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ThaVirus · 12-06-2012, 12:03 PM

How do you feel about this age-old question?

Can you ever fully trust someone that's cheated?

How about when a woman (or man, if that's what you're into) cheated on their significant other with you, dumped the other person, then began a relationship with you? Anyone ever had that situation? Did it work out?

If you're brave enough, has anyone here ever cheated? Was it a one time thing or recurring? Were you ever able to stop your adulterous ways?

something cooler · 12-06-2012, 05:01 PM

Everybody is different. That goes for everything from relationships to grocery shopping. You can't label anyone in todays unique world.

Mr. Laz · 12-06-2012, 05:02 PM

people can and do change

As people age their perspective changes

I don't expect someone to change in a month or even a year but as the years go by they change.

something cooler · 12-06-2012, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

Good question. Should I feel bad for enabling him to cheat, or should the feeling of guilt be on him? If the cheater shows no remorse, should the third party hold any blame?

well, if you go to the press you're going to get a lot of money, and you should never feel bad about a lot of money

**luv** · 12-06-2012, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

Good question. Should I feel bad for enabling him to cheat, or should the feeling of guilt be on him? If the cheater shows no remorse, should the third party hold any blame?

PS. I probably would not consider entering into a relationship with someone who cheats with me. Sex is one thing, but I will not tie myself to that person emotionally.

BIG_DADDY · 12-06-2012, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

PS. I probably would not consider entering into a relationship with someone who cheats with me. Sex is one thing, but I will not tie myself to that person emotionally.

So you have not problem sleeping with a cheater, got it. Well, there you go.

Mr. Laz · 12-06-2012, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

PS. I probably would not consider entering into a relationship with someone who cheats with me. Sex is one thing, but I will not tie myself to that person emotionally.

If he is cheating with you he will cheat ON you.

sex and fun otherwise just move on

something cooler · 12-06-2012, 05:07 PM

I think how are attractive each partner in the relationship is factors in pretty big time too.

ThaVirus · 12-06-2012, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

Also, is the person who the person cheated with a bad person? Even if they knew the cheater was in a relationship but they weren't?

I've been there before.

She'd answer his call while butt naked laying in my bed. Tell her she loved him then 5 minutes later we'd be having sex...

I was 18 or so then though so I didn't even care.

Looking back on it I feel pretty bad because i dont think he ever found out. I saw first-hand how easy it was to cheat... You never really know these days..

**frazod** · 12-06-2012, 05:49 PM

I think you are what you are. People can change, but generally they don't.

My ex cheated on me. After I found out, we separated, then got back together, but after that, I no longer gave a shit and cheated on her. During this whole time I was in the service and we were separated, so it was easy enough for both of us. As is the case with most military marriages, it was doomed from the start, anyway.

Very happy with my current wife. Have never cheated, have never been tempted to cheat. At this point, I've got that Al Bundy philosophy about women anyway - one's enough of a pain in the ass, I certainly don't need two.

Spott · 12-06-2012, 05:52 PM

People might change down the road, but once they've cheated on one person, they will continue to cheat on that person as long as they are allowed to get away with it. Most likely that person will continue to cheat in other future relationships but may change and stay monogamous with someone else. But once a cheat, always a cheat is overwhelmingly true.

theelusiveeightrop · 12-06-2012, 05:54 PM

If I wanted some strange, I wouldn't have gotten married. Marriage isn't for everybody. Hopefully one finds this out before marrying. Otherwise, the consequences rarely end well.

**frazod** · 12-06-2012, 05:57 PM

I guess I should add that had my ex and I actually been physically together during our marriage instead of separated for months at a time, things would probably have been different. I don't think we would have stayed together (married way too young), but I also don't think I could be enough of a ****ing snake to have an affair with somebody while she was around - hotel rendezvous, lying about working late, etc.

Discuss Thrower · 12-06-2012, 07:17 PM

Upon further review I had no business posting here earlier. This year I got drunk and messed around with some other dude's fiancée. Granted I knew exactly what I was doing with the girl at the time but the next morning I felt like the despicable piece of garbage that I was for doing something i swore I'd never do.

Coach · 12-06-2012, 07:59 PM

Zebra's can't change their stripes...

ThaVirus · 12-06-2012, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Upon further review I had no business posting here earlier. This year I got drunk and messed around with some other dude's fiancée. Granted I knew exactly what I was doing with the girl at the time but the next morning I felt like the despicable piece of garbage that I was for doing something i swore I'd never do.

That's pretty rough but people make mistakes..

Did/do you feel obligated to tell the fiance?

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frazod Keep firing, assholes! Join Date: Aug 2000 Casino cash: $2833715	I think you are what you are. People can change, but generally they don't. My ex cheated on me. After I found out, we separated, then got back together, but after that, I no longer gave a shit and cheated on her. During this whole time I was in the service and we were separated, so it was easy enough for both of us. As is the case with most military marriages, it was doomed from the start, anyway. Very happy with my current wife. Have never cheated, have never been tempted to cheat. At this point, I've got that Al Bundy philosophy about women anyway - one's enough of a pain in the ass, I certainly don't need two. __________________ I'm not mean; I just don't like you.
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12-06-2012, 05:57 PM	#42
frazod Keep firing, assholes! Join Date: Aug 2000 Casino cash: $2833715	I guess I should add that had my ex and I actually been physically together during our marriage instead of separated for months at a time, things would probably have been different. I don't think we would have stayed together (married way too young), but I also don't think I could be enough of a ****ing snake to have an affair with somebody while she was around - hotel rendezvous, lying about working late, etc. __________________ I'm not mean; I just don't like you.
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