Once a cheater, always a cheater?

[ThaVirus]

How do you feel about this age-old question?

Can you ever fully trust someone that's cheated?

How about when a woman (or man, if that's what you're into) cheated on their significant other with you, dumped the other person, then began a relationship with you? Anyone ever had that situation? Did it work out?

If you're brave enough, has anyone here ever cheated? Was it a one time thing or recurring? Were you ever able to stop your adulterous ways?

[burt]

In my youth, I was a cheater. No longer. IF I ever make the vow...I will honor it and her. People do change....it's called growing up. But I don't expect this to be the norm. When I was young, I had a good outside and a bad inside. Now I have a good inside and bad outside!!!

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Phobia

We don't hang out much but I agree you're living the dream roughly 4 days a year or so. The other 361 days I'm living the dream. Unless you have 4 or 5 regular chicks who love you unconditionally and are willing to bear your children and still love you for all your stupid faults, I think I win. But you likely prioritize differently so, whatever. It takes all kinds. I don't dislike gay people, Dave.

You chose to build a second family and god bless you you seem to be happier than any other time I have known you. That is a decision I would never make however. IF my marriage didn't work for any reason I would never get married again as I wouldn't rebuild. I am putting everything into this one kid and that's it for me. On that note our marriage is very successful and seems to just get better with time which is more than I can say for just about any of the marriages around us. Codependency seems to be everywhere. I have no interest in living out my days in that enviroment.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by burt

In my youth, I was a cheater. No longer. IF I ever make the vow...I will honor it and her. People do change....it's called growing up. But I don't expect this to be the norm. When I was young, I had a good outside and a bad inside. Now I have a good inside and bad outside!!!

So did this good inside come about with the lack of options your bad outside was providing?

[burt]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

So did this good inside come about with the lack of options your bad outside was providing?

Actually, my good outside is returning...coupled with a good inside...I COULD be considered quite a catch!!

[CoMoChief]

I think it depends on circumstances.

If you're married....once a cheater ..always a cheater.

If you're just dating....well then I don't think that really counts.

[Dayze]

If, say, it were my wife of 25 years, and we've had zero issues throughout the course of the ; and it happened in a drunken state etc. and she was desperately remorseful in her actions, it would be really hard for me not to forgive her.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Dayze

If, say, it were my wife of 25 years, and we've had zero issues throughout the course of the ; and it happened in a drunken state etc. and she was desperately remorseful in her actions, it would be really hard for me not to forgive her.

So would you ask for your 1 time hall pass?

BTW, 25 years of marriage with zero issues is impossible. You know that right?

[burt]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

So would you ask for your 1 time hall pass.

BTW, 25 years of marriage with zero issues is improbable. You know that right?

FYP

[Dayze]

Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY

So would you ask for your 1 time hall pass?

BTW, 25 years of marriage with zero issues is impossible. You know that right?

we've already talked; we both have a 1 time get out of jail free card if certain scenarios come up.; Hers is if David Beckham ever wants to tknock the bottom out of her, I told her have fun.

mine varies. lol. My current one is Emma Stone.

[Dayze]

zero issue in terms of the relationship almost being derailed etc.
my wife and I lieterally have about 2 fights a year. for realz.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Dayze

zero issue in terms of the relationship almost being derailed etc.
my wife and I lieterally have about 2 fights a year. for realz.

No, I believe that. We have what I call our annual and to tell you the truth it isn't all that. I think women just feel the need to test you once or twice a year for whatever reason.

[Dayze]

I concur

[stevieray]

Celebrated 20 years on wednesday...never would've happened if either on of us had cheated...we made that agreement before we tied the knot.

I'm crazy about my wife.

[Rausch]

Depends.

I cheated on every G/F I ever had until my wife...

[Coogs]

Originally Posted by stevieray

Celebrated 20 years on wednesday...never would've happened if either on of us had cheated...we made that agreement before we tied the knot.

I'm crazy about my wife.

Congrats! You're two weeks ahead of me and Mrs. Coogs. 20 years on the 19th! Can't believe she has put up with me that long. And no, I have never strayed. Her... not so sure. My youngest son is very athletic... so I suspect the Schwan's man may be involved.