Life So, I just found out I'm going to be a dad... - Page 4

Strongside · 06-06-2018, 09:51 PM

You guys are the first people to know outside of my own family. I had to tell SOMEONE.

Backstory: I'm 33 years old. I'm married to the love of my life. We've been together for 16 years, married for 3. That's a long ****ing time.

I had a bit of a dead-beat dad growing up, and I know that I have it in me to give this kid everything I wish I'd had in my own childhood and more.

I know there are some fantastic dads here on CP, so what do I need to know? What are your best dad tips?

Spare me the "your life is over" bullshit. I've traveled the world, I've climbed mountains, I've swam in every Ocean and set foot on every continent. As far as I'm concerned, this sounds like an adventure unlike any I've ever undertaken, and I can't wait!

**ptlyon** · 06-07-2018, 07:47 AM

Don't raise your kid to be the next David Hogg

oldman · 06-07-2018, 07:50 AM

Congrats, dude. Yes, your life, at least how you've lived it until now, is over. No more spur of the moment trips to Vegas, no more unplanned sex romps whenever you feel like it, and you will wonder where all your money went.
But there's some good tips in this thread. I'll tell you to get involved, but don't be a helicopter parent. Step up when your kids need it. Be a man, those dirty diapers don't change themselves. If you have a son, show him how to treat women by how you treat your wife. If you have a daughter, show her what she should look for in her own mate by how you treat your wife. Oh, and buy a shotgun, you'll need it sooner than you think

ChiliConCarnage · 06-07-2018, 07:51 AM

You will find important advice for dealing with any extremely critical issue of child-rearing here

stevieray · 06-07-2018, 07:56 AM

...you just became a better man.

Trust me on this.

**RockChalk** · 06-07-2018, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Strongside

You guys are the first people to know outside of my own family. I had to tell SOMEONE.

Backstory: I'm 33 years old. I'm married to the love of my life. We've been together for 16 years, married for 3. That's a long ****ing time.

I had a bit of a dead-beat dad growing up, and I know that I have it in me to give this kid everything I wish I'd had in my own childhood and more.

I know there are some fantastic dads here on CP, so what do I need to know? What are your best dad tips?

Spare me the "your life is over" bullshit. I've traveled the world, I've climbed mountains, I've swam in every Ocean and set foot on every continent. As far as I'm concerned, this sounds like an adventure unlike any I've ever undertaken, and I can't wait!

First off, Congratulations!

Second, I'm right there with you. My first little one is due in October and I absolutely cannot wait!

Prison Bitch · 06-07-2018, 08:27 AM

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Originally Posted by luv

Congratulations!

As a woman, I can tell you that I can't think of a greater joy than hearing my boyfriend reading to our son, playing with our son, or giving our son a bath.

I'm not a man, but my advice to you would be to know that you're not going to be perfect. No one is. I don't know if dads compare themselves to other dads like moms compare themselves to other moms, but knowing that no one ever really has it all together helps a lot.

Be happy, be consistent, and treat his mother like a queen. Also, just be there.

And maybe even propose to her.

**wazu** · 06-07-2018, 08:29 AM

Congrats! Your life is just beginning. A few initial tips:

1. Don’t use baby talk or talk down to your kids.

Okay that wasn’t a very big list. If I think of anything else I’ll check back in.

phisherman · 06-07-2018, 08:32 AM

I've got an 8 year old daughter and a 1 year old son. It's awesome, terrible, awesomely terrible and terribly awesome all at once.

My only real parenting "advice" is to love your kids and don't withhold love and affection just because they misbehave. A lot of my generation was raised on bullshit Skinner behavioral psychology in which parents withhold love until kids obey/behave. This has created a full generation of people that constantly need validation through extrinsic sources like FB, Instagram, etc.

I think just being around is the most important thing. Be a good person and do things for the right reasons and kids will pick up on it.

**luv** · 06-07-2018, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Prison Bitch

And maybe even propose to her.

He said they've been married for three years. Maybe work on your reading comprehension?

(PS. Yes, I know this was an attempt to slam me. However, I'm perfectly fine with my life. Thank you for your concern though.)

**Iowanian** · 06-07-2018, 08:34 AM

I've been trying to think of a really simple way to explain parenthood.

