Possibly getting married, what do I need to know about a prenup

[BWillie]

No kids, only have cat, but have multiple properties and liquid assets. Plan on filing separately even if get married. What do I need to know?

http://cordellcordell.com/ ???? Their commercials crack me up.

[DaneMcCloud]

The guy that has been claiming for more than a decade that's he's "practical" is on the verge of making the most impractical decision of all time.

[lewdog]

Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

The guy that has been claiming for more than a decade that's he's "practical" is on the verge of making the most impractical decision of all time.

so true!


Should have got married when you both had nothing. The wife and I had about $2k to our name (mostly her money) when we moved to the Southwest and only I had a job to start with. We started making a bit of money and got engaged within the year. There was nothing I was worried about her taking. It was kind of nice. LOL.

I do realize if we get divorced, she can get half of the stuff we own/have now, even though I make substantially more than her. One question I am not sure of is what access does your spouse have to investment accounts in your name? We both contribute about 10% of our paychecks to our 401ks. But since I make substantially more than her, my investment sum is quite a bit more than hers. Is there anyway in a divorce she could access that money?

[eDave]

Originally Posted by lewdog

so true!


Should have got married when you both had nothing. The wife and I had about $2k to our name (mostly her money) when we moved to the Southwest and only I had a job to start with. We started making a bit of money and got engaged within the year. There was nothing I was worried about her taking. It was kind of nice. LOL.

I do realize if we get divorced, she can get half of the stuff we own/have now, even though I make substantially more than her. One question I am not sure of is what access does your spouse have to investment accounts in your name? We both contribute about 10% of our paychecks to our 401ks. But since I make substantially more than her, my investment sum is quite a bit more than hers. Is there anyway in a divorce she could access that money?

You better not divorce your wife. You will never do better than her. She's pretty awesome. But if you are considering it, have her give me a call.

[lewdog]

Originally Posted by eDave

You better not divorce your wife. You will never do better than her. She's pretty awesome. But if you are considering it, have her give me a call.

My wife is awesome and practical. It's super hard to find.

Honestly, I just don't know the answer about the 401k thing? I am just curious and hope I never need to use it!

[Bugeater]

Originally Posted by lewdog

so true!


Should have got married when you both had nothing. The wife and I had about $2k to our name (mostly her money) when we moved to the Southwest and only I had a job to start with. We started making a bit of money and got engaged within the year. There was nothing I was worried about her taking. It was kind of nice. LOL.

I do realize if we get divorced, she can get half of the stuff we own/have now, even though I make substantially more than her. One question I am not sure of is what access does your spouse have to investment accounts in your name? We both contribute about 10% of our paychecks to our 401ks. But since I make substantially more than her, my investment sum is quite a bit more than hers. Is there anyway in a divorce she could access that money?

Yes. That's the only reason my wife hasn't dumped my worthless ass.

[Mrs. Loopner]

Related thread for more advice

so,i got a ****in skunk invading my property
http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=299671

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by -King-

What's she going to do? Get it appraised and keep the price tag on it for everybody to see?
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Wouldn't be surprised..

Probably depends on the girl, but I'd bet certain ones could have a pretty good idea on ballpark figure for the cost just by looking.

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Loopner

After you buy her the expensive engagement ring and get married, how long before she requires a Porsche 911 to keep what you need in a SO?



You're selling yourself short.

Do you think women out there who won't accept you for you?

There are women out there who have depth, you have to want to look for them.

Maybe you don't really want depth and would prefer to show off a pretty costly bauble hanging on your arm too?

Valid points and things I've legitimately thought about. I was poor as shit growing up; her parents are extremely well off. She, like most women, likes the finer things.

We're not getting married anytime soon so I have plenty of time to figure out what truly makes her tick.

[RobBlake]

Originally Posted by ThaVirus

Valid points and things I've legitimately thought about. I was poor as shit growing up; her parents are extremely well off. She, like most women, likes the finer things.

We're not getting married anytime soon so I have plenty of time to figure out what truly makes her tick.

as long as she has character and good reasoning skills *in woman standards* then don't worry too much about physical items.. they come and go.. character.. not as easily

[Why Not?]

Originally Posted by eDave

You better not divorce your wife. You will never do better than her. She's pretty awesome.

THIS!


But I'm pretty sure in AZ, she gets half of everything she can prove you have. Sorry buddy. That 401K is as good as half gone.

[Demonpenz]

Bla bla bla character. It is and always will be about the money.

[Amnorix]

Originally Posted by lewdog

My wife is awesome and practical. It's super hard to find.

Honestly, I just don't know the answer about the 401k thing? I am just curious and hope I never need to use it!

The 401Ks are also a marital asset, so yes, she owns half of your 401K, and vice versa.

And dealing with that in a divorce, if you need to split it as opposed to giving her something else of equal value, is a real bitch.

[Amnorix]

Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

I'm not going to go into detail but rest assured, there's nothing wrong with these guys. All successful (if not extremely so), fit, good looking, etc.

