Life Get a well-earned sympathetic pat on the back in this thread.

Direckshun · 03-20-2018, 11:17 PM

I like you guys and I want to try something positive and new.

We here at CP are known for being harsh assholes.

But this thread, we're going to be something different.

Tell us what's eating you, this evening. It can be a big huge deal, or it can be something smaller. It doesn't matter.

I am going to politely ask everybody who responds in this thread to react with empathy, politeness, and any respectful advice that's requested of the person asking.

Inevitably, there will be people who want to storm the thread with their typical assholishness, and I request anybody reacting with anything less than positive empathy to be "downvoted" until their post vanishes. Don't quote them or respond.

Go ahead.

What's bothering you? How can we make your evening more bearable in any way?

**Bugeater** · 03-20-2018, 11:24 PM

This was just touched on in another thread, so I'll spill my guts here too.

I'm going to be 50 in a couple months, and 4 months ago I walked away from my 2nd career, and I have no idea what I'm going to do now.

Direckshun · 03-20-2018, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

This was just touched on in another thread, so I'll spill my guts here too.

I'm going to be 50 in a couple months, and 4 months ago I walked away from my 2nd career, and I have no idea what I'm going to do now.

Wow. That would terrify me too. I have no idea what your skillset is but that is definitely a hill you're about to climb.

Do you mind if I ask you follow up questions? Why would you walk from a career without a backup plan in your pocket?

Best of wishes. You seem like a sharp dude.

**wazu** · 03-20-2018, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

This was just touched on in another thread, so I'll spill my guts here too.

I'm going to be 50 in a couple months, and 4 months ago I walked away from my 2nd career, and I have no idea what I'm going to do now.

Sorry, brother. That takes courage, though, and you have lots of options. Ever considered hookin?

**Rain Man** · 03-20-2018, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

This was just touched on in another thread, so I'll spill my guts here too.

I'm going to be 50 in a couple months, and 4 months ago I walked away from my 2nd career, and I have no idea what I'm going to do now.

You seem to have very tangible skills. There's some employer out there who's looking for you, and it's just a matter of finding each other.

**Bugeater** · 03-20-2018, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Direckshun

Wow. That would terrify me too. I have no idea what your skillset is but that is definitely a hill you're about to climb.

Do you mind if I ask you follow up questions? Why would you walk from a career without a backup plan in your pocket?

Best of wishes. You seem like a sharp dude.

Last year I had what was absolutely, positively, the worst work experience of my life, and the only way to ensure that it never happened again was to leave the industry for good.

**Rain Man** · 03-20-2018, 11:35 PM

I was about to make a thread about this, but wasn't sure if it was worth it.

My parents are nice people, but they refuse to have an adult relationship with me. They constantly say things like, "You're always going to be five years old to us,", and unbelievably act like there's some chance that I'll move into their house with them at some point. The odds of that are so far below zero that it blows up computers to even try to calculate it.

It's creepy first of all, but it's also very disrespectful. They don't acknowledge the fact that I've been an independent adult for decades, and this 'you'll always be a little boy to us' talk disregards everything I've accomplished in my life. As they get older, it seems to be getting worse and worse. It's really disappointing that they can't evolve the relationship and see me for who I am.

Direckshun · 03-20-2018, 11:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

Last year I had what was absolutely, positively, the worst work experience of my life, and the only way to ensure that it never happened again was to leave the industry for good.

Good lord. I can't imagine what kind of experience I would need to leave my current position. That's unbelievable.

Good on you for keeping your sanity and self-respect in tact. A rock-solid constitution you must have.

**Rain Man** · 03-20-2018, 11:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bugeater

Last year I had what was absolutely, positively, the worst work experience of my life, and the only way to ensure that it never happened again was to leave the industry for good.

What do you like to do that will earn money?

**Bugeater** · 03-20-2018, 11:36 PM

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Originally Posted by wazu

Sorry, brother. That takes courage, though, and you have lots of options. Ever considered hookin?

No, but BEP did suggest nude modeling for an art school, which is a related field.

