I can't be what I'm not.

Some people are jocks. Some people are preps. Some people are sluts. Some people are popular. Some people are all of the above, or a combination of one or more.

Some people are nerds.

I am a nerd.

Nerds don't go to parties. Those other people do.

I'm not those other people. I don't do what they do.

After covering my basketball games (which put the evening at 7pm) I went to the library and got on the computer until it closed at 8. Then I went to a mexican restaurant and ate dinner. It was then 9 pm. I was led to believe the party was starting at 9:30 or 10 pm. I drove over to her house and parked in a nearby lot. I waited. I felt sick. I went to the university center, and looked in the mirror. I looked like a nerd. I went back to the parking lot, ended up circling the house five times and parking again each time.

The last attempt I actually got out of the car. Guys I was so scared my entire body was screaming for me to get back in the car where it was safe. I got in there and left, and tried not to turn my head to look at that apartment building and the people outside it as I passed it.

Two songs played in the car as I began that trip home. Joe Walsh's "Life's been good to me" and AC/DC's "Hell's Bell's." Those are two of my favorite songs, and they are never played on the radio.

Those were my mp3s, calling me home.

I had a good cry on the way home, but I'm here now, where I belong. With you guys, my geforce 4 and no one else.

To thine own self be true.

[2bikemike]

Just remember to be that brave next time there is a party!

Originally posted by gochiefs
I think I just figured it out.

I know why I didn't go to the party.

There were girls there.

Wrong. You didn't go because of YOU and your insecurities. Don't scapegoat the ladies. The sooner you stop lying to yourself, the sooner you "recover" from your anti-social behavior. Why don't you make a concious decision to bust down the door? Once you do that, everything else will be downhill.

When you go back to work, ask the lady how the party turned out. Explain how you wanted and even planned to go, but you felt shy (not because of her or women in general - that will scare her off). She might think that's sweet and make you a project. One thing leads to another.

The important thing is to acknowledge your absence, don't make excuses, be interested, and communicate with her. This could be a perfect opportunity.

[KcMizzou]

This is a direct quote from left wing Senator Patty Murray from the state of Washington to a group of High School students earlier this month, “(Osama bin Laden has) been out in these countries for decades building schools, building roads, building infrastructure, building day care facilities, building health care facilities and people are extremely grateful,” she said. “He’s made their lives better. We have not done that.”

Some of these mouth breathers never quit romanticizing Osama. Any road this terrorist may have built went directly in and out of a terrorist camp aimed at training terrorists to kill Americans. Any school he financed would have an agenda at brainwashing kids to hate anything non-Muslim. His health care facilities were meant for injured Jihad warriors, not for the general public. And day care centers? Under his idea of extreme Muslim faith women aren’t even people. What do you think, Ms. Murray, Muslim women hop in the SUV, drop the kids off at day care and head to work?

Why do you think those people danced in the streets and celebrated when Afghanistan was liberated by our military? Because they favored living under the tyranny of the Taliban, al-Qaeda and Osama? Do you really believe those people favored living in fear of execution if they strayed off the Osama bin Laden course? We made their lives better by giving themtheir freedom back.

Cue Carl Peterson—

Ms. Murray, sit the &*#@ down and shut the *&#@ up.

How sweet is that?

[RJ]

Originally posted by 2bikemike
Just remember to be that brave next time there is a party!

And hang out in the kitchen. I don't know why, but that's held true from 16 to 44. The kitchen is the place to meet the best people. And you're never left alone. There's always folks coming and going, lots of them stay. You'll make some friends and maybe meet some girls.....they gravitate to the kitchen later. I don't know why that is either.

Wait, I do know. It's cause in the kitchen you're not forced to mingle. The mingling comes to you. Anyway, just go, hang out in the kitchen. It works.

[Logical]

I just read your thread post and all I can say is that I feel both sympathy and sadness for your situation.

I hope you overcome your paralyzing fear so you will one day be able to enjoy a more complete life. For now enjoy what you enjoy but work on improving your self-esteem.

[2bikemike]

Damn good plan hanging out in the kitchen. I wonder why I never noticed that.

