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Originally Posted by Rain Man
I'm probably understating it a little bit. Here's the situation, with some details changed for confidentiality.
An acquaintance of mine has a Class-D friend/co-worker (maybe Class C, not sure) who is up for a promotion at work to a vacant position and is kind of the default choice (and wants it). These two people are in different work groups but have an overlap in their social circles.
However, he has a Class-A friend who is out of work, and he's been going all out to influence the management team to give the Class-A the job, and it's more out of friendship than any work reason. The Class-D friend is aware of this and is doing a slow burn, and word is spreading among the social circle to the detriment of my acquaintance.
I don't think he means harm to the Class-D and is just stoked about helping out his Class-A homie, but he is harming the Class-D and I think he's causing himself some damage in the larger social circle. It's kind of painful to watch, though I'm distant enough that I'm not going to get involved.
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IMO, letting the A know about the job and even putting a good word in for him isn't out of bounds in that case, but really going all out might be bad form. Putting myself in the D's shoes, I wouldn't be upset if a coworker recommended an out of work best friend for a position that I was looking at, unless perhaps they were looking at bending some rules, like if the position was up for internal employees only.
If I was the D, I wouldn't destroy the relationship if the guy's friend got the job... a lot of positions are about who you know, and just as I've used connections to help land jobs, I've probably been passed over for someone with better connections.