**DaneMcCloud** · 03-20-2018, 11:36 PM

Everyone in my family has had their appendix removed. I knew there would come a day when my children would face that same reality.

Last night, my oldest began crying about stomach pain in the appendix region. I immediately told my wife to take her to the ER nearest by. They ran some tests and afterwards, told us that they didn't have a Pediatric surgeon on staff.

Meanwhile, I was taking care of the 5 year old and texting constantly. They took an ambulance to an affiliated hospital 13 miles away (or 45 minutes LA time). They ran test after test and couldn't make a determination.

After I dropped off the 5 year old this morning at school, I headed over, explained the situation to the Resident Dr. My daughter was vomiting constantly. The surgeon was due to arrive at 2pm, so we suffered for hours. The performed a CT scan (this is after 3 Ultrasounds) and found fluid outside of her ovaries. They weren't sure if it was an Ovarian cyst that burst or something else. The appendix looked fine.

Finally, the doc arrived and I impressed upon her our family history of appendicitis. She took note and took my daughter into surgery. Before that, she said that she might need to sever her Small Colon and reattach. She also warned that if the Small Colon was Black, and therefore deprived of oxygen, she'd have to sever it and put in a Colostomy insert (for a bag). After three months, she'd go back in and attempt to reattach the Small Colon.

About an hour later, the nurse called. Surgery was complete. They found that at birth, her Small Intestine kinked up like a hose, so she removed the excess tissue. She also said that she was looking for any reason to remove the appendix due to our family history and said the tip was slightly inflamed, so it's gone.

After 14 hours at the hospital today, I'm home. My wife is staying overnight, again, and I"ll go back tomorrow. My daughter's surgery was a success. Too many close friends reached out and the 5 year old is staying with one of her best friends tonight (and a great couple).

All that said, after losing my 14.5 year old Lab and best friend just last week and now this, it's been a fairly rough March.

**Bugeater** · 03-20-2018, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Direckshun

Good lord. I can't imagine what kind of experience I would need to leave my current position. That's unbelievable.

Good on you for keeping your sanity and self-respect in tact. A rock-solid constitution you must have.

My sanity is hardly intact.

It affected me both mentally and physically, and I'm still working through those issues.

Prison Bitch · 03-20-2018, 11:41 PM

Little shit doesn't bother me any more. A few years ago we rushed our 3 year old to the hospital where he stayed for several days. THAT bothered me.

Andy Reid's bullshit and job stress and bills and car taxes and yada yada means nothing. None of it matters. And you won't remember any of it down the road anyway.

Lincoln used to say: if you wanna strain your memory, try and think of what you worried about one year ago today.

RippedmyFlesh · 03-20-2018, 11:43 PM

Rain Man not to justify their behaviour but as a parent I can tell you one of the saddest conclusions I came to was my kids didn't need me. They are good kids and love me but don't need me for anything and I should be proud of their independence. But it's hard to just be a parent in name because when they were young it always my most important job and now it's done. No parent wants it to end.

**Bugeater** · 03-20-2018, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

What do you like to do that will earn money?

I like the trade type work, renovations, remodeling, etc, and I'm doing that now to get by but it's not sustainable. I already did it for 20+ years but gave it up 9 years ago due to mounting physical issues.

I enjoyed the apartment maintenance as well, it was the perfect fit for my skillset without the physical rigors. And I was doing very well for myself until everything went to hell last year.

