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Old 10-18-2016, 10:27 PM  
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This sucks..Divorce. What is the best Online "D" site to use?

Been married for 24 yrs. 2 kids (18 son and 20 daughter), he is going Ks Nat Guard/KU(Pit St) ROTC route to be an officer, she graduates in 3 yrs, major int'l studies (whatever that is) minor bus minor soc.

Wife is German, met whilst in the Army Frankfurt. Did Desert Storm etc . Left Army as Capt and started my own bus. You look back, the hand writing is on the wall.

To get married, I called the Justice of the Peace in E-town (outside Ft Knox)..what does it take to get married. 30 min, $50. Put me down for 1:00pm next day. Next call was to an attourney...what does it take to get divorced. Uncontested...$200 and 30 min. Done. Married..1992.

She is a firecracker...good and bad. Smart and a Neat Freak. Through the yrs there have been many issues. Won't go into them yet. Asked a client which happens to be a Judge, years ago about keeping the kids (after wife went weirdo and put her hand through a glass window). Judge said no way to get kids???

Years flash forward. Stuff happens...small. We have talked D.

Last couple points. She was away in Germany for a month. She is, as mentioned before, a neat freak. I built a stairway into her loft (major deal), sweep, mop, dust, the whole house...cleaned the toilets. First thing she says when she comes home was "you didn't clean the microwave".

Last night, I asked if we could snuggle for a bit. ( We don't sleep in the same room, I snore) She didn't answer, later went up to her room and she is watching a internet German Soap Opera in bed. I asked which is more important...soap or snuggle. Soap. Last straw.

Thus this post.

So, this type of stuff has happened through years and am done. I have 20 yrs left (aged 52) and don't want to do this anymore...

She doesn't love me, I want to and do...but can't. 2 way street. Thus the D word.

Really don't want it to get nasty, nor her. I found a on-line D site. You fill out the forms and take it to a judge.

Which is the best one?

I wanna have fun my next 20 yrs( sex 3 times thus far this year) , not be bitched at. Kids are gone, thus that issue is mute.

Thoughts?

Sorry, I need to see Jamal have more carries to see if he can carry the rock full time. NOW it is a football thread.

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Old 10-19-2016, 08:55 AM   #46
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I'm not a divorce lawyer, and any advice on here is worth what you pay for it, but...

1. Do you and the soon-to-be-ex have any agreement regarding paying for college expenses for the kids?

2. While the kids are 18 and legal adults, have you had any discussion or has there been any though about who they will live with? Any consideration of paying food/housing cost for them?

3. You said you own your own business, I believe. What is your ownership interest worth, and how does that weigh against her German assets. Without question, if your ownership interest is worth alot, and more than her German assets, she may start rethinking this "yours is yours and mine is mine" approach.

You can do a quickie divorce, but you should consult with an attorney. If you have a reasonably good one, I'd be pretty surprised if you come back and say he wasn't worth the money.

Best wishes. Divorce sucks. But sex once every three months sucks worse. F that. Good luck!
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Old 10-19-2016, 08:55 AM   #47
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Old 10-19-2016, 09:22 AM   #48
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Old 10-19-2016, 09:29 AM   #49
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Old 10-19-2016, 09:39 AM   #51
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Old 10-19-2016, 09:40 AM   #52
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Been married for 24 yrs. 2 kids (18 son and 20 daughter), he is going Ks Nat Guard/KU(Pit St) ROTC route to be an officer, she graduates in 3 yrs, major int'l studies (whatever that is) minor bus minor soc.

Wife is German, met whilst in the Army Frankfurt. Did Desert Storm etc . Left Army as Capt and started my own bus. You look back, the hand writing is on the wall.

To get married, I called the Justice of the Peace in E-town (outside Ft Knox)..what does it take to get married. 30 min, $50. Put me down for 1:00pm next day. Next call was to an attourney...what does it take to get divorced. Uncontested...$200 and 30 min. Done. Married..1992.

She is a firecracker...good and bad. Smart and a Neat Freak. Through the yrs there have been many issues. Won't go into them yet. Asked a client which happens to be a Judge, years ago about keeping the kids (after wife went weirdo and put her hand through a glass window). Judge said no way to get kids???

Years flash forward. Stuff happens...small. We have talked D.

Last couple points. She was away in Germany for a month. She is, as mentioned before, a neat freak. I built a stairway into her loft (major deal), sweep, mop, dust, the whole house...cleaned the toilets. First thing she says when she comes home was "you didn't clean the microwave".

Last night, I asked if we could snuggle for a bit. ( We don't sleep in the same room, I snore) She didn't answer, later went up to her room and she is watching a internet German Soap Opera in bed. I asked which is more important...soap or snuggle. Soap. Last straw.

Thus this post.

So, this type of stuff has happened through years and am done. I have 20 yrs left (aged 52) and don't want to do this anymore...

She doesn't love me, I want to and do...but can't. 2 way street. Thus the D word.

Really don't want it to get nasty, nor her. I found a on-line D site. You fill out the forms and take it to a judge.

Which is the best one?

I wanna have fun my next 20 yrs( sex 3 times thus far this year) , not be bitched at. Kids are gone, thus that issue is mute.

Thoughts?

Sorry, I need to see Jamal have more carries to see if he can carry the rock full time. NOW it is a football thread.

Thanks
Legal advice.

She doesn't seem to have a lot of emotional investment, and I don't know what assets you have.

Does she have means to support herself post D? If no- assets are going to become a fight.

If assets and finances aren't going to be a problem, & obviously no problem with custody issues, go the cheapest route and be free, but that's a rare situation.

Sorry to hear. I know it's tough, and the biggest adjustment is getting used to new habits and routines no longer with a partner. I'd savor being single and take a break from even thinking about dating and find out who you are, what you like, etc.. A quarter century away from being single and putting family / kids first, I think you are going to find there's a lot of new discovery of your own and your interests and drive.
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Old 10-19-2016, 11:02 AM   #57
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Old 10-19-2016, 11:06 AM   #58
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Gotcha

Same boat for twenty some odd years. I am done, been done for years, but didn't have the balls to do it. I had a dream about it last night..confirmation.

Basic point, hit 52 last week. I got 20 yrs left. Don't wanna do this for another 20 yrs.

Then an ephanany (sp) hit...don't have too. Kids are gone etc. Change is hard, but the end result a lot of fun and no bitch to worry about hounding me.
Hey man, at least now custody isn't a thing. Just houses and stuff. With any luck, she goes back to Germany and you keep the house.
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Sorry to hear about your situation man. Good on you for deciding it was time to do something about it. That's never an easy thing to do - but you'll probably be very glad you did it once you are through it. The whole, "life is too short" thing.

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I filed my own divorce with an online service. It worked pretty well, although there were several filings that had recent rule changes that the site was unaware of and I had to refile. The court clerk was super helpful in making sure I had the correct filings before putting it in front of the judge. I'd say it was a real success overall, but we weren't fighting about anything. It also helped that california is a no fault state so there is no question of how the division will take place. It is 50/50, no exceptions. Check the statutes for your state in case there are complications. I used legalzoom. 275 dollars plus the extra 85 dollar filing fee for the rule change updates I had to refile. Not a bad deal.
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