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Five Stages of Grief, ChiefsPlanet-Style

1. Denial

This first stage of grieving helps us to survive the loss. In this stage, the world becomes meaningless and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial. We go numb. We wonder how we can go on, if we can go on, why we should go on. We try to find a way to simply get through each day. Denial and shock help us to cope and make survival possible. Denial helps us to pace our feelings of grief. There is a grace in denial. It is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle.

As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process. You are becoming stronger, and the denial is beginning to fade. But as you proceed, all the feelings you were denying begin to surface.

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Seriously, Andy Reid has to be able to explain this to Hunt.

He can't sell Hunt on another retread and leave it at that. He simply can't.
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It can't be.

Before he hired ***** he was talking about QBs in the first round.

***** ****ed him over. Now Reid?

Can't happen. Won't happen.

Won't happen.
2. Anger

Anger is a necessary stage of the healing process. Be willing to feel your anger, even though it may seem endless. The more you truly feel it, the more it will begin to dissipate and the more you will heal. There are many other emotions under the anger and you will get to them in time, but anger is the emotion we are most used to managing. The truth is that anger has no limits. It can extend not only to your friends, the doctors, your family, yourself and your loved one who died, but also to God. You may ask, “Where is God in this?

Underneath anger is pain, your pain. It is natural to feel deserted and abandoned, but we live in a society that fears anger. Anger is strength and it can be an anchor, giving temporary structure to the nothingness of loss. At first grief feels like being lost at sea: no connection to anything. Then you get angry at someone, maybe a person who didn’t attend the funeral, maybe a person who isn’t around, maybe a person who is different now that your loved one has died. Suddenly you have a structure – - your anger toward them. The anger becomes a bridge over the open sea, a connection from you to them. It is something to hold onto; and a connection made from the strength of anger feels better than nothing.We usually know more about suppressing anger than feeling it. The anger is just another indication of the intensity of your love.

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There is absolutely no positive spin on this.

This will kill fan enthusiasm. This will increase fan hostility. This will mire this team even further into merchandising obscurity.

But even aside from all that, this is a shit football decision.

WE HAVE A DIRECT PRECEDENT THAT THIS FORMULA DOES NOT WORK.
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ONCE AGAIN

WE HAVE ZERO QUARTERBACKS

NONE

THERE ARE NONE IN FREE AGENCY

THERE ARE VERY FEW IN THE DRAFT

THE TWO GUYS WE HAVE ON THIS ROSTER, WE DO NOT WANT

WE NEED THREE NEW QBS

WHICH MEANS ALEX SMITH IS ONLY 1/3 THE SOLUTION

HE CAN BE BENCHED. HE CAN BE SUBJECT TO COMPETITION.

AND THE #1 PICK CAN GO TO GENO SMITH

FOR GOD SAKES

WE SAID WE WANTED A GM AND A COACH THAT KNEW THE QB WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT PLAYER ON THE FIELD

A GM AND A COACH THAT WOULD BOOST UP THE DEPTH CHART AT QB

SO WHAT DO THEY DO

THEY LET ALL THREE GUYS WALK

BRING IN ALEX SMITH

USE THE FIRST OVERALL ON A QB

AND FIND A DEVELOPMENTAL GUY THAT THEY LIKE

THIS SHOULD BE WELCOMED AS A POSITIVE DEVELOPMENT

YOU DO NOT TRADE A 4TH FOR A GUY AND THINK HE WILL LEAD YOUR TEAM FOR YEARS AND YEARS TO SUPER BOWL AFTER SUPER BOWL

YOU TRADE A 4TH TO A GUY WHO FITS YOUR OFFENSE AND CAN PLAY IF YOU NEED HIM TO

GOD

****ING

DAMMIT
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I HATE THIS GODDAMN TEAM.

SERIOUSLY.

**** THIS GODDAMN TEAM.
3. Bargaining

Before a loss, it seems like you will do anything if only your loved one would be spared. “Please God, ” you bargain, “I will never be angry at my wife again if you’ll just let her live.” After a loss, bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. “What if I devote the rest of my life to helping others. Then can I wake up and realize this has all been a bad dream?”

We become lost in a maze of “If only…” or “What if…” statements. We want life returned to what is was; we want our loved one restored. We want to go back in time: find the tumor sooner, recognize the illness more quickly, stop the accident from happening…if only, if only, if only. Guilt is often bargaining’s companion. The “if onlys” cause us to find fault in ourselves and what we “think” we could have done differently. We may even bargain with the pain. We will do anything not to feel the pain of this loss. We remain in the past, trying to negotiate our way out of the hurt. People often think of the stages as lasting weeks or months. They forget that the stages are responses to feelings that can last for minutes or hours as we flip in and out of one and then another. We do not enter and leave each individual stage in a linear fashion. We may feel one, then another and back again to the first one.

