10 hours of walking as a women in NYC

[Titty Meat]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A

[gblowfish]

When I went to NYC the thing that got me was the violation of personal space. Being nose to nose with people on the Subway, waiting at a stoplight, etc. Just saying hi or good morning or hey there to a nice looking girl you pass on the street, that's harassment? Saying "Hey Babycakes wanna meet the bald headed rat?" THAT's harassment.

[RealSNR]

Originally Posted by Iconic

Better food? Better night life? I know for a fact the live entertainment is better in NYC... Not a lot I can say considering I've never been to Boston.

Personally I would rather raise a family in Boston, but as a single young college kid NYC sounds more appealing.

Anybody who gives a **** about scaled degrees of "night life" in major cities in the US is a pea wit. If you're into night time partying, you're telling me you can't get the exact same shit in Boston that you can get in New York? You can't find clubs/drugs/booze/bars/restaurants/hookers in Boston but you can in New York?

New York's arts and culture are top notch. I recognize that Broadway is something special to NY. I ****ing hate musicals and would much rather see the Met Opera, but it's not like that's really anything special compared to the brilliant opera houses of Europe. And yeah, NY has got some great museums. So does Boston. And Philly. And Chicago. And LA. Christ, even Houston has one of the best art museums I've ever been to.

I'm not saying big cities aren't cool. Big cities are ****ing awesome. But people dig New York over the other big ones for entirely ****ing stupid reasons. That's all I'm saying.

[RealSNR]

Originally Posted by gblowfish

When I went to NYC the thing that got me was the violation of personal space. Being nose to nose with people on the Subway, waiting at a stoplight, etc. Just saying hi or good morning or hey there to a nice looking girl you pass on the street, that's harassment? Saying "Hey Babycakes wanna meet the bald headed rat?" THAT's harassment.

I don't see what the big deal is. Looks harmless to me.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by SNR

Anybody who gives a **** about scaled degrees of "night life" in major cities in the US is a pea wit. If you're into night time partying, you're telling me you can't get the exact same shit in Boston that you can get in New York? You can't find clubs/drugs/booze/bars/restaurants/hookers in Boston but you can in New York?

New York's arts and culture are top notch. I recognize that Broadway is something special to NY. I ****ing hate musicals and would much rather see the Met Opera, but it's not like that's really anything special compared to the brilliant opera houses of Europe. And yeah, NY has got some great museums. So does Boston. And Philly. And Chicago. And LA. Christ, even Houston has one of the best art museums I've ever been to.

I'm not saying big cities aren't cool. Big cities are ****ing awesome. But people dig New York over the other big ones for entirely ****ing stupid reasons. That's all I'm saying.

There are certain cities that give off a vibe to me right when I get there. BOS, LAS, NYC, SFO, among others. None is "better", all are excellent in their own way...

[underEJ]

It is no surprise to me that men don't think there is anything wrong with it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. Please do me a favor for just one minute. Try to see her perspective and really listen to the things I am about to say.

Predators do not generally approach you in a threatening manner and get right down to scaring and or raping you. It starts with a greeting. Maybe followed by a very generic conversation. It generally includes flattery, and at some point you have missed the opportunity to just ignore them, and now they are following you. You are almost to work (or worse home) but you are scared to stop there because then they know where you will be in the future, and you don't want that, so maybe you go someplace like a grocery store hoping they will lose interest. At some point you have to make a statement of disinterest, but there is a risk there too.

Have you misjudged this person? Perhaps, but this is a regular occurrence and it becomes very difficult to discern the benign from the dangerous until it truly becomes scary. Make no mistake, most women have had many of these moments get to the scary zone, and that leads to assuming any instance can become scary.

I know most men are good respectful gentlemen whose intentions are harmless, but women are telling you that they can't tell the difference easily and asking the good ones to stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

[RealSNR]

Originally Posted by vailpass

There are certain cities that give off a vibe to me right when I get there. BOS, LAS, NYC, SFO, among others. None is "better", all are excellent in their own way...

I agree.

[Just Passin' By]

Originally Posted by underEJ

It is no surprise to me that men don't think there is anything wrong with it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. Please do me a favor for just one minute. Try to see her perspective and really listen to the things I am about to say.

Predators do not generally approach you in a threatening manner and get right down to scaring and or raping you. It starts with a greeting. Maybe followed by a very generic conversation. It generally includes flattery, and at some point you have missed the opportunity to just ignore them, and now they are following you. You are almost to work (or worse home) but you are scared to stop there because then they know where you will be in the future, and you don't want that, so maybe you go someplace like a grocery store hoping they will lose interest. At some point you have to make a statement of disinterest, but there is a risk there too.

Have you misjudged this person? Perhaps, but this is a regular occurrence and it becomes very difficult to discern the benign from the dangerous until it truly becomes scary. Make no mistake, most women have had many of these moments get to the scary zone, and that leads to assuming any instance can become scary.

I know most men are good respectful gentlemen whose intentions are harmless, but women are telling you that they can't tell the difference easily and asking the good ones to stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

Shut the **** up. Saying "Hi" is not harassment.

[Sorter]

Originally Posted by underEJ

It is no surprise to me that men don't think there is anything wrong with it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. Please do me a favor for just one minute. Try to see her perspective and really listen to the things I am about to say.

Predators do not generally approach you in a threatening manner and get right down to scaring and or raping you. It starts with a greeting. Maybe followed by a very generic conversation. It generally includes flattery, and at some point you have missed the opportunity to just ignore them, and now they are following you. You are almost to work (or worse home) but you are scared to stop there because then they know where you will be in the future, and you don't want that, so maybe you go someplace like a grocery store hoping they will lose interest. At some point you have to make a statement of disinterest, but there is a risk there too.

