[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by rico

Ok so here is what happened to me.

The wife and I had been mutually pissing each other off and pushing each other off for about a year. It finally reached a head when she filed for divorce in May and hired the biggest shark of a custody attorney. The lady has a reputation for taking fools (men and women she represents) to the cleaners... and we went to a Chiefs game with her (vs. Steelers this year where her and my wife hit it off well). She is a Chiefs fan...a big one...uncommon for SEI. Her and I didn’t hit it off well. There was a moment she got upset with me because she had a booger hanging on her nose and I (thinking I was doing her a favor) told her about it and she got pissed. I told her, “might as well tell you so no one else sees it.” And then she had a friend meet up with her 2nd half and she kept saying snippy things about my wife and my wife wasn’t hearing it...but I was. After the game, I was already upset by the outcome of the game and this attorney and her loud friend and a couple others were loitering outside laughing. Her friend made another snippy comment about my wife being ditzy and it pissed me off and I was like, “Wife, let’s get away from these dumb****s.” And the lawyers bf (great dude) reaches out his hand to shake my hand and I looked at him and was like “**** off.” Overreaction on my part for sure. He didn’t do anything wrong. I explained on the way back how this gal was clowning in her for an hour and she didn’t know. Anyways, this attorney gal remembered that...and didn’t like me. And she was representing my wife...and again, this attorney is a known shark.

Got the decree and she took me to the cleaners...because I work 3rd shift (another reason to hate 3rd shift). I was fighting for split custody, she was fighting for primary physical care and child support...and she was awarded it on the temporary decree. I was only to see my kids every other weekend as long as I’m not working (I work most weekends) and was ordered to pay her $265 a week in child support... and I had a good attorney myself. This 3rd shift thing works against you big time with custody. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

I thought my life was over. 5 minutes after reading this, I received a call from my wife and she was crying. I congratulated her for taking me to the cleaners. She informed me that’s why she was crying. She told me she loved me and couldn’t do that to me or the kids and that she’d drop the divorce if I took her to the courthouse on the condition we go to marriage counseling (something I always procrastinated, unfortunately...but not now). I was there in 15 minutes. Divorce is dropped. Lot of money wasted, but it’s dropped. And we’ve never gotten along better. And marriage counseling has us on the right track. I’m really gonna put some left effort in making this work...she could have totally eaten me up alive and refused to when it came down to it.

I am happy.

A lot happened between the time we separated and got back together on both ends, but we are just gonna have to forgive and move on. It is possible.

But yeah that’s why I’ve been incognito for a while.

Glad it worked out. Money can be made again but the kid thing is a big deal. Good to hear you won't lose all that time.