Why I won’t date hot women anymore

[Hammock Parties]

This is priceless. Some of the tweets have been savage.

http://nypost.com/2017/04/12/why-hot...-worth-dating/

When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.

“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair. “I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.”

He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.

“Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves,” he says. “Eventually, I was dreading getting dinner with them because they couldn’t carry a conversation.”

According to new research, Rochkind’s ideas about sexy bikini babes are correct. A multipart study from Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University researchers found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved in unstable relationships. In one part, the researchers looked at the top 20 actresses on IMDb and found that they tend to have rocky marriages. In another, women were asked to judge the attractiveness of 238 men based on their high school yearbook photos from 30 years ago. The men who were judged to be the best-looking had higher rates of divorce.

Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two are now happily engaged.

The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.

“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown. “Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.”

Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. Rochkind proposed to her last May in Central Park. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.

“[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says. “And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated.”

Carly has no qualms about how her future husband views her compared with his exes.

“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says. “Looks fade.”

Some great-looking people say they’re given a bad rap unfairly.

“When men see beautiful women, they are more concentrated on how she looks because they want to ‘have’ her, and so they don’t want to go deeper and get to know her,” says Isabell Giardini, a 22-year-old Italian beauty signed with Major Models. “And that’s why at the end of a date they wonder, ‘Oh that girl is so beautiful but so empty.’ That’s happened to me often.”

Others say the stereotypes about pretty people being shallow are true, even if they’re hotties themselves.

“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and the body of an Adonis. But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.

Rochkind is equally enthusiastic about his decision to give up high-maintenance hotties.

“There’s something to be said about sowing your wild oats and getting them out of your system,” says Rochkind, who will marry Carly in June at a “Tuscan-romantic” ceremony at the Wölffer Estate Vineyard in the Hamptons. But he doesn’t regret his past.

“You don’t want to be the first to leave the party, but you don’t want to leave the party too late either,” he says. “Carly came at exactly the right time.”

And now....THE TWEETS

"Beautiful women get full of themselves" says this guy who is totally not full of himself. pic.twitter.com/485RKwNZH4

— MatzohNoSheTwitnt (@OhNoSheTwitnt) April 13, 2017

COMING SOON: "Why I Dumped my Skinny Fat Piece of Shit Fiancé," by this woman pic.twitter.com/6PrdLW3KE4

— Mike Drucker (@MikeDrucker) April 13, 2017

@nypost "Balding guy with difficulty smiling for camera wanks himself to death after insurance company stops viagra script..."

— R👹DD👹V👹LBkLyN (@ReDDeViLNyC) April 13, 2017

@nypost Now he has to find women who will find his conversation bearable

— PhotoHand (@PhotoHand) April 13, 2017

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by Pablo

She'd probably shove the egg roll up her ass a few times for seasoning for another quick 50. Seems like a bargain at that point.

Another good reason to get the Chinese first, and there are probably worse ways to keep the egg rolls warm.



Well, maybe not...

[Demonpenz]

Originally Posted by Pablo

This is why I sit in the driveway revving my Harley for 15 minutes every day when I get home. The wife watches through the window and her panties get the Niagara Falls treatment.

I also make it a point to only talk Harleys at work all day so people know it's not just a hobby, it's a lifestyle.

lol dude st joe avenue.....so loud all day.

[Pablo]

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

lol dude st joe avenue.....so loud all day.

I can definitely believe that.

If I'm waiting in line at Taco Bandido on the Harley then you know I'm taking off my shirt to show off the HD ink. Last time I did that it caused a flash flood in the north end from all the glistening vaginas that saw me. Black Snake Creek swelled up and a couple of trailers got swept away.

[Demonpenz]

lalalalalalol

[Pablo]

Originally Posted by Bearcat

Another good reason to get the Chinese first, and there are probably worse ways to keep the egg rolls warm.



Well, maybe not...

This is a classy hooker we're talking about. She probably keeps her asshole in good shape. Only a couple of dicks up there a day.

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by Pablo

This is a classy hooker we're talking about. She probably keeps her asshole in good shape. Only a couple of dicks up there a day.

$400/hr, I'd hope so... and maybe it's only marginally worse than if the egg roll was dropped on the kitchen floor, or if the bitch running drive thru didn't wash her hands after taking that dump before taking your hooker's order.

Bottom line though, you get your Chinese and your hooker's pimp doesn't interrupt your egg roll ass play because he's happily chowing down on some crab rangoon and orange chicken.

[Titty Meat]

Mask on **** it mask off

[lewdog]

This thread delivers!



Chinese food delivery. Plus Billay.

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Pablo

Billay has them all finish in an ol pickle jar. Saving up for a real Easter feast.

That is ****ing disgusting.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Does that $400 include a dual shower shit?

[scho63]

Originally Posted by Easy 6

While I've never paid for sex, I can kinda see both sides of this

On scho's side, I can see the thrill... he is an older, overweight guy (no offense, scho, just repeating what you've said) who, unless he is filthy rich, could never experience banging a primo looking woman otherwise. He gets to tap a youthfully supple, dime piece with no strings attached

I would equate it with one night stands I've had... she was fine, it was hot, but ultimately meant nothing

On the other side, such as Rubber Sponges post... he is absolutely right, there is an entirely different level of meaning and intimacy with a spouse or longtime gf that you simply cant have without the "love" factor

I was married to my ex for 12 years, and we'd dated for 3 before that... and you just cant reproduce that kind of intimacy or meaning overnight

You are one of the only people on this thread that looked at this argument objectively and you hit the nail on the head.

1. I love being in a great relationship and agree it's usually the best sex and intimacy.

2. I've never told anyone on this thread that they should choose my lifestyle or choices.

3. When you get older and try to find a great relationship, it takes both time and money. I just get tired of meeting the Match "dinner whores" who practice seeing how many guys can take them out to dinner and have no desire to get into a relationship. There are a lot of them and I don't waste my time and money with them anymore. When I am in the need of passion and fun, I select a hot 22-30 year old escort and I am treated like a king. Saves me time and money in the end and no commitments. I can also pick a blond, a red head, a Hispanic woman, Asian, it's like going out to eat. What am I in the mood for today?

4. I've been in some great relationships and one wonderful woman a couple years older from about 12 years ago I should have married. Never fought, liked so many of the same things and the sex was often and fantastic.

So in summary, I'm not saying that the ONLY way or BEST way is hiring escorts but that it is a very viable way to have a very enjoyable time with a woman you select. You are treated great, it's fun and escorts are NOT high volume street walkers but only see a few clients a day, sometimes as little as one.

If you have never tried it, you can only guess what it is like and have no idea the benefits.

Last point, if you are a guy here who says escorts are stupid but you will go to the strip club with your buddies and drop $20-40 on a lap dance and buy $8 watered down drinks, you are really the idiot.

[notorious]

I'm not going to judge scho. I am a pretty independent guy, and wasn't looking for a wife when I found mine.

Being married is great, but being single is pretty awesome, too. I could easily see myself doing what scho does just because I don't have the time or the give a **** to mess with the stupid games.

[eDave]

I ended up with a hooker in Vegas once, by accident. It was a terrible experience.

I've heard of this website where women ask for favors, like paying their phone bill and stuff, and date you in return. Honest if you ask me.

[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by eDave

I ended up with a hooker in Vegas once, by accident. It was a terrible experience.

Details please.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by Dayze

....now now, now honey.....these boys just out of the joint....

Thank you.