GF of 3 years left me yesterday....
She's going for her PhD, it takes up a lot of her time & I felt a tad bit neglected. I know it's tough for her as it is but I told her how I felt. She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore.....
I'm still young & I've left a long relationship (4 years) before but this was different. She was more than my gf but my best friend too.....I was planning on proposing to her later this year but that's clearly out the window. I'm getting 50/50 opinions from people on if I should just let her be & move on or fight for the girl I love / my best friend. She was all torn up hysterically crying last night when the conversation was going on.....Don't know, felt like I needed to air it out to a different crowd than my friends. What y'all think? |
first in with "Antifreeze" :p
Give it some time. Ya know what they say "If you love it let it go,,if it comes back...." |
Hard to judge things right at this point. Probably thinking a lot of things given it was just yesterday.
My wife & I when we were dating broke up for a short time that feel like it was over for good. Finally wising up, I settled down and made the changes that needed to be made as we were at the time long distance. Begged her to give me another chance. Best move I ever made. Unfortunately, sometimes you don't realize what you have until it's gone. Good luck. |
cease contact initiation. If she texts you, don't write back for some hours. DONT apologise for the delay. If she calls, don't answer, and text back some hours later.
You have to be in demand, not supply. |
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You both need some time away. You'll get back together if it's meant to be.l |
re: above poster - things are fundamentally different when you're married.
Do not, i repeat DO NOT, beg her to let you back. Act like you're peachy without her and she'll be begging you to take her back before you know it. |
Classic situation, Mr. Pushead2.
It's time for you to choose between your one true love and serial killing. Seriously, it sounds like she feels pressured and backed away. Classic stuff. Here's what you do ... focus on yourself. Do all the right things you need to do ... for you. Do not cling ... this is very important ... clinging is bad. Real bad. Just focus on your life and what you can do to improve and take care of yourself. After awhile, things will work out. It won't take long. Girls fall in love with you for a reason ... give them a better reason. FAX |
Time to find someone new, i never bought into that i love you but i'm not in love with you. Sorry man but it's for the best you find another.
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yeah I feel the working on myself part, I'm almost done with my college degree & I play in 3 hockey leagues including one that travels across the US & Canada on tournaments. So I am busy myself. I think the part that hurts the most for me is the best friend part. The routine of talking day & night, that gets to me. I'm on the road for a tournament in January, my alternate captain of my team is a single dude in his late 30s. So when I spoke to him last night he was saying that would be a good test for both y'all. Will she notice? Will she care you're away?
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I always think of relationships as having tension ... kind of like two people being connected by a rubber band like Kate Bush talks about.
When there's no tension, there's no fun ... or excitement. Thing is, if you want the girl to snap back closer to you, you have to lean back and create more tension. When you lean back enough, eventually she comes flying forward. Funny how that works. FAX |
This means the Chiefs will win this weekend.
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another thing is she has NO family here in NYC & very little friends....She's from Oklahoma but came here to go to NYU.
So the fact that she's willing to accept being VERY lonely is making me think it's over but at the same time thinking once she sees how lonely she will be she'll think twice. |
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