suzzer99 |
12-26-2016 11:56 PM |
I had a girlfriend that physically attacked me twice during fights. Of course we were both drunk each time. The first time I was so shocked I just tried to pin her down as she bit, scratched, punched and kicked me. Didn't help that she's freakishly strong. We were in a motel room and the cops came. That was fun. The second time I was a little more mentally prepared for it, and I actually shoved her down a couple times as she came at me. The fight ended with her picking up a dumbbell, and me telling her if she hit me with that she would kill me. She slowly put it down as sanity returned to her eyes.
We almost didn't make it past that. I told her if that ever happens again we're done. It took months to get back to normal each time. We learned that we can't get drunk together, ever. So something good came out of it.
Another girl I got into a drunken fight at the Chiefs game at SD of all places. We got in a spat, so she ditched me for most of the second half, then claimed her cel phone was dead. I looked at it and it had 4 bars of battery life. I got so pissed I shoved the phone into her chest - reaching over her shoulder from behind. Apparently my hand lingered on her throat for a second or two. The cops came on that one too as we were driving out of the parking lot. Why they didn't give me a DUI I have no idea.
I blocked out the neck part. But of course she brought it up years later. I think she used it to turn her daughter against me like 8 years after it happened, and I'd been in her and the kid's life that whole time - largely supporting them. That woman could go to the Olympics for pushing buttons and enraging someone. I was still 100% in the wrong and it scares me that I got even a little bit physical with her - as I didn't think I was capable of something like that.
Anyway the point is, obviously no man should ever hit a woman under any circumstances, but to me anyway the level of culpability isn't always cut and dried. That's why the Ray Rice video was so shocking. He ambushed her and struck like a viper. Also he was a good 10 years older than Hill.
I'm willing to at least allow the possibility that someone as young as Hill, who didn't have the most stable upbringing, could be redeemable.
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