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Here's the deal:

Trading a 4th for Alex Smith and having him compete with Geno Smith is not unreasonable.
4. Depression

After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and grief enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever. It’s important to understand that this depression is not a sign of mental illness. It is the appropriate response to a great loss. We withdraw from life, left in a fog of intense sadness, wondering, perhaps, if there is any point in going on alone? Why go on at all? Depression after a loss is too often seen as unnatural: a state to be fixed, something to snap out of. The first question to ask yourself is whether or not the situation you’re in is actually depressing. The loss of a loved one is a very depressing situation, and depression is a normal and appropriate response. To not experience depression after a loved one dies would be unusual. When a loss fully settles in your soul, the realization that your loved one didn’t get better this time and is not coming back is understandably depressing. If grief is a process of healing, then depression is one of the many necessary steps along the way.

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You see, in life, we can't all have parades thrown for us.

Some of us have to be on the sidewalk, with sticky cotton-candy'd fingers, sloppily fingering boogers out of our noses while the truly fortunate stride down the street in front of us.

Such is the fate of the Chiefs fan.

As life finds time to reward some, and deny others, we will eternally exist as wallpaper.

And we'll all look back on days like today and think... Remember that one time we traded two draft picks away for Alex Smith and told ourselves he was The Guy? Why did we do that?

And we'll laugh, our chuckles heavied with the suppression of sorrow. The lines in our skin will deepen from the despair.

And people will wonder... how could they live like that. Who would choose that life.

*pats you on the head*

I'll tell you who, sonny boy.

The nose-pickers on the sidewalk, cheering on the parade.
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I'm about 6-deep on a pack of Three Blind Mice, a fantastic stout brew from a Springfield brewery.

I am feeling great.

Freed, really. Like, I honestly never have to give a shit about the Chiefs again.

The blinders have been taken from my eyes, and I can view the world as it is.

A hostile world full of barron gestures of hope, masking what is certain to be an inevitable march towards obscurity.

Aliens will discover our civilization a millenia from now, long after we've annihilated the world with nuclear winter.

They'll puzzle over our society as they try to put the pieces together.

What did they do all day? Study outer space? Try to improve their ability to provide healthcare for their children?

The sad truth, of course, is that some of us did. But most of us spent an insane amount of time following an organization of no consequence as it shat on us day after day after day.

These are the days of history, soon to be forgotten. We are the answer to questions the future will never ask.
5. Acceptance

Acceptance is often confused with the notion of being “all right” or “OK” with what has happened. This is not the case. Most people don’t ever feel OK or all right about the loss of a loved one. This stage is about accepting the reality that our loved one is physically gone and recognizing that this new reality is the permanent reality. We will never like this reality or make it OK, but eventually we accept it. We learn to live with it. It is the new norm with which we must learn to live. We must try to live now in a world where our loved one is missing. In resisting this new norm, at first many people want to maintain life as it was before a loved one died. In time, through bits and pieces of acceptance, however, we see that we cannot maintain the past intact. It has been forever changed and we must readjust. We must learn to reorganize roles, re-assign them to others or take them on ourselves.

Finding acceptance may be just having more good days than bad ones. As we begin to live again and enjoy our life, we often feel that in doing so, we are betraying our loved one. We can never replace what has been lost, but we can make new connections, new meaningful relationships, new inter-dependencies. Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change, we grow, we evolve. We may start to reach out to others and become involved in their lives. We invest in our friendships and in our relationship with ourselves. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.

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Well here we are.

In the coming draft, we can assume one thing: if Branden Albert is not resigned by draft time, the Chiefs will draft a left tackle with their first pick in the 2013 NFL Draft, whether they trade down or not. It will be such a gigantic hole that it will have to be filled with our 1st rounder, be that pick 1.1 or 1.7 or whatever.

So let's make ourselves familiar with Luke Joeckel, Eric Fisher, and Lane Johnson, all three of them candidates to be that pick. That way, we can have more informed drawn out conversations between all the Joeckel and Johnson backers this draft season! What joy!

First up, of course, is Texas A&M left tackle Luke Joeckel.
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Old 03-02-2013, 09:51 PM   #2
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I'.m somewhere between stage 2 and 3. I will never get to Stage #5, I think. I will remain in Stage 4 for years, I suspect, crushed by the lost opportunity and hope.

The only way I get to stage 5 is if Alex Smith sells his soul to Satan for two seasons of Montana magic. Then, I can accept it -- though it will never justify what we gave up.
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Old 03-04-2013, 10:17 AM   #3
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This thread deserves more attention. I'm moving it to the Lounge.
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Old 03-04-2013, 10:20 AM   #4
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Old 03-04-2013, 10:28 AM   #5
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I'm waffling between 2 and 3. I'm bargaining with myself that if we take Geno at number 1 it will mean that there is some acknowledgement that Alex Smith is not the answer to the QB question. If we don't keep Albert and Bowe, and take a LT at #1 then I'm going to be stuck at 2 for awhile.
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Old 03-04-2013, 10:31 AM   #6
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. I've been referencing this exact thing since that trade rumor began. I deserve all the credit!
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**** this shit. And if they ****ing trade a good tackle for an unknown and #1 overall I'm killing everybody.
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I'm between 2-3 on the hope that they take Geno at #1 and move me to at least 4-5
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