Prayer Request I need help fast, guys.

bowener · 02-19-2013, 01:15 AM

I have recently suspected my brother has been into drugs (lost his job, erratic behavior, money troubles, poor hygiene...), and I just found all the evidence I need in his pocket. Two hypodermic needles and heroin (what I presume is Heroin). He is passed out in my parents living room right now. I do not know what the **** I am supposed to do. Our stepdad pretty much despises him for how he treats our mother, and I really do not want to have to tell her this. I also do not want to see him in jail, since that will pretty much ruin his future, and not to mention how it will hurt his chances of getting to have anything to do with his daughter again. I am at a complete loss right now. I have no idea what to do or who to talk to.

I emailed a friend that is a therapist to ask him for information on who to contact and how to go about this. **** this sucks. Anybody here have experience with this at all?? Please help me.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:17 AM

Call 911 get help for him. He needs help above what you can do for him He will forgive you in time but his life is what matters now.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:19 AM

The fear I have for him is overdosing on that shit & You couldn't handle that no one can when it's family. Get help now. Call somebody.

bowener · 02-19-2013, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by KC Tattoo

Call 911 get help for him. He needs help above what you can do for him He will forgive you in time but his life is what matters now.

****! What happens to him when they get him?

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by bowener

****! What happens to him when they get him?

Don't worry about it save his life then take it one day at a time.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:21 AM

They can get him treatment and you did your part. It's going be up to him to stay clean and sober but at least you can show love for him in support to stop ****ing himself up. It shouldn't be tollerated. Call hot lines to get help

bowener · 02-19-2013, 01:22 AM

This is going to destroy my parents. I'm going to throw him in my car and cdrive him there. I'm ****ing scared
thank you

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:22 AM

First just take a deep breath for yourself and keep cool. stay collective with what your doing.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:23 AM

Prayers sent stay calm. I'd call the ambulance.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:24 AM

they can put him in a wing at the hospital for cases like this he does need the medical help to get over the withdrawels and they can be very bad. Hang tough praying for you .

02-19-2013, 01:24 AM

Here's the rub. You don't need help. He does. You want him to be helped. He does not. You can't fix this problem. He has to fix it. Drug addicts don't want help until they hit rock bottom. The only thing you can do to "help" is push him towards rock bottom. That includes doing things that will be uncomfortable for you, him, your family, and your relationship:
1. You could notify authorities.
2. You could swipe his stash. Tough to get high when you don't have the goods.
3. You could tell your family.
4. You could call 911 and tell them he OD'ed.

You're going to be forced to do something that sucks or do nothing at all and wait for him to destroy his life even more or perhaps even kill somebody or himself. I don't envy you this position but it's probably not your fault and unless you have big brass ones, there's nothing you can do about it.

**Lumpy** · 02-19-2013, 01:27 AM

Damn. That's a tough situation. He definitely needs to get support from his family.

It's one thing if he's just high. You let him come down, (move him to a bed, put him on his side). But, like others mentioned, if you think that he has overdosed, you have no choice but to get help immediately! Try to keep as calm as possible.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:27 AM

He won't have to go to jail but he needs help regardless. What he is doing to his body is far worse than jail. He can regain dignity in time it takes time so a short time getting put in a safe place is a good idea and help keep your mind at ease too.

'Hamas' Jenkins · 02-19-2013, 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Here's the rub. You don't need help. He does. You want him to be helped. He does not. You can't fix this problem. He has to fix it. Drug addicts don't want help until they hit rock bottom. The only thing you can do to "help" is push him towards rock bottom. That includes doing things that will be uncomfortable for you, him, your family, and your relationship:
1. You could notify authorities.
2. You could swipe his stash. Tough to get high when you don't have the goods.
3. You could tell your family.
4. You could call 911 and tell them he OD'ed.

You're going to be forced to do something that sucks or do nothing at all and wait for him to destroy his life even more or perhaps even kill somebody or himself. I don't envy you this position but it's probably not your fault and unless you have big brass ones, there's nothing you can do about it.