Have you misjudged this person? Perhaps, but this is a regular occurrence and it becomes very difficult to discern the benign from the dangerous until it truly becomes scary. Make no mistake, most women have had many of these moments get to the scary zone, and that leads to assuming any instance can become scary.

I know most men are good respectful gentlemen whose intentions are harmless, but women are telling you that they can't tell the difference easily and asking the good ones to stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

Would you be interested in seeing my bald-headed rat?

[RealSNR]

Originally Posted by underEJ

It is no surprise to me that men don't think there is anything wrong with it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. Please do me a favor for just one minute. Try to see her perspective and really listen to the things I am about to say.

Predators do not generally approach you in a threatening manner and get right down to scaring and or raping you. It starts with a greeting. Maybe followed by a very generic conversation. It generally includes flattery, and at some point you have missed the opportunity to just ignore them, and now they are following you. You are almost to work (or worse home) but you are scared to stop there because then they know where you will be in the future, and you don't want that, so maybe you go someplace like a grocery store hoping they will lose interest. At some point you have to make a statement of disinterest, but there is a risk there too.

Have you misjudged this person? Perhaps, but this is a regular occurrence and it becomes very difficult to discern the benign from the dangerous until it truly becomes scary. Make no mistake, most women have had many of these moments get to the scary zone, and that leads to assuming any instance can become scary.

I know most men are good respectful gentlemen whose intentions are harmless, but women are telling you that they can't tell the difference easily and asking the good ones to stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

Some of those comments in the video ARE harassment. A bunch of them aren't.

The woman who put together the video included the benign ones in with the obvious ones. If she's trying to make a point about sexual harassment on the streets, she did a pretty ****ing shitty job of it.

[ModSocks]

Originally Posted by underEJ

It is no surprise to me that men don't think there is anything wrong with it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. Please do me a favor for just one minute. Try to see her perspective and really listen to the things I am about to say.

Predators do not generally approach you in a threatening manner and get right down to scaring and or raping you. It starts with a greeting. Maybe followed by a very generic conversation. It generally includes flattery, and at some point you have missed the opportunity to just ignore them, and now they are following you. You are almost to work (or worse home) but you are scared to stop there because then they know where you will be in the future, and you don't want that, so maybe you go someplace like a grocery store hoping they will lose interest. At some point you have to make a statement of disinterest, but there is a risk there too.

Have you misjudged this person? Perhaps, but this is a regular occurrence and it becomes very difficult to discern the benign from the dangerous until it truly becomes scary. Make no mistake, most women have had many of these moments get to the scary zone, and that leads to assuming any instance can become scary.

I know most men are good respectful gentlemen whose intentions are harmless, but women are telling you that they can't tell the difference easily and asking the good ones to stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

Well then...remind me to never invite YOU to the roofie party, debbie downer.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by SNR

Some of those comments in the video ARE harassment. A bunch of them aren't.

The woman who put together the video included the benign ones in with the obvious ones. If she's trying to make a point about sexual harassment on the streets, she did a pretty ****ing shitty job of it.

So much this.

Plus, she looked pissed off. And/or on a mission. Trying to make a person smile shouldn't be off limits. I bet if she came stomping up to a stop light I was waiting at, with her silence, and brooding stare, I'd say something. I can almost guarantee it. My joke might fall on deaf ears, but I'd enjoy it.

[lcarus]

Originally Posted by Hog Farmer

How would one go about getting their dick stuck in a fishing hook ? You'd have to be really small. Like Guinness record small.

No kiddin. I had a hard time getting my dick stuck in this un.

[Hog's Gone Fishin]

Originally Posted by underEJ

It is no surprise to me that men don't think there is anything wrong with it, otherwise they wouldn't do it. Please do me a favor for just one minute. Try to see her perspective and really listen to the things I am about to say.

Predators do not generally approach you in a threatening manner and get right down to scaring and or raping you. It starts with a greeting. Maybe followed by a very generic conversation. It generally includes flattery, and at some point you have missed the opportunity to just ignore them, and now they are following you. You are almost to work (or worse home) but you are scared to stop there because then they know where you will be in the future, and you don't want that, so maybe you go someplace like a grocery store hoping they will lose interest. At some point you have to make a statement of disinterest, but there is a risk there too.

Have you misjudged this person? Perhaps, but this is a regular occurrence and it becomes very difficult to discern the benign from the dangerous until it truly becomes scary. Make no mistake, most women have had many of these moments get to the scary zone, and that leads to assuming any instance can become scary.

I know most men are good respectful gentlemen whose intentions are harmless, but women are telling you that they can't tell the difference easily and asking the good ones to stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

This really is a good post !

[InChiefsHeaven]

I dunno, I didn't think it was bad, except the dudes that actually followed her.

Here in Nebraska, nobody says shit. Is that good or bad?

Oh, and Too Fat / Omaha

[Ming the Merciless]

Originally Posted by underEJ

stop camouflaging the bad ones by ending verbal harassment by those with no ill intent. Think of it as a favor to your sisters and daughters.

Ok where do you draw the line between verbal harassment and asking a stranger out for coffee or a date...or trying to say hello...or saying "wow you are so beautiful, you just made my whole day better"...you wanna go out sometime? Lets go right now! I know this awesome place for chinese food / coffee/ etccccc

You don't have the right to walk down the street, and not have people say things to you....

I'm sorry...you just don't.

Thats not how it works and I don't think thats how it SHOULD work.

I'm gonna teach my son and daughter to use their best judgment......but I will never teach them to be unfriendly or not reach out to people...Why live life in that way?