This sucks..Divorce. What is the best Online "D" site to use?
 

Been married for 24 yrs. 2 kids (18 son and 20 daughter), he is going Ks Nat Guard/KU(Pit St) ROTC route to be an officer, she graduates in 3 yrs, major int'l studies (whatever that is) minor bus minor soc.

Wife is German, met whilst in the Army Frankfurt. Did Desert Storm etc . Left Army as Capt and started my own bus. You look back, the hand writing is on the wall.

To get married, I called the Justice of the Peace in E-town (outside Ft Knox)..what does it take to get married. 30 min, $50. Put me down for 1:00pm next day. Next call was to an attourney...what does it take to get divorced. Uncontested...$200 and 30 min. Done. Married..1992.

She is a firecracker...good and bad. Smart and a Neat Freak. Through the yrs there have been many issues. Won't go into them yet. Asked a client which happens to be a Judge, years ago about keeping the kids (after wife went weirdo and put her hand through a glass window). Judge said no way to get kids???

Years flash forward. Stuff happens...small. We have talked D.

Last couple points. She was away in Germany for a month. She is, as mentioned before, a neat freak. I built a stairway into her loft (major deal), sweep, mop, dust, the whole house...cleaned the toilets. First thing she says when she comes home was "you didn't clean the microwave".

Last night, I asked if we could snuggle for a bit. ( We don't sleep in the same room, I snore) She didn't answer, later went up to her room and she is watching a internet German Soap Opera in bed. I asked which is more important...soap or snuggle. Soap. Last straw.

Thus this post.

So, this type of stuff has happened through years and am done. I have 20 yrs left (aged 52) and don't want to do this anymore...

She doesn't love me, I want to and do...but can't. 2 way street. Thus the D word.

Really don't want it to get nasty, nor her. I found a on-line D site. You fill out the forms and take it to a judge.

Which is the best one?

I wanna have fun my next 20 yrs( sex 3 times thus far this year:() , not be bitched at. Kids are gone, thus that issue is mute.

Thoughts?

Sorry, I need to see Jamal have more carries to see if he can carry the rock full time. NOW it is a football thread.

Thanks

Sorry to hear that. I really wish you the best.

also, it DOES get easier.

Hire a competent lawyer.

Don't **** around.

Look in forward to hearing your stories of plowing hidden fatty 4s on POFish..so will steer you there.

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I have no advice to give you. Married 26 years and no mention of D-word. I would lawyer up though if I was in your situation.

I'm not sure I'd trust an online site for something like that. Everything you own will be on the table.

Oh, and pics of her since she'll soon be single?

No clue

Understand. Have a friend that did the "D" and did the docs on line. They both knew it was for the best and didn't have to pay an lawyer. Went to the Judge and done.

An aside...I had my G-moms trust updated to add 2 other trustees. To add 2 sentences to amend the original doc cost $375! Lord knows what it would cost to do a divorce?

I have the wife over a barrel. First we both agree, we don't want to be together. The kids are out of the picture. If we split 50/50, then I have rights to her land/property over in Germany...fair amount of assets.

We signed a piece of paper that said "Yours in Germany is yours, mine in US is mine". This was in our basement. Not notarized just a piece of paper.

In the end, why spend a boat load on lawyers if we agree? If it turns nasty, I have spoken to my attorney to help.

Thus the best web site for the docs.

You wanna see pics of a 49 yr old?

I think she is still ~hot~, you should have seen her when she was 25:drool:

Basically, she was the only travel agent on post with 20,000 men, Freidburg, same post the Elvis did his tour. I landed her. It has been a nice ride, kids etc...but both agree the ride is over.

Thus simple docs, no attorney's (useless money), but will have my attorney on retainer is stuff flies.

Again, best site?

**** her - don't give her any more of your attention - time to move on if she's not cherishing you in the same manner. Seriously you deserve better!

yuppers

now it is apathy

I spent a lot of my time trying to force, shape, create basically FIND ways for a person to like me - It's NOT worth it and it NEVER works - no more of that - once you learn that lesson - You'll never settle for anything less. I'm not being a wise-guy - I'm only trying to help!

:clap: Sage advice right here