A little blog I wrote today.
Does anyone else thing there’s a line to be found between “waiting and letting things happen to you” and “if you want something to happen, you have to make it happen”?
I so often hear from people that I need to just be patient and let things happen. I get what they’re saying, but what they don’t know is that I’ve been waiting for so long that it seems that it’s never going to happen.
At the same time, I hear from people that sometimes you just have to go out and make things happen. Whenever I do this, I always end up trying too hard, and then I get frustrated whenever trying too hard leads to the same things not happening.
I honestly believe that, at the very core of things, this is ultimately why I’m still single. I either wait and watch as other people end up with guys that I’m interested in, or I try too hard and end up coming across as clingy.
I’ve realized other past mistakes: wanting to feel needed, thinking I could change or “fix” people, changing who I am in order to be the type of person they want, etc. I really feel that I’ve hopefully fixed those problems. I now need to feel wanted, I’ve learned to accept people based on who they are right now, and I will never be anything but me.
This most recent problem, finding that line, is proving to be rather difficult. Do I play the waiting game? What if I end up waiting on one and overlook someone else in the process? At least if I go for it, I’ll end up knowing for sure. However, going for it typically lands me in the friend zone.
I get too comfortable with people too quickly, and I can never listen whenever I’m telling myself to shut up. I’m too trusting. I let people in on private details of my life too easily (apparently, lol). These are just part of who I am, though. Surely, there’s someone out there who’s able to look past them, or, better yet, accept them. Anyway, I seem to have gone off on a tangent.
Any advice for the relationship challenged?