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Originally Posted by Buck
OK.
She's not. It doesn't matter. Its really not feasible, unfortunately. The fact that an actual girl that I would consider having a relationship with (not just a bar random) said this stuff makes me feel better about myself.
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She may not be intentionally doing it to **** with you, but there's a reason that she chose to make that comment when she was 3000 miles away. At least she did, though. That's a start.
You remind me of one of my best friends. He was always a great guy. He was extremely smart, funny, nice, a talented musician, had a great job, wanted to settle down and have a family, etc. etc. etc. However, he was 300+ pounds and never got the girls he wanted.
He lacked confidence and was convinced he was going to die alone, and he was convinced that his weight was the problem. So he lost 75 pounds or so and expected that to make everything better, but it didn't. I had to have a heart to heart with him and explain that the weight loss was only helpful to the extent that he had more confidence in himself. Women crave confidence. Hell, even fake confidence will get you by for a while until you have enough success to gain actual, genuine confidence.
A year and a half later, he's dating a chick that would have been WAY out of his league in his mind before; very good looking, smart, fun, cool, makes great money, and is totally into him. Now, she wants to get married, and all is good.
I don't know if you have a future with this broad or not. If nothing else, hopefully it makes you realize that there are women out there who are interested in what you have to offer. Don't fall into the self-sabotaging trap of thinking that she is the only worthwhile female who would ever want to be with you.