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Simply Red · 10-27-2014, 12:45 PM

Hey Guys,

I am not a big attention whore - and I realize that it's risky to post threads like this. But I have a big secret that I've kept to myself for quite sometime. I have a bad problem (for maybe the last 2-3 months) with major depression.

Last night wasn't good at all - I literally felt like I could have died. I was having sweats, uncontrolled emotional breakdowns and other things that I'm not quite ready to discuss.

Sometimes I wonder if the fact that I had quit drinking without assistance such as AA is part of it and if it would have been a better transition than simply cold-turkey. There's a term called a 'dry drunk' - where the person who'd kicked the habit still has some of the same issues with personality etc etc... I recently had another bad break up - I've gone through enough women in the last two yrs - where I'm starting to wonder if it's me. Nothing seems to last over a month or two.

I need to find some help - but as a business owner it's so hard to find extra time. My social life COULD be much better - but not drinking puts a damper on any 'normal' social mediums - most others use. As well as it's just not the same attending a bar's happy hour sober or at least not in the same relaxed mind set - others are in.

I really don't want to be alone. Man isn't designed to be alone & I've reached a point I'm ready to love and sex can and will be somewhat secondary - I'm just ready to have something normal in my life, again.

Anyhow - I'd appreciate it if you had some serious input - jokes are fine too - but I'm not joking and I've been seriously struggling.

I have decent looks, I'm responsible and I have a nice job. So I wonder all of the time "WTF?"

It's not meeting women that's hard - but it's keeping them around.

Ty again you all are the best!

Simply Red · 10-28-2014, 03:55 PM

Decent hair day today, so.

stevieray · 10-28-2014, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Simply Red

I'm much better today - Still have a cold but aside from that - my spirits are pretty high.

...every morning when I talk to my 22 month old on the horn..I ask her if today is gonna be a HAPPY DAY?!

I want her to expect that every day is a happy day in attitude...

praying for you brother!

stevieray · 10-28-2014, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Simply Red

Decent hair day today, so.

LOL

small victories add up!

**bogey** · 10-28-2014, 04:45 PM

It's true you need to learn to love yourself, but how do you do that?

lcarus · 10-28-2014, 04:47 PM

Exercise helps a lot if you don't already do it.

eDave · 10-28-2014, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by bogey

It's true you need to learn to love yourself, but how do you do that?

Because you are what you are. That's my take anyway. I came upon great peace when I reached that realization.

**Donger** · 10-28-2014, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by bogey

It's true you need to learn to love yourself, but how do you do that?

Masturbation.

I hope you are well, bogey.

**lewdog** · 10-28-2014, 05:04 PM

Not sure how you could be down with that ****ing 6-pack you got SR.

I 'mirin that.

stevieray · 10-28-2014, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by bogey

It's true you need to learn to love yourself, but how do you do that?

you love yourself bogey, if not, you wouldn't be here....

**Ming the Merciless** · 10-28-2014, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by bogey

It's true you need to learn to love yourself, but how do you do that?

**bogey** · 10-28-2014, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by eDave

Because you are what you are. That's my take anyway. I came upon great peace when I reached that realization.

This is true.

**bogey** · 10-28-2014, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Donger

Masturbation.

I hope you are well, bogey.

Nice of you to say Donger. I mean the "hope you're doing well" part.

I logged in and this was the first thread I saw. SR, you're one of the good guys. One day at a time, right? It's tough though. Stay off the booze. If you decide to medicate, I'd be curious how it works out.

stevieray · 10-28-2014, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by bogey

Nice of you to say Donger. I mean the "hope you're doing well" part.

I logged in and this was the first thread I saw. SR, you're one of the good guys. One day at a time, right? It's tough though. Stay off the booze. If you decide to medicate, I'd be curious how it works out.

see? loving your neighbor as you love yourself!

TLO · 10-28-2014, 05:31 PM

If you do decide to go with medication - please consider all other options before turning to Effexor. I can't wait until I'm off this overpriced shit.

**bogey** · 10-28-2014, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by stevieray

see? loving your neighbor as you love yourself!

Well, I've always loved you stevieray!

10-27-2014, 12:45 PM
Simply Red You Sweetie! Join Date: Sep 2005 Casino cash: $2021206219 VARSITY	-- Can I level with you all? Hey Guys, I am not a big attention whore - and I realize that it's risky to post threads like this. But I have a big secret that I've kept to myself for quite sometime. I have a bad problem (for maybe the last 2-3 months) with major depression. Last night wasn't good at all - I literally felt like I could have died. I was having sweats, uncontrolled emotional breakdowns and other things that I'm not quite ready to discuss. Sometimes I wonder if the fact that I had quit drinking without assistance such as AA is part of it and if it would have been a better transition than simply cold-turkey. There's a term called a 'dry drunk' - where the person who'd kicked the habit still has some of the same issues with personality etc etc... I recently had another bad break up - I've gone through enough women in the last two yrs - where I'm starting to wonder if it's me. Nothing seems to last over a month or two. I need to find some help - but as a business owner it's so hard to find extra time. My social life COULD be much better - but not drinking puts a damper on any 'normal' social mediums - most others use. As well as it's just not the same attending a bar's happy hour sober or at least not in the same relaxed mind set - others are in. I really don't want to be alone. Man isn't designed to be alone & I've reached a point I'm ready to love and sex can and will be somewhat secondary - I'm just ready to have something normal in my life, again. Anyhow - I'd appreciate it if you had some serious input - jokes are fine too - but I'm not joking and I've been seriously struggling. I have decent looks, I'm responsible and I have a nice job. So I wonder all of the time "WTF?" It's not meeting women that's hard - but it's keeping them around. Ty again you all are the best!
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