I've had a talk with a few of my wife's friends who just aren't interested anymore and they say "Well, I don't know what's wrong me because I love my husband but I'm just not into it anymore".

Hell, one guy I know (who's since divorced) didn't have sex with his wife for three years before the divorce because she was uninterested.

Suffice to say, he's gone nuts since. The guy is uber successful so he doesn't really need to act like he's in his 20's but he's freaking Snapchatting and doing Tinder and everything else under the sun.

Meanwhile, the wife gained 80 pounds.

I know a few guys in this category too. I can't even figure it out. Maybe the guy is boring as hell in bed, or hung like a hamster, but I'm just astounded.

One guy I know got sex on his birthday every year. ONLY his birthday. That was it. The one day a year he could get a piece of ass.

WTF? Or perhaps more accurate -- What the No ****?

I get it -- kids, jobs, parents -- people are stretched to the max trying to cover all the bases, and the wives often have it the worst with cooking/cleaning/kid crap etc., but if you're not having sex, you're just roommates. What kind of bond do you really have without any sex?

[DaneMcCloud]

Originally Posted by Amnorix

I know a few guys in this category too. I can't even figure it out. Maybe the guy is boring as hell in bed, or hung like a hamster, but I'm just astounded.

One guy I know got sex on his birthday every year. ONLY his birthday. That was it. The one day a year he could get a piece of ass.

WTF? Or perhaps more accurate -- What the No ****?

I get it -- kids, jobs, parents -- people are stretched to the max trying to cover all the bases, and the wives often have it the worst with cooking/cleaning/kid crap etc., but if you're not having sex, you're just roommates. What kind of bond do you really have without any sex?

It's bizarre, man, and IME, has nothing to do with penis size or being "boring". One of the guys I mentioned went through in vitro, twice, with his wife at the time but as it's been explained to me, the more successful he became with producing hit TV shows, the more she resented him for it, refused to have sex for 3 years and finally divorced.

I've got another friend whose wife used to bring other women into the bedroom with them before they were married. Once they got married, that stopped. Then, she had a child and now they barely have sex a few times a year.

Another friend is super successful and has a super hot wife for her age (49). She runs four miles every morning, she's lean, has big tits and is very stylish and is successful in her own right. They used to have crazy sex, now he has to beg for it and gets a blowjob maybe once a month.

I could go on and on and on but I have far too many of these types of tales to share. In most cases, these people dated for an extended period of time and have been married for an extended period of time before this began happening in their early-to-mid 40's.

The guys that have divorced are going crazy bangin' chicks. Like, insane, yet from my understanding, the divorced women are miserable.

I don't get it.

[Amnorix]

Originally Posted by DaneMcCloud

It's bizarre, man, and IME, has nothing to do with penis size or being "boring". One of the guys I mentioned went through in vitro, twice, with his wife at the time but as it's been explained to me, the more successful he became with producing hit TV shows, the more she resented him for it, refused to have sex for 3 years and finally divorced.

Ok, that is ****ing weird. Usually the more successful the guy is, the more women (including his wife) want him. Though maybe she is uber-successful too and it's a competition?

Or, of course, he was super-busy all the time and paid no attention to her. That certainly results in marital problems of all kinds.

I've got another friend whose wife used to bring other women into the bedroom with them before they were married. Once they got married, that stopped. Then, she had a child and now they barely have sex a few times a year.

Yeah, the "had a kid and doesn't want sex anymore" is disturbingly common. It's obviously true that the second a kid shows up, the husband is second fiddle, then third fiddle, and so on, for a good while. That doesn't mean the sex needs to stop though, and most women I know appreciate a break from their kids too. Gotta try date night etc.

Another friend is super successful and has a super hot wife for her age (49). She runs four miles every morning, she's lean, has big tits and is very stylish and is successful in her own right. They used to have crazy sex, now he has to beg for it and gets a blowjob maybe once a month.

That "beg for it thing" is demeaning and emasculating. A hot wife that has her legs superglued together is like an awesome car that you can't drive. ****ing worthless. Time to move on.

I could go on and on and on but I have far too many of these types of tales to share. In most cases, these people dated for an extended period of time and have been married for an extended period of time before this began happening in their early-to-mid 40's.

The guys that have divorced are going crazy bangin' chicks. Like, insane, yet from my understanding, the divorced women are miserable.

I don't get it.

The women are taking their men for granted. They seem to have lost sight of a basic and fundamental fact -- men want sex. Successful men who are reasonably fit will have little trouble getting sex elsewhere.

Don't know what these women are thinking, but hope they enjoy the divorce that is coming their way.

The guy who begs for the monthly blowjob needs to straighten her out. That marriage is toast. No guy with money and reasonable looks and a successful career is going to keep groveling for sex, unless he's actually into that kind of thing, which is rare at best. Eventually he will get resentful, and then the marriage is going to be toast. Get counseling if needed, or have a serious heart-to-heart.