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Originally Posted by lewdog
How long did you live together?
Did the living together start all the issues that came up or were there some before moving in together?
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There were slight warning signs when we began the moving process and then some of those signs got worse when we were living together. Even though I cared for her a great deal and still do, being around her every day instead of just two or three days a week, I just began to see her more as a friend than a lover. It had only been three months living together, and so I knew the connection wasn't going to be strong enough to go the long haul. I wasn't too fond of her family, either.
I knew eventually the urge to cheat on her would be stronger than my dedication to her and I couldn't hurt her in that way. And putting her through our upcoming family barbecue and vacation would be unfair, so I made the move before those events bonded us even more.
I was very robotic and unemotional about the breakup, due to advice I had been given. This seemed to hurt her, but I knew it was the only way to do it given that her emotions would be running wild.
This is tough for her because in a lot of ways because she was always very dependent on me, and this was really her first real long-term relationship. She gave me a sterling silver pocket watch with the most precious inscription I've ever read. It was something a wife gives to a husband though, not a girlfriend to her boyfriend.
So I always knew she loved me more than I loved her. I
did love her though. So when my gut told me that love wasn't going to last forever I had to do the right thing. It's best for both of us long term, even if she is now suffering in the short term.
She will find someone else because she's too great a girl not to. Once she realizes that in six months I'm sure she'll be fine.
Interestingly enough we didn't fight one time in 18 months.