Okay, It's Time to Come Clean

[DoucheMcCloud]

This has been an extremely difficult month+ for more me. I'm not really one to share my personal life with this forum but early last month, my wife was diagnosed with cancer. I've never had to deal with this, ever. Not parents, cousins, grandparents, great aunts and uncles, etc.

Because my MIL contracted terminal cancer two years ago and has already outlived her prognosis, we chose not to tell anyone at all, until we definitely knew what we were facing. It was beyond difficult to hold it inside.

So, this issue, which is completely unrelated to this forum, began to manifest itself. I began "playfully" poking at people for their views on a QB. My unrelated feelings and anger began to take over and I felt cathartic and a release arguing over a certain QB that people that I respect and would at any other time, call friends.

I was pretty out of control in late January and without going back to read what I posted, probably completely out of control in February. I was releasing all this energy, which has been enormous, to say the least. This forum allowed me to do just that.

As most of you know, I have a 4 year old and a 6 month old. The very thought of losing my wife of 17 years was devastating. Every single question went through my mind: Do I re-marry? No. Then how do my girls grow up without not only their mother, but a mother figure? How can I raise two babies? How am I going to do this? The internal questions were almost never ending.

My wife had surgery last week and just this evening, the doctor confirmed that she was cancer-free. She'll need to have monthly checkups for 2 years, then quarterly check ups for 3 years. But it was pretty much a revelation and a new lease on life.

Anyway, my apologies to SNR, BossChief, DJ, Htis, Milkman, etc. for putting up my nonsense. As I said, it's been a release and I appreciate the fact that you guys haven't totally lost it with me.

So, with all that said, I'm back to normal. Well, at least as much as I can be after this experience.

Thanks again.

[JASONSAUTO]

Glad to hear things are looking up buddy.

[threebag02]

**** You Dane. I am glad your wife is okay. You **** Stick.

[htismaqe]

Dude, I wanna laugh and I wanna cry.

Why do you do this to me?

Seriously, that is just unbelievable. I absolutely accept your apology and I hope you'll accept mine.

My wife's uncle was diagnosed in October with Stage 4 cancer, two tumors in his brain and 1 tumor in his lung. 2 surgeries, 4 chemo treatments, and 7 radiation treatments (1 to go!) later and the doctor says he probably bought himself 5 years. He's 71 and would have likely died sometime around now had my wife not noticed the symptoms when she did (she thought he had a small stroke, it was the tumors pushing on his brain).

I am glad that you are able to experience a miracle like that. And I'm REALLY glad that your kids get to have their mother - they're probably young enough that they'll only know what you choose to tell them.

[LOCOChief]

Congrats that's great news for your family, Cancer Free!!! Personally the best words I've ever heard.

You're a gigantic douche, but a lucky one.

[OnTheWarpath58]

Not sure how I missed this on Facebook, but glad to hear a positive outcome.

[Nightfyre]

Well Dane, I for one am glad this forum could provide such a release. I think we've all had moments on this forum which we are not proud of, but it keeps it lively.

As for the family situation, I am sorry to hear your wife was diagnosed with cancer but am glad to hear that she is cancer-free after surgery. I will definitely be hoping that she has a speedy recovery and remains cancer free. Cheers.

[theelusiveeightrop]

Prayers for all.

[SNR]

No need to apologize, dude. These are words on a football forum. Whatever anybody says about anything when it comes to football on here comes second to real life.

If you hadn't posted this thread, I'm sure everybody would have shortly thereafter forgotten about the pissing matches we've had the past few weeks. Now that we know what you and your family have been going through, it's still not that big of a deal.

Very glad to hear the surgery was a success. Cancer is a ****ing asshole, but considering who your wife lives with, it's no surprise that she's beating it

Prayers and best of luck, man.

[Graystoke]

Cancer Sucks so bad. What a worry with small children, a wife you love, an uncertain future.
Man, glad it is sorting itself out on a positive note.
Life is fragile shit.
Good luck

[BossChief]

No prob, bro. I know first hand what that feels like to deal with cancer and other life threatening health issues and how it has effect your mood and emotional state. Helplessness isn't something I deal with well, either. After all, as you know, i lost an ex around 3 years ago and am raising my 8 year old with learning disabilities by myself. Sometimes, we just need to vent and let it out. Completely natural.

My step dad had the same thing a year or so ago and is on the same schedule for check ups.

Best of luck and we will keep her in our prayers.

[KevB]

I'm always glad to hear when someone on this board goes through a tough time and comes out the other side with a positive outcome. Happy that your family will be healthy and intact.

[Mike in SW-MO]

Some things are too big to hold in. When you try it squirts out around the seams.

[DeezNutz]

Thrilled that your family has received a positive prognosis. Best of thoughts your way.

Everything else doesn't really matter.

[Frosty]

I thought maybe you were drunk posting.

Glad the prognosis is good. My sister fought breast cancer a couple of years ago and successfully beat it. Scary stuff!

[luv]

I've had an aunt, a grandmother, and a grandfather die from brain tumor, breast cancer, and Mesothelioma respectively. Sucks ass. So glad to hear the good news.