Life When a female friend stops talking to you...

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:27 PM

This will be sorta long, but I'm curious at what CP responses will be.

So to preface this, I'm married and I've been taken for 12 years happily. Met my wife when I was 16, she was 14.

The day before this past Superbowl I met an attractive 18 year old girl who was invited out to KC from Manhattan to hang out. Didn't know anything about her until we met at Twin Peaks (because she wanted to check it out). My wife, the friend who introduced us, and another friend all stayed there having a great time talking and getting to know eachother. She came across as very mature for her age. I don't typically like 18 year olds as they tend to be very annoying to me, but we got along pretty well.

So after 3 hours at Twin Peaks we all went back to my apartment for more party time. Played music, danced around, I responsibly allowed the 18 year old to drink a little wine and she was extremely comfortable around us. She ended up with her top off in the apartment dancing around. Great time all around despite staying up until 3AM. I thought she was a cool chick, but didn't think much else of it.

Superbowl Sunday morning she left to watch the game with her grandparents who are big Tom Brady fans, and I didn't really know when or if she'd come back to hang out. But she ended up sending me a Snapchat pic of her "reaction" to the game. I didn't respond to it.

The next day she sends me another Snapchat pic. I think to myself 'well I'm not going to just ignore her forever, I'll respond and say what's up'.

Well from then on, she became obsessed with interacting with me. Every single morning she'd send me a Snapchat pic and we'd just kind of talk throughout the day from there getting to know eachother. About 3 weeks in she'd send something nearly every single hour during the day and if I didn't respond she'd send another asking why I didn't respond yet. She would be sad when I would let her know, I'm home from work and I gotta spend time with my wife, I can't really talk. I'll admit it was nice feeling like I was needed or making a difference in her having a better day.

I was beginning to consider her a good friend, and I enjoyed the conversations. She'd been promising to come back to KC to hang out again, but that hasn't happened yet. That's ok.

So about 2.5 months into this I began to notice she'd send messages less frequently. And she was really slowing down and backing off. Kinda strange, I was wondering if I had said something that she didn't like considering it was very unlike her to NOT be going to me immediately in the mornings each day. She met a boyfriend about a month ago. And although I've met allll of her other friends, her boyfriend she hasn't even let me see or say hi to via Snapchat of course. At one point I asked why she hasn't introduced me yet, and she didn't have much of a reaction and I could tell she had no intentions of wanting me to meet him.

Right now we're down to very minimal interaction over the past 3 weeks. My friend who introduced us said her name the other day so I jokingly responded with "M----, who's that? Never heard of her". At that point he was worried his own friends weren't getting along so he texted her saying exactly what I said (Damn bastard). She responds with "WHY THO WHY THO?" then immediately texts me asking if I'm ok and why I'd say that. I just let her know it was a joke and everything is fine. But that's pretty much the last time we've said anything to eachother.

I'm not chasing her as a friend, I just don't understand why things change the way they do and what makes a female just suddenly stop interacting with a guy friend? I have never played this little chasing game with girls nor ever needed to, but I did enjoy our conversations and company which is why it matters to me.

AMA

Spott · 04-30-2018, 04:30 PM

Creeper

C3HIEF3S · 04-30-2018, 04:31 PM

BryanBusby · 04-30-2018, 04:31 PM

You might want to reflect on your marriage, man.

siberian khatru · 04-30-2018, 04:32 PM

Snapchatting with an 18-year-old girl. What could go wrong?

ChiliConCarnage · 04-30-2018, 04:35 PM

Were you 12 when you signed up for CP in 2007? If not, this seems weird

KCrockaholic · 04-30-2018, 04:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BryanBusby

You might want to reflect on your marriage, man.

No, all that is good. My wife likes her too.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChiliConCarnage

Were you 12 when you signed up for CP in 2007? If not, this seems weird

I was 16 I think. I'm 27 now. The girl is 19 now fwiw.

I have good friends of all ages. 20's, 30's, 40's. My best friends are in their 40's and 30's.

Eleazar · 04-30-2018, 04:36 PM

Next stop, Hall of Classics

Skyy God · 04-30-2018, 04:37 PM

This is practically an MTG#10 thread.

Fish · 04-30-2018, 04:37 PM

BryanBusby · 04-30-2018, 04:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

No, all that is good. My wife likes her too.

Your wife might like her too, but I'm not sure that you know exactly how much you "like" this girl.

Sassy Squatch · 04-30-2018, 04:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BryanBusby

Your wife might like her too, but I'm not sure that you know exactly how much you "like" this girl.

Threesome, perhaps?

Skyy God · 04-30-2018, 04:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KCrockaholic

No, all that is good. My wife likes her too.

I was 16 I think. I'm 27 now. The girl is 19 now fwiw.

I have good friends of all ages. 20's, 30's, 40's. My best friends are in their 40's and 30's.

Sounds like you missed your 3-some window, bro.

BlackHelicopters · 04-30-2018, 04:43 PM

Run far away.

**The Franchise** · 04-30-2018, 04:43 PM

So your wife was cool with a 18 year old girl snapchatting you pics every morning?

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