Exactly this. You have to love him enough to do something that will make him hate you in the short term.

Best of luck.

Rasputin · 02-19-2013, 01:31 AM

I don't know if I would tell the family anything untill he gets a few days clean and sober. Family can make things worse not that they mean too but because it's harder on them to deal with. They need to know but not right away imo. Get professional help first then let them counsel you and the family how to best help your brother.

02-19-2013, 01:15 AM
bowener BAMF! Join Date: Nov 2007 Casino cash: $9549897	I need help fast, guys. I have recently suspected my brother has been into drugs (lost his job, erratic behavior, money troubles, poor hygiene...), and I just found all the evidence I need in his pocket. Two hypodermic needles and heroin (what I presume is Heroin). He is passed out in my parents living room right now. I do not know what the ** I am supposed to do. Our stepdad pretty much despises him for how he treats our mother, and I really do not want to have to tell her this. I also do not want to see him in jail, since that will pretty much ruin his future, and not to mention how it will hurt his chances of getting to have anything to do with his daughter again. I am at a complete loss right now. I have no idea what to do or who to talk to. I emailed a friend that is a therapist to ask him for information on who to contact and how to go about this. ** this sucks. Anybody here have experience with this at all?? Please help me.
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02-19-2013, 01:17 AM	#2
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $3535421	Call 911 get help for him. He needs help above what you can do for him He will forgive you in time but his life is what matters now.
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02-19-2013, 01:19 AM	#3
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $3535421	The fear I have for him is overdosing on that shit & You couldn't handle that no one can when it's family. Get help now. Call somebody.
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02-19-2013, 01:21 AM	#6
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $3535421	They can get him treatment and you did your part. It's going be up to him to stay clean and sober but at least you can show love for him in support to stop ****ing himself up. It shouldn't be tollerated. Call hot lines to get help
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02-19-2013, 01:22 AM	#7
bowener BAMF! Join Date: Nov 2007 Casino cash: $9549897	This is going to destroy my parents. I'm going to throw him in my car and cdrive him there. I'm ***ing scared thank you __________________ Main Entry: bowe·ner Pronunciation: \ˈbō-nər\ Function: noun* Date: circa 2007
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02-19-2013, 01:23 AM	#9
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $3535421	Prayers sent stay calm. I'd call the ambulance.
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02-19-2013, 01:24 AM	#10
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $3535421	they can put him in a wing at the hospital for cases like this he does need the medical help to get over the withdrawels and they can be very bad. Hang tough praying for you .
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02-19-2013, 01:24 AM	#11
Phobia Guest Casino cash: $	Here's the rub. You don't need help. He does. You want him to be helped. He does not. You can't fix this problem. He has to fix it. Drug addicts don't want help until they hit rock bottom. The only thing you can do to "help" is push him towards rock bottom. That includes doing things that will be uncomfortable for you, him, your family, and your relationship: 1. You could notify authorities. 2. You could swipe his stash. Tough to get high when you don't have the goods. 3. You could tell your family. 4. You could call 911 and tell them he OD'ed. You're going to be forced to do something that sucks or do nothing at all and wait for him to destroy his life even more or perhaps even kill somebody or himself. I don't envy you this position but it's probably not your fault and unless you have big brass ones, there's nothing you can do about it.
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02-19-2013, 01:27 AM	#12
Lumpy Supporter Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: On a yellow brick road. Casino cash: $9464900	Damn. That's a tough situation. He definitely needs to get support from his family. It's one thing if he's just high. You let him come down, (move him to a bed, put him on his side). But, like others mentioned, if you think that he has overdosed, you have no choice but to get help immediately! Try to keep as calm as possible. Last edited by Lumpy; 02-19-2013 at 01:39 AM..
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02-19-2013, 01:31 AM	#15
Rasputin Tip of the hat LIV Champs Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ks Casino cash: $3535421	I don't know if I would tell the family anything untill he gets a few days clean and sober. Family can make things worse not that they mean too but because it's harder on them to deal with. They need to know but not right away imo. Get professional help first then let them counsel you and the family how to best help your brother.
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