't prepared to walk away from.

As far as recommendations, my recommendation is to set emotion aside, and be open and honest about communication, expectations, and what went wrong.

Be amicable the entire time and maybe your relationship can be salvaged.

Best of luck, man.

[Chiefspants]

Originally Posted by Buehler445

Everybody knows don't get into business with family (says the douchebag farming his family farm). It really means that business is inherently risky and sometimes doesn't work out and you need to walk away. Accordingly, you have to be prepared to walk away. As such, you can't do business with people you aren't prepared to walk away from.

As far as recommendations, my recommendation is to set emotion aside, and be open and honest about communication, expectations, and what went wrong.

Be amicable the entire time and maybe your relationship can be salvaged.

Best of luck, man.

For a little background on the business side. The venture is actually going well. Quite well, much better than any of us could have envisioned as teenagers. We're not rolling in the Benjamins by any means, but I feel confident in saying the work we do is effective and serves a real purpose. Our problems have, ultimately, grown the more we have expanded our operations.

To those saying "who cares?" You're right in a way and I fully understand where you're coming from. This guy was one of my truest friends and someone I worked with almost every day in some the formative years of my life. I know I'll be okay, even if we don't talk again, but today I've been hit relatively hard with this development.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Guess he isn't a true friend then. His choice to be a friend.

[TigeRRUppeRRcut]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

Here is what you need to do, and it is a bitch. Rain falls on the just and unjust alike. So shit falls apart for everyone. You are not alone so don't blow this up to be something that it isn't. The sun will rise tomorrow and you will get past it. Your battle in life is 100 percent mental. If you can cope with your brain or come to realize that everything out in the world is just bullshit and the real game is how to look at situations, then you are on your way to getting past this shit. Evaluate why you feel bad or down. Does this hurt your money, does this hurt your social status? Oh ****ing well that shit will come back and leave again, what stays is your character or integrity. So get out a piece of paper and have a plan and start working that plan until all this is behind you. If you **** up on your plan try to get back on course quickly and know that most people just do dumb shit all their lives then get aids and die. Thanks for the rep and you can paypal me money at any point.

Word.

[eDave]

I have no friendships in my professional life. That life is just that.

[Hog's Gone Fishin]

Originally Posted by Spott

Masturbation should cheer you up.

Or make you hate your job

[Tombstone RJ]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

Here is what you need to do, and it is a bitch. Rain falls on the just and unjust alike. So shit falls apart for everyone. You are not alone so don't blow this up to be something that it isn't. The sun will rise tomorrow and you will get past it. Your battle in life is 100 percent mental. If you can cope with your brain or come to realize that everything out in the world is just bullshit and the real game is how to look at situations, then you are on your way to getting past this shit. Evaluate why you feel bad or down. Does this hurt your money, does this hurt your social status? Oh ****ing well that shit will come back and leave again, what stays is your character or integrity. So get out a piece of paper and have a plan and start working that plan until all this is behind you. If you **** up on your plan try to get back on course quickly and know that most people just do dumb shit all their lives then get aids and die. Thanks for the rep and you can paypal me money at any point.

tldr...

[Tombstone RJ]

and grow up. You're 24. But you're acting like a 13 year old girl with a Bieber poster on her teeny bopper wall...

[Mr. Laz]

Originally Posted by Spott

Masturbation should cheer you up.

Always works for me.

[Spott]

Originally Posted by Chiefspants

Absolutely. It means a friend "in real life". Making this friend distinctive from someone I may know only on say, Reddit or Chiefsplanet. I'll edit the original post.

Well, I told you masturbation would help because I thought you were either spelling girlfriend wrong or the "g" key on your keyboard didn't work. I think it may also be useful in this scenario, but for different reasons.