Life When a female friend stops talking to you... - Page 2

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:27 PM

This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be.

So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14.

The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well.

So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it.

Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it.

The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'.

Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day.

I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok.

So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him.

Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother.

I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me.

AMA

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Superturtle

Threesome, perhaps?

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Originally Posted by Cave Johnson

Sounds like you missed your 3-some window, bro.

Well damn.

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Originally Posted by Pestilence

So your wife was cool with a 18 year old girl snapchatting you pics every morning?

Yeah, my wife knows we were talking every day. I'm pretty open about stuff. The plan was when she came back to town we were going to Bazooka's with a group (Yeah we party).

**The Franchise** · 04-30-2018, 04:46 PM

Well is she hot?

RunKC · 04-30-2018, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM

I believe this is called “missing your window”.

stevieray · 04-30-2018, 04:47 PM

No offense, but you are out of line.

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Pestilence

Well is she hot?

Sure, yes.

ToxSocks · 04-30-2018, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

Sure, yes.

Probably the only real reason you're concerned.

Let it go. The fact that you were emotionally compelled enough to make this thread says enough.

Let it go.

And she probably thought of you as a game to be played. She has a new game now. Her boyfriend. Leaves little time for other games.

KCUnited · 04-30-2018, 04:49 PM

The **** would you want to say hi to anyone's boyfriend on snapchat for?

I'd delete this whole mess, man.

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Detoxing

Probably the only real reason you're concerned.

Let it go. The fact that you were emotionally compelled enough to make this thread says enough.

Let it go.

And she probably thought of you as a game to be played. She has a new game now. Her boyfriend. Leaves little time for other games.

Detoxing with the most logical post so far.

COchief · 04-30-2018, 04:51 PM

I don't even know where to begin with this methtravaganza, so many questions, I can't do it.

Every sentence of the OP presents a dizzying array of possible inquiries "Wait what?, how, no way, how does that work, what really?". Imagine what the women involved look like.

Kiimo · 04-30-2018, 04:53 PM

Count yourself lucky you saw her boobs, never talk to her again.

Some things only are good for the spank bank.

vailpass · 04-30-2018, 04:55 PM

It’s only a matter of time until you cheat on your wife.
You have the fever.

saphojunkie · 04-30-2018, 04:55 PM

Good will come of this. I suggest you plan a surprise trip to go see her. She’ll love it.

TwistedChief · 04-30-2018, 04:57 PM

It’s simple. She was using you for attention; you were using her for an escape. The second either of you were able to find that same ‘feeling’ in a more appropriate way, everything was going to change and likely come crashing down.

People are going to give you a lot of grief here and it’s warranted. You’re married and shouldn’t be snap chatting with 18y olds who took their top off and hung out with you and your wife. Be honest with yourself: even if you really feel like your intentions were just as ‘friends,’ how hard would it have been for this to have crossed even further over the line?

The bright side? Nothing happened. Delete her from your phone, your social media, and move on. Look inward and try to figure out why this escape were so important to you.

saphojunkie · 04-30-2018, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by vailpass

It’s only a matter of time until you cheat on your wife.
You have the fever.

Pretty sure they’re swingers. And if wife is okay with you snap chatting with 18 year old girl she is one hundo sending nude selfies on the regular.

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by saphojunkie

Good will come of this. I suggest you plan a surprise trip to go see her. She’ll love it.

No, she asked me to go to Manhattan to hang out instead of KC. I refused.

04-30-2018, 04:27 PM
KCrockaholic Sarcasm Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Olathe Casino cash: $4552900	When a female friend stops talking to you... This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be. So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14. The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well. So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it. Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it. The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'. Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day. I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok. So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him. Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother. I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me. AMA
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04-30-2018, 04:57 PM	#28
TwistedChief Why so serious? Join Date: Dec 2016 Location: Chicago Casino cash: $1900415	It’s simple. She was using you for attention; you were using her for an escape. The second either of you were able to find that same ‘feeling’ in a more appropriate way, everything was going to change and likely come crashing down. People are going to give you a lot of grief here and it’s warranted. You’re married and shouldn’t be snap chatting with 18y olds who took their top off and hung out with you and your wife. Be honest with yourself: even if you really feel like your intentions were just as ‘friends,’ how hard would it have been for this to have crossed even further over the line? The bright side? Nothing happened. Delete her from your phone, your social media, and move on. Look inward and try to figure out why this escape were so important to you.
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