When a female friend stops talking to you...

[KCrockaholic]

This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be.

So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14.

The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well.

So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it.

Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it.

The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'.

Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day.

I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok.

So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him.

Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother.

I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me.

AMA

[Dartgod]

Originally Posted by banecat

Yeah, a close friend of mine met his wife in the parking lot after Rockfest one year. He was 22, and she was 16. I can't figure out if I'm more surprised that they lasted several years having two kids together, or that it took so long for him to catch her cheating on him leading to a divorce. She did replace him with a Scotty P clone from We're the Millers

No ragrets. know what I'm saying?

[BigBeauford]

Stealth humble-brag.

[Dartgod]

Originally Posted by banecat

I have no idea. I live by the Double Nickel. I had to look up the name of another bar in Olathe to make a point

Cool. I was just surprised to hear that name. It's probably been 20+ years since I've been there.

[Jewish Rabbi]

Originally Posted by banecat

So we also have to speculate that this guy is rail thin, with thick glasses, and a cheesy mustache?

Let’s just say the salesman in the jorts section at JC Penney’s starts drooling when he sees him coming.

[Frosty]

I had my wife read the OP and then asked her if I could have an 18 year old Snapchat friend. She said no.

[KCrockaholic]

Originally Posted by Delano

Have they traded nudes?

Actually yeah

[ChiTown]

Originally Posted by Frosty

I had my wife read the OP and then asked her if I could have an 18 year old Snapchat friend. She said no.

WHAT A BITCH!

[Davechief]

The fact that you have never met or seen the boyfriend makes me wonder if this bimbo is Manti Teo's younger sister. I know he's no longer with the Chargers, but he's probably got her attempting to get Intel on the Chiefs. Guaranteed he's still got contacts in San Diego. This boyfriend crap is just a ruse. Be careful!

[kcpasco]

Make sure she is really 18, girls lie about their age all the time.
You should probably take a hammer to your phone just to be safe and delete this post about an underage topless girl in your home.

[Frosty]

Originally Posted by ChiTown

WHAT A BITCH!

I know. How unreasonable.

[KCrockaholic]

Originally Posted by kcpasco

Make sure she is really 18, girls lie about their age all the time.
You should probably take a hammer to your phone just to be safe and delete this post about an underage topless girl in your home.

She’s 19 now. Confirmed.

[Kiimo]

If this story happened 20 years ago these people definitely would have met at American Bandstand.

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by ChiTown

Here’s a simple rule: Married men CAN NOT have single girl’s as friends. ESPECIALLY young and cute girls.

I don’t give a shit what you say, you want to **** her like a porn star, and your wife absolutely knows this. I don’t even believe that you are fooling yourself with thinking otherwise.

Exactly,..

and the flip side, what if the roles were reversed?

No honest man who loves his wife is going to approve of young male friend.

[MVChiefFan]

Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

Actually yeah

So, my guess is your wife likes the ladies and is not overly jealous of you with them. But, you guys haven’t committed to the whole threesome thing yet. So, you’ve been trying to drag this out until your wife felt comfortable, but the other girl has already moved on. Because I’ll tell you this, if that girl got topless, exchanged nudes with your wife, and snapped you everyday, she was DEFINITELY down for the threesome and you missed the boat. Am I right?

[88TG88]

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