A year from now, you'll be holding two little feet, the size of the end of your thumb with one hand, elevating a tiny bottom into the air so you can slide a clean diaper under a freshly wiped little butt. You're probably going realize the new diaper is going to be loaded before you've even strapped it on and you'll catch yourself slipping your hand under the butt and catching a palm full of tapioca.

In short, in a few months, another human might shit in the palm of your hand, and you won't even care. Once you learn about choking you'll be more afraid of an uncut grape than a shady guy in a dark parking lot.

Also, all new parents please do this one thing for me...Go get certified in child CPR.

Prison Bitch · 06-07-2018, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by luv

He said they've been married for three years. Maybe work on your reading comprehension?

(PS. Yes, I know this was an attempt to slam me. However, I'm perfectly fine with my life. Thank you for your concern though.)

You don't want to be married to your live in boyfriend?

You're the first woman I've ever heard say that.

KS Smitty · 06-07-2018, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Prison Bitch

You don't want to be married to your live in boyfriend?

You're the first woman I've ever heard say that.

You must not know very many women.

KS Smitty · 06-07-2018, 09:36 AM

Love 'em, feed 'em and keep 'em clean. The rest will work out on it's own.

Prison Bitch · 06-07-2018, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by KS Smitty

You must not know very many women.

The number of women who live with their boyfriend/baby daddy and who DONT want marriage is approximately zero.

**wazu** · 06-07-2018, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Prison Bitch

The number of women who live with their boyfriend/baby daddy and who DONT want marriage is approximately zero.

Nobody cares. Stop shitting up the thread with this.

06-06-2018, 09:51 PM
Strongside Mahomes or GTFO Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: KC Casino cash: $6144282	So, I just found out I'm going to be a dad... You guys are the first people to know outside of my own family. I had to tell SOMEONE. Backstory: I'm 33 years old. I'm married to the love of my life. We've been together for 16 years, married for 3. That's a long ****ing time. I had a bit of a dead-beat dad growing up, and I know that I have it in me to give this kid everything I wish I'd had in my own childhood and more. I know there are some fantastic dads here on CP, so what do I need to know? What are your best dad tips? Spare me the "your life is over" bullshit. I've traveled the world, I've climbed mountains, I've swam in every Ocean and set foot on every continent. As far as I'm concerned, this sounds like an adventure unlike any I've ever undertaken, and I can't wait!
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oldman Curmudgeon Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: North by Northwest Casino cash: $5836784	Congrats, dude. Yes, your life, at least how you've lived it until now, is over. No more spur of the moment trips to Vegas, no more unplanned sex romps whenever you feel like it, and you will wonder where all your money went. But there's some good tips in this thread. I'll tell you to get involved, but don't be a helicopter parent. Step up when your kids need it. Be a man, those dirty diapers don't change themselves. If you have a son, show him how to treat women by how you treat your wife. If you have a daughter, show her what she should look for in her own mate by how you treat your wife. Oh, and buy a shotgun, you'll need it sooner than you think Last edited by oldman; 06-07-2018 at 08:25 AM..
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06-07-2018, 08:32 AM	#53
phisherman King Sandbagger Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Summit, MO Casino cash: $1645484	I've got an 8 year old daughter and a 1 year old son. It's awesome, terrible, awesomely terrible and terribly awesome all at once. My only real parenting "advice" is to love your kids and don't withhold love and affection just because they misbehave. A lot of my generation was raised on bullshit Skinner behavioral psychology in which parents withhold love until kids obey/behave. This has created a full generation of people that constantly need validation through extrinsic sources like FB, Instagram, etc. I think just being around is the most important thing. Be a good person and do things for the right reasons and kids will pick up on it.
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06-07-2018, 08:34 AM	#55
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4788454	I've been trying to think of a really simple way to explain parenthood. A year from now, you'll be holding two little feet, the size of the end of your thumb with one hand, elevating a tiny bottom into the air so you can slide a clean diaper under a freshly wiped little butt. You're probably going realize the new diaper is going to be loaded before you've even strapped it on and you'll catch yourself slipping your hand under the butt and catching a palm full of tapioca. In short, in a few months, another human might shit in the palm of your hand, and you won't even care. Once you learn about choking you'll be more afraid of an uncut grape than a shady guy in a dark parking lot. Also, all new parents please do this one thing for me...Go get certified in child CPR.
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06-07-2018, 09:36 AM	#58
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