03-20-2018, 11:17 PM
Direckshun __ Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Springpatch Casino cash: $4403447	Get a well-earned sympathetic pat on the back in this thread. I like you guys and I want to try something positive and new. We here at CP are known for being harsh assholes. But this thread, we're going to be something different. Tell us what's eating you, this evening. It can be a big huge deal, or it can be something smaller. It doesn't matter. I am going to politely ask everybody who responds in this thread to react with empathy, politeness, and any respectful advice that's requested of the person asking. Inevitably, there will be people who want to storm the thread with their typical assholishness, and I request anybody reacting with anything less than positive empathy to be "downvoted" until their post vanishes. Don't quote them or respond. Go ahead. What's bothering you? How can we make your evening more bearable in any way?
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03-20-2018, 11:24 PM	#2
Bugeater The Maintenance Guy Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Renovated Bugeater Estate Casino cash: $6252680	This was just touched on in another thread, so I'll spill my guts here too. I'm going to be 50 in a couple months, and 4 months ago I walked away from my 2nd career, and I have no idea what I'm going to do now.
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03-20-2018, 11:35 PM	#7
Rain Man NFL's #1 Ermines Fan Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $3348491 VARSITY	I was about to make a thread about this, but wasn't sure if it was worth it. My parents are nice people, but they refuse to have an adult relationship with me. They constantly say things like, "You're always going to be five years old to us,", and unbelievably act like there's some chance that I'll move into their house with them at some point. The odds of that are so far below zero that it blows up computers to even try to calculate it. It's creepy first of all, but it's also very disrespectful. They don't acknowledge the fact that I've been an independent adult for decades, and this 'you'll always be a little boy to us' talk disregards everything I've accomplished in my life. As they get older, it seems to be getting worse and worse. It's really disappointing that they can't evolve the relationship and see me for who I am. __________________ I'm putting random letters here as a celebration of free speech: xigrakgrah misorojeq rkemeseit.
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03-20-2018, 11:36 PM	#11
DaneMcCloud Supporter Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Hollywood, CA Casino cash: $10053648	Everyone in my family has had their appendix removed. I knew there would come a day when my children would face that same reality. Last night, my oldest began crying about stomach pain in the appendix region. I immediately told my wife to take her to the ER nearest by. They ran some tests and afterwards, told us that they didn't have a Pediatric surgeon on staff. Meanwhile, I was taking care of the 5 year old and texting constantly. They took an ambulance to an affiliated hospital 13 miles away (or 45 minutes LA time). They ran test after test and couldn't make a determination. After I dropped off the 5 year old this morning at school, I headed over, explained the situation to the Resident Dr. My daughter was vomiting constantly. The surgeon was due to arrive at 2pm, so we suffered for hours. The performed a CT scan (this is after 3 Ultrasounds) and found fluid outside of her ovaries. They weren't sure if it was an Ovarian cyst that burst or something else. The appendix looked fine. Finally, the doc arrived and I impressed upon her our family history of appendicitis. She took note and took my daughter into surgery. Before that, she said that she might need to sever her Small Colon and reattach. She also warned that if the Small Colon was Black, and therefore deprived of oxygen, she'd have to sever it and put in a Colostomy insert (for a bag). After three months, she'd go back in and attempt to reattach the Small Colon. About an hour later, the nurse called. Surgery was complete. They found that at birth, her Small Intestine kinked up like a hose, so she removed the excess tissue. She also said that she was looking for any reason to remove the appendix due to our family history and said the tip was slightly inflamed, so it's gone. After 14 hours at the hospital today, I'm home. My wife is staying overnight, again, and I"ll go back tomorrow. My daughter's surgery was a success. Too many close friends reached out and the 5 year old is staying with one of her best friends tonight (and a great couple). All that said, after losing my 14.5 year old Lab and best friend just last week and now this, it's been a fairly rough March.
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03-20-2018, 11:41 PM	#13
Prison Bitch Rabbi Goldmann Join Date: Nov 2012 Casino cash: $5450159	Little shit doesn't bother me any more. A few years ago we rushed our 3 year old to the hospital where he stayed for several days. THAT bothered me. Andy Reid's bullshit and job stress and bills and car taxes and yada yada means nothing. None of it matters. And you won't remember any of it down the road anyway. Lincoln used to say: if you wanna strain your memory, try and think of what you worried about one year ago today.
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03-20-2018, 11:43 PM	#14
RippedmyFlesh Veteran Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: New York Casino cash: $10005817	Rain Man not to justify their behaviour but as a parent I can tell you one of the saddest conclusions I came to was my kids didn't need me. They are good kids and love me but don't need me for anything and I should be proud of their independence. But it's hard to just be a parent in name because when they were young it always my most important job and now it's done. No parent wants it to end.
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