[KcMizzou]

Originally posted by rjintx


And hang out in the kitchen. I don't know why, but that's held true from 16 to 44. The kitchen is the place to meet the best people. And you're never left alone. There's always folks coming and going, lots of them stay. You'll make some friends and maybe meet some girls.....they gravitate to the kitchen later. I don't know why that is either.

Wait, I do know. It's cause in the kitchen you're not forced to mingle. The mingling comes to you. Anyway, just go, hang out in the kitchen. It works.

Dude.. the beer is in the fridge. The fridge is in the kitchen.

[RJ]

Originally posted by KcMizzou


Dude.. the beer is in the fridge. The fridge is in the kitchen.

The beer might be in the keg in the yard but things still come to the kitchen. The kitchen is somehow the center of every home. And the girls keep their wine coolers in the fridge.

[FloridaChief]

Originally posted by rjintx
And hang out in the kitchen. I don't know why, but that's held true from 16 to 44. The kitchen is the place to meet the best people. And you're never left alone. There's always folks coming and going, lots of them stay. You'll make some friends and maybe meet some girls.....they gravitate to the kitchen later. I don't know why that is either.

Wait, I do know. It's cause in the kitchen you're not forced to mingle. The mingling comes to you. Anyway, just go, hang out in the kitchen. It works.

True, true. For reasons I don't completely understand, hanging out in the kitchen at a party will always net positive results. I've found from my experiences that the 'Big K' is the revolving point for future interpersonal relationships...

Must be something about the food, drink and standing around the counter that fosters the most promising results....

Go for it next time, Lord Maul....

[Logical]

Originally posted by pHoBiA


Wrong. You didn't go because of YOU and your insecurities. Don't scapegoat the ladies. The sooner you stop lying to yourself, the sooner you "recover" from your anti-social behavior. Why don't you make a concious decision to bust down the door? Once you do that, everything else will be downhill.

When you go back to work, ask the lady how the party turned out. Explain how you wanted and even planned to go, but you felt shy (not because of her or women in general - that will scare her off). She might think that's sweet and make you a project. One thing leads to another.

The important thing is to acknowledge your absence, don't make excuses, be interested, and communicate with her. This could be a perfect opportunity.

Excellent, Exellent advice, pay attention Gochiefs.

[KcMizzou]

Originally posted by rjintx



The beer might be in the keg in the yard but things still come to the kitchen. The kitchen is somehow the center of every home. And the girls keep their wine coolers in the fridge.

good point. actually that might be even better.... drunk guys head outside... drunk girls come to you. works for me

[KcMizzou]

Originally posted by Logical



Excellent, Exellent advice, pay attention Gochiefs.

yeah, he's not bad for a communist, nazi, satanic mod.

Hanging out in the kitchen is GREAT advice.

I'm gonna take it one step further:

I would surmise that less than 20% of women like beer. Many of them drink it in their youth for lack of a viable alternative. If you learn how to make chick drinks (and even provide ingredients), you'll become well known with the ladies. This is a GREAT way to meet women and become well liked.

I'm going to treat you to my own margarita secret recipe.
3 parts mix (any will do, I don't prefer any one over another)
2 part tequilla (More expensive is better, but again, any will do - my preference is Patron $$$)
1 part orange liqueur (Grand Marnier is my preference, but Contreau or comporable will suffice)
splash (1/2 part) lime juice
2-3 parts of the secret ingredient....

7-up, Sprite, Mountain Dew - any of those will work. If that's not handy, water will work. Essentially, EVERY mix is a tad too strong. Water or 7-up dillutes it just enough....

Pour over crushed ice, shake until frothy, serve.

[KcMizzou]

I'm gonna save this lil recipe... not that I need it or anything

Originally posted by KcMizzou
I'm gonna save this lil recipe... not that I need it or anything

Be advised; I rarely measure my ingredients. I approximate. You may need to adjust a little one way or another depending on how strong you like your drinks.

Cosmopolitan is another beverage that will bring the ladies flocking. I heisted this one off the web:

1 1/4 ounces vodka (Citron) (about 2 1/2 tablespoons)
1/4 ounce lime juice (about 3/4 tablespoon)
1/4 ounce triple sec or Cointreau (about 3/4 tablespoon)
1/4 cup cranberry juice
1 cup ice cubes

Garnish: lime twist

In a cocktail shaker combine all ingredients. Shake well and strain into a Martini glass.

Garnish drink with lime.