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It's tough to even think about... but i just want to do this right... and not having the kids brought up here, just to have the junkie mom try to get them back in a year, etc etc.
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01-07-2016, 11:22 AM | #17 | |
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01-07-2016, 11:24 AM | #19 |
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One way or another you will need both parents to give you full custody of the children. If they do not show up for court-I think they waive their rights as long as they were legally served. You will have to go through the legal adoption process. There are a lot of websites showing the process, church and charity programs that can help with the cost. Do everything by the book and it will save a lot of drama and problems down the road.
As far as the lady wanting to keep a kid only for benefits- that is bullshit. Keep all the kids together-they need each other. You will grow old surrounded by lots of children, grand children, love and laughter. It will be tough financially in the near future, but will be worth it in the long run. Best of luck!! |
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01-07-2016, 11:26 AM | #20 |
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I have two girls, if I can send you any of their outgrown clothes/Toys ect please let me know. What you're thinking about doing is awesome. I have my girls volunteer in a youth home once a week, while its better than being in a neglected abusive environment its nowhere near being with family.
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01-07-2016, 11:26 AM | #21 |
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Haha, nah... like i said... we're good there. I have a nice house in OP, my kids might not be happy with the sleeping arrangements but that's the least of the concerns here.
The other issue, that I left out... is that if the junkie mom gets caught up to by the State, these kids are going to end up in the system immediately. So we're kind of on a time crunch.
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01-07-2016, 11:27 AM | #22 | |
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The ex works with kids on felony probation and mental health issues. She has had to help families get SSI payments for this type of stuff. Sometimes once the diagnosis is in place, the schools get really lazy about trying to come up with a solution and say, "Well the kid has XYZ disability we've done what we can." while shoving them in classes or programs that don't address their needs. If the compensation is needed, then it is needed and don't be afraid to go for it. Just be cautious on marginal issues because once you start receiving the payments/diagnosis, it can be detrimental to the kid. |
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01-07-2016, 11:29 AM | #23 | |
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01-07-2016, 11:30 AM | #24 | |
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A family lawyer will be able to help direct them to the right resources. Obtaining SSDI payments for kids is a lot easier than I thought was. The ex has helped people get payments that I thought they would never qualify for because of their income. |
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01-07-2016, 11:32 AM | #25 |
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Before going to State agencies, apply for a Costco card
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01-07-2016, 11:35 AM | #26 |
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LOL we get Sam's Club through my work!
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01-07-2016, 11:36 AM | #27 | |
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Thanks everyone for the insight and comments!
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01-07-2016, 11:36 AM | #28 |
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This. Good advice from PB for once. You'll be surprised how far you can stretch a dollar when you absolutely need to.
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01-07-2016, 11:44 AM | #29 |
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Best bet for advice is to find a family law attorney. I'm not sure if they are hourly based or contingency based (more than likely to offer a free consultation if they are contingency based). If you're unsure of who to call, I can see if I can find the number of the local bar association up there. I know the one in Springfield has a referral line. Just call, tell them the situation, and they'll refer you to someone who can best help. If money is an issue, I'm sure most attorneys in this area of law accept payment plans. I know several in this area do.
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01-07-2016, 11:45 AM | #30 |
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Rather than answering "What can he do", maybe we should ask "what can we do?" and PayPal you some loose change. I'll send you $25 if you PM an address. I'm pretty sure you